Would you love someone if you know that he/she is not made for you?

*hug, for mysdianait. I hope you will find somebody that you can spend for the rest of your live and happy. Yes Darksorrow, i tell you about my story of love. You know, i was devorce and move to Bali island to heal my pain mean wile work, because my ex husband can't never devoted to me only (though he said 'still' love me) because he have other relationship with another woman and she already have a baby, me too at almost at the same year. But my baby die because he was 6 months premature and only have 3 rooms at his heart. Though you love him so much(my husband), i have to let him go, because she and her baby need him more than i do. And i was fallen in love again when i have my baby and seeing his cute lil face ant the incubator. So much in love that i think my heart exploded. But then i realized The fact that this baby belongs to God, and when He decided to take him back,.. But at the time i said "I will let you go, because i love you" your heart will felt slowly easy and getting more relax than before. When we fall in love Darksorrow, we must understand that this person its not yours completely--soon or later--separation is a nature otomaticaly happen. Love is not only the joy but also the pain. It's mix as one like salad. oxox'dian from bali island.

I have been in this situation and took me ages to let go. I don't want to go into too much detail but I was very deeply involved with a colleague from work who was from a different country, a different religion etc. We had been living together already for three years and I knew that he had a marriage arranged for him by his parents to a girl from his own country who he never sw except for when he returned there on his summer vacation. He was happy here and intended living the rest of his life here, with me. All was fine until the third summer when he returned to his country and married the girl. She remained there and he was perfectly honest about it with me. He then bought a house not far from where we were living and his intentions were obvious. He would have had two lives, one with me and one with her because the way he was brought up allowed this. To cut a long story short... I let him go. He was suffering as I was but I couldn't bear seeing him torn in two. He is still here and has three sons now. He is happy and I am happy when I see him happy. If you can't have something that you love and the situation is causing pain, you let it go because you love it. It's hard at the time but to live a life trying to be happy is not as easy as it seems. Love will find you eventually and you won't have to make choices.

Hmmmm. I was reading your response again & again. There is something deep in your response which i am not able to get i think. Sorry i still am a naive. To loving is to let go, to love is to expecting nothing in a return. Why do we need to let it go if one loves that person? Why can't they stay in each others life if they love each other? Expecting nothing is ok but is separation necessary? Asking too many questions.lol But i need some answers. Thanks

Hello darksorrow, Nice to hear from you again too! If both of you love each other, I will suggest that both of you need to fight to get your love and be together - no matter what happen! But both of you must fully aware that there are many obstacles in love. Love is not about loving each other only. You can't live with love only. It is just not enough in this cruel world, my friend. If one of you can't make it, well...I need to know the reason. If it can be overcome, then do it - fight for your love!

Thanks for this gr8life. And there are many things which i can't share here or with anyone else. But something in her is good that she always forgets my mistakes and brings things back to normal. But the obstacle we have can't be removed and we also accepted that. Thanks for your suggestion.

Hello gr8life, Nice to see you again. I want to ask you one question. If both of them loves each other and it's one's fault that they can't be together then what should the faulty person do?

Absolutely right camomom. Wish there were any switch which could take things to normal. Love always has it's complications.

I know what you mean.

Sorry to ask you this question but have will you be able to stop your feeling for that person no matter how strong you are?

Good luck to you aisaellis

it would be hard to stop it but I will try to by trying to move on and maybe meet someone who will love me..I can learn to love someone who really loves me and are single and good looking..hehehe.

Loving someone is not in your hand. When it comes to you, you become helpless and there is no way other than accept that you love that person. The persons you met are those who you liked but have not fallen in love. So you are saying this i guess.

Thanks for telling me this. I am also trying to do the same.

I agree with you. People have no control over it.

Thanks zandi. You helped me a lot.

You answered yourself : Sounds crazy Well if you fall in love then you would understand whether it is crazy or not. Till then my friend.....

Yeah. You got it right. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your feelings for that person for the sake of the other. But when you are the guilty one then the burden is too much for you to bear. THanks for sharing your feelings.

Well good luck to you my friend.