Duality

What you see is what you get - that's how blunt I am & my bluntness is considered by others as being a sharp edge, haha!~I hate double standards. I'd either move on or I'd really get ticked sometimes & "speak my mind", hahaa!~But I wouldn't waste too much of my time, only if those who are close & they don't realize, then I'd let them know.

Hi Anora, I do try to do as I preach because that is what I really in my heart feel is right. Do I always follow thru? No....I do have my faults. Smoking being one of them. I have always preached to my kids not to pick up this habit...addiction that is so hard to quit. Other than that....I especially try to live my life in a way that sets a good example for my kids. I try not to do that double standard thing mainly because it just blows your credibility. I think sometimes we don't see ourselves as others do and may not be aware of how we are coming across to others. I, personally, would want it to be pointed out to me so that I can either explain myself or appoligize and change. I think you should at least attempt to talk to the person. If it becomes obvious that he/she is not open to hearing you then i'd let it go & make a mental note of one more thing that you know about that person's character. My ex had that "do as I say" attitude combined with this is "my castle & I'm king" attitude. Talk about irritating!

Oh I deal with countless people like this and on most days too! It drives me insane. I have even placed two posters in one of my offices that say "Do as I do, not what I say" (Seriously! I have this word for word so it's interesting that you shared your oppostie version!) and the 2nd poster says - "Don't just talk the talk..... Walk the walk" I'm constantly drilling these 2 quotes into people around me and I even make some of them read them out to me when they come into the office! lol. So yes, I DO say something about it because I'm not going to function well with a person that says one thing, yet does another. Why do they do it? I guess that giving advice can be so much easier than following it for many people and in a way they're handing out directives that they subconsciously wish they had the discipline to follow themselves.

It is plain selfish behaviour not to practice what you preach. Some people make a set of rules but they only apply to others. My parents are a prime example; my sister and I didn't realize it until we were grown of course. I ignore people that do this and I stop listening when I hear hypocrisy

I think it's hard not to have double standards. It's like throwing stones in a glass house ya know. Sometimes I wonder if they should be looking in a mirror as they're ragging my ear off. I don't like them and I think that people who have them have an over inflated ego. It's easy to judge someone else. It think that is something that we need to keep in check everytime we open our mouths. I think depending on who it's coming from really determines if I let it bounce around for awhile or just flat out tell them to knock it off. I have come right out and called a person a snob before. She was shocked at it, but she did take note on what she was saying. I think it's really a mix on why people do it. Some of them are unhappy so want to find faults in others to make themselves feel better. Others just need to complain for the sake of complaining, maybe that's how they were raised. Then there are still others that just like to get and keep that biitch factor going. Have I done it? Yes, but I also am aware of doing it and I think that makes it more wrong then a person that has no idea what kind of person they are being. You look at people and their families. Sometimes that's all a family has in common is just sitting around putting others down. Everyone has to out best everyone else and you know, that's sad. I think the older I get the more tolerent I'm getting, but then again; I'm old enough to say, sorry, not interested in running someone else down either. I think I've earned that and if they can't respect it, well then; maybe a new circle of friends is in order.

It really depends. After all, I would tell a preschooler not to touch a lighter when I touch them all the time. In the same way, a teacher will disrupt a student's conversation to tell her not to disrupt the class. Sometimes authority, maturity, responsibility, and propriety demands that an individual do something while telling others that they may not do it. However, most of the time double-standards appear in relation to simple self-centerdness, a condition that effects us all. We all like to believe that we are the 'special exception' to the rule, simple as that.

Arising from your description, I think double standard is just something people make as self defense, rationalization for example and self-contradictions are all set up in our personalities whether we are conscious of it or not. The idea is, if you feel good about what you're doing, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. People in their misery wants someone to always join them to justify their actions. My friend, we all wear our masks at times but the most important thing is not to lose ourselves and still feel happy seeing that person inside the mirror. People tend to contradict themselves in many instances, whatever their motives and afflictions, don't get their negative thoughts infect your well-being.

I think that this is very selfish behavior and will only cause problems in the future. You cannot expect your friends to act any differently than you do. In most cases, people take cues from their friends, so if they see them acting one way, they normally do the same. They just want to fit in with their friends. I would think that having double standards would put a strain on any friendship or relationship and I am surprised that these people are able to maintain either one. I think that eventually, they might see the error in their ways when their friends start to leave them.

Hi, If you further analyse these double-standard u'll find that those who are powerful only prepare these rules.They expect all to follow the rules but they seldom follow the rules.I do not term this as selfish behaviour,i call this simply'autocracy'. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.