How many is to many?

You bring up some great points, but how much space or money or time is enough. Obviously those things get less and less with each child. Is it enough space if 2 children need to share a room? or enough money if the second, third, fourth child have to wear hand me downs or enough time when you only get to go to child A's baseball games once a week instead of every day because you have to also go to child B's piano practice and child C's dance class..... The world seems to have a fairly negative view on large families. We have 5 bedrooms, even with only 1 child my kids got hand me downs, and I don't see any reason not to use something that is perfectly fine just because it isn't new, and the fact that if your family is big enough someone is always there for each of the children all of the time I don't see that as being a big deal either. My family on the other hand acts like I'm short changing my 3 older kids by wanting more.

I have nothing against hand me downs, as my children lived and my youngest still does live in them. They are a great money saver and most of the time children dont even wear them enough to consider them worn. With having enough room, seems as you do. I have nothing against larger families, I am the youngest of 6, but in my case things were odd in the household because of the huge age differences. All but one of my siblings could be my parents, so I felt short changed in having the brotherly/sisterly bonds, but never from my parents. Some people just know they want more and need more children, and if you can provide the basic needs for those children, then as i said earlier, go for it. With your side of the family, they will eventually come around when a baby, or two comes along, it's something they will have to accept and respect, even if they don't agree. Hope all your baby wishes come true, best of luck!

I think part of the "worlds" opinion on large families is that couples have them then live off state assistance. THAT IS NOT TRUE. I shopped at thrift stores and received hand me downs on clothing from cousins or friends that their children out grew them. Recently I boxed up a whole bunch of shoes and shipped those off to a friend of mine who has 6 children. I think there is a lot of negativity on large families because people think they are being provided for by state assistance. As for short changing your children. I know a few of mine felt that way, but even with the age differences, they are still fairly close. Especially the youngest 5.

Hello, I can definitely relate to you wanting a big family! Though I only have one brother and one sister both younger than me, I have a family so big that there are some members that I don't even know where my husband has 20 family members total. We have 2 girls now (3 and 4) and a baby on the way. I used to say I only wanted two kids, a boy and a girl... it don't work that way! We are still hoping for a boy but we both agree that we will put no number on the amount we will have. When we are done we will feel complete and make the decision no sooner. My husbands grandma/mom is not happy that we are having this one and is begging us to get fixed afterwards but like I told her... until she is raising them, feeding them, paying for them or feels that we can't take care of them she has no room to be heard or to say anything. She lived her life and had 5 kids now it is our turn to live ours and have ours. My husband makes great money we have plenty of love and time to give and high expectations for our life and our kids. We are getting ready to build a new home, my oldest daughter is getting ready for school and wants to play t-ball and my youngest wants to dance. I myself have a love for dogs and am starting a kennel for breeding. The bigger the family the more love to share and the more to do and be proud of. If you are up for it then nothing else matters, its your life and you only get to live it once so have as many kids as you can handle or afford, make sure you can expand yourself and your love to meet their needs and raise them the best you can. You will then have made an even bigger family by the time you count grandkids and start your own traditions to never be forgotten. I could keep going on and on but im going to stop now! lol.

You said it very well. I can't wait to have my kids married and only hope they marry well, (as in someone i can treat like my own child even if grown) and have lots of children of their own. I'm way to young to even want to be grandma, 28 this year, but my family is small and not close, so I hope to someday thanks to my kids be able to have that kind of family i always wanted. i have to admit though the age gap we have going worries me some, my oldest will be 10 this year, I don't want to be having kids still when he is which means I probably won't have more than 4 more

Yes i know he can get unfixed. I just think i have had all that i can handle. I love my girls but i had them so close & i personally dont think i could handle another one. Good luck to you. You sound like a wonderful mommy! I hope you have your six.:)

You know should you ever change your mind your husband can get "un" fixed. That's actually what started this for me I just have my tubes UN tied, so we can try for a few more and I've very excited about that.