think bout it...

for me i'd rather choose the first one. you will grieve yes, but you know in your heart that a part of that person will always remain . you will get hurt but still the thought of him/her in heaven or in god's hand will make you feel better and eventually move on with your life without sadness at all. unlike in cheating, i think it's hard to move on knowing that he/she left you to be with someone else. it will take time to finally heal the wounds.:)