another chance to be a bridge again...

Hi Che, Oh that is great!!! I hope your friend would like the friend of your hubby. Well, is that man still young and no kids? well, it's not a big problem if the kids are with their mother..but if ever he has kids and lives with the new wife, it needs a lot of adjustment you know? specially if the lady never experience having kids.

I don't know really, there are some downturns of being a bridge in a relationship. Relationships are not really all rosy and stuff, and if they fight, or if the relationships falls apart, and someone got really really hurt, you're also the one to be blamed for introducing them, right? It so happened that a friend of mine was involved in that scenario. She works at a local bank and the guy was a client. He asked her if she could introduce him to someone he could marry. It just so happened that one of our good friends (also a banker) was looking for someone. So they got introduced. It was a whirlwind romance and soon, after a month or so, they decided to get married! I couldn't believe my ears that time because it's not like our friend to be that hasty. She has just broken up with a boyfriend of 5years so I told her to be sure of her decision. She fervently told me that she was decided. So, all wedding plans were made, we were maid of honors so we got our dresses made, all the preparation was done. Then suddenly, after a couple of months, she phoned me because we had to fit our gowns. When she went to pick me up, she wasn't looking so well. She told me they have not been talking for a month now. I mean, what kind of a relationship could that be where the groom and the bride-to-be don't talk for a month?! She said they had a big fight because she discovered messages on his phone with his ex and etc. what's weird was the guy didn't want to talk to her anymore! The nerve! To make the long story short, they broke off engagement a few weeks after the supposedly wedding with all the preparations done. Now, my friend blames my other friend for setting them up in the first place, and the guy no longer talks to the one who set them up too, and I think he changed banks as well. It's really difficult, and I don't want to be in that crossfire. I'd rather be a common friend than to 'introduce' them both. Further, I don't believe in introductions either, maybe it's just me but I don't like the feeling because it feels like I'm in desperate need for someone that's why I'm asking a friend to look for someone for me. Get my point? I'd like to meet him on my own. And I did!

I would wait until the divorce is finalized. Does he have kids? That can make things harder because you don't want to introduce him to someone that may not be a good stepmom if it ever came to that. Most likely he's on the rebound, too. i'm sure being match maker is fun. I have a hard time doing it because if the relationship fails or ends badly I would feel partially to blame. Good luck.

hahah.. that could be interesting!! Is that men with kids? that is the most common problem with ladies who never have kids to marry a man with kids.. Good luck for your new.. role.. hahaha

why not? hehehehe mayybe she is the right for her maám che or "ako nalang be"

Well, there ios no harm in introducing then to each other is there? The man evidently wants to move on with his life and is willing to meet someone else. Speak to yor girlfriend first and sound her out as to if she is willing to meet with your husband's co-worker. Ther is no harm in asking her this. No, I have never played cupid in my life at all. I don't hink that I would be good at it!

I have been a match maker but I will tell people just breaking up are the most candidates for a relationship they are hurt and angry and come with too much baggage They are not ready for a new relationship

Well I haven't tried anything like that in my life. I guess that would be interesting if that would work for them. Well I guess there is nothing wrong as long as they already have totally move on with their lives. Many who start in that stage usually don't work because the wounds from the previous relationship was still open and after jumping in to a new ones they have expectations that are not met and the cycle would just repeat itself. So I think before doing this thing maybe ask if the one you are recommending is ready to jump into another relationship or has completely forgotten her past relationship.

Oh my... so both will be a in a rebound relationship... since both are broken hearted and in need of some comfort... i don't know if that is such a good idea... rebound relationships don't usually work out...

Hello checapricorn, I really don't like to match others as I am not good at it. If only I try to interfere, the bad thing will happen I guess If you think that the two strangers have something in common, you should try to play as a cupid then... Who knows, they will be very happy together!

wow..that was great che...i do love to play cupid too ..i enjoyed it very much

Hi checapricorn! I can't even play cupid for myself! I can't even find a decent man for me, let alone for anyone else! Most of my friends are single either previously divorced or just out of lously relationships, as I am and of course, there are very few decent single men to be found! So I do think that is wonderful if you can play cupid! I think your friends would be very lucky!

I try to play cupid as often as I could :D I match my friends from one side with friends from the other. Although I am yet to be successful. It turns out that sometimes even though my friends say that they're looking for someone - they're really not ready! Oh and the first time I read the discussion title, I read, "another chance to be a bride again" which got me really really confused haha My bad! Thanks for the response on my discussion!

I never tried to play cupid. I dont want people blaming me in the end. Some people tend to blame somebody else when someone breaks their heart without thinking that the relationship did'nt work mainly because they are the one to be blame. I want to play cupid but never tried it before. I just let my friends find someone who is perfectly fit for them.