Help!

Honestly, I would much rather live in a house. There is the yard up keep however, so one must be prepared to take care of that, seasonally. Plus a house requires a paint job every five or so years unless it has synthetic siding but that too has to be replaced occasionally. Since the sister would be paying 50% of the cost, that would be a great opportunity to save some money. You could then get that bedroom and living room sets :D Nothing is for ever usually, especially when it comes to sharing living accommodations. Think about what you are getting into. I mean if you were to share with the sister and then a year or so down the road you want to get into your apartment, where will that leave the sister, right? Is that something you want to get into? Perhaps just deal with it when the time comes. I bet the sister would really appreciate the opportunity to share with you two. Having a baby is a big deal. I don't think that being gay is a big deal. How is the sister with that? A far as pros and cons go, it is important to list. Just do it and you will get your answer loud and clear. This is so important and is something I do often when I am having difficulty choosing what to do. recently I was faced with a similar tough decision. I opted for the apartment. Sometimes it is just less hassle and possible stress when you have to be relying on someone else. IE: The sister to clean up after herself, the kids and to hold up her end of the bills etc, share the yard work and all. Apartments are far less upkeep. You would get the privacy. I think what it comes down to is your own priorities. I would sit down and write out the pros and cons for each. Talk it over with your partner and see what you come up with together.