Happy genes,sad genes,impatient genes-what have you inherited from your parents?
By mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
March 26, 2009 5:59am CST
Recently major depression made Nicholas Hughes to end his life. This is attributed to the genes which relates back to his mother's classic suicide case!
Certain people are much more likely to be exposed to stressful life experiences, like accidents, injuries or being a crime victim. Some of this variation is traceable to genetics. About 1/4 of the variation in life experiences can be traced to genetic origins.
How far this is relevant in your life?
[b]Have you inherited any genetic trait from your parents? It could be anything like irritable impatient nature to happy-go-lucky kind of attitude.
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Thanks.
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17 responses
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
26 Mar 09
It's quite true, and i have seen it apply in a lot of cases. In my own family, my brother has taken on to electronics the way my dad is involved in it. Somehow i never got this trait. I tended to pick up one of patience which my mom was very strong with. The high curiosity factor of the occult and sciences which i had a few years ago was something my mother used to attribute in me to her father's genes. I think those genes are slighty dormant now.
One genetic attribute that i can say came from my dad's genes was my ability at mathematics and puzzles. He was good at it and iw ould like to think i am too.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
Just read this:
[i]So some of the effects that we call “genetic” (or “nature”) are the indirect result of people being drawn to particular environments because of their personality. Or to put it another way, some “environmental” (or “nurture”) effects are actually attributable to genetic tendencies.
This seeming paradox underscores the point that the “genes versus environment” debate is asking the wrong question. It is said that parents of one child believe that upbringing determines personality, but parents with two children believe in genetic tendencies. The evidence points to something more complex: genetic predispositions interact with circumstances to produce unique individuals.[/i]
Isn't this interesting! How genes and environment affect our growth!
Will get back to your original response in a bit....
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
26 Mar 09
It's very interesting Mimpi and as one goes deeper into the subject the more one learns about it.
What i would like to know more about is what happens in the event genetic make up and an unsuitable envoirnment clash ? I guess i need to research it a bit.
Thanks for sharing this.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
That's an exemplary tracing of genetic inheritance. The eye of detailing and observation that your brother got is a paternal gene. And your creativity, ability to see things from distance, power to ponder, analyse and spiritual inclination came from your mother's side. We all are indebted to our genes from our forefathers but what interests me more is the dominance of environment and the declining genetic inheritance in the due course as you have rightly mentioned.
Today's world is so free, open and globalised that we are gradually losing the community culture which is supposed to come from herdism. The herdism or clan culture is fast declining to the gliobalisation and liberalisation. the genetic traits gradually becoming dormant tpo the overwhelming environment. having said this, we cannot deny or rule out the role of gene which will always be there, even if in dormancy.
Thanks.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
29 Mar 09
Yes, I do remember your mother doing the good things in life and I think you are a perfect mix in all better senses.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
26 Mar 09
I attribute most of the positive qualities I have, to my genes from both father and mother.I have inherited the resourcefulness, grasp,memory and creativity,stubbornness and determination from my father.I have inherited my emotional, reactive ,philosophical,,contented nature from my mother.I think optimism is also something from my father though my mother did show this trait too.Similarly contentment was in both.I have failed to inherit the systematic nature[I feel my mother was born systematic]from my mother.
As I told you I attribute broadly only the positive qualities to them both ,though emotional and impulsive do not strictly fall under this category.So, I am trying to get over this.Ihave many other negative qualities and I take full responsibility for them.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
You are the sweetest kid on earth! I am sure your parents as much proud of you as you are of them. The qualities speak for themselves and I have no doubt about the person you are. I never had kala. Contentment is a beautiful quality that can make people live the toughest hurdle with a smile. And all those emotional, reactive, philosophical, creative thoughts are so obvious, in all your posts here.
Coming to negative traits, who doesn't have those! Its your grateful personality and strength of character that refrains you from tracing them back to your parents. Kudos to you....
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
26 Mar 09
God !I thought that only my face is a transparent one ;I never knew that my posts would also be so transparent.
Thanks for the sweet words!You are a real sweetheart for encouraging people.And as you rightly pointed out contentment is a quality that always helps us be in peace and I am most grateful for it and to my parents.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I don't believe that we have to be marked by the sins of our parents, or conversely that their good qualities necessarily pass down to the offspring. I think we make our own lives and whether the example the parents set (genetically or behaviorally) is good or bad, we have the ability and responsibility to make our own way in life.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Mar 09
I am talking about the propensity thing only. Some people are very individualistic with a strong personality and some are not so. I guess for the latter the genes are more dominant over 'nature and nurture'.
And disputing reigning facts only lead us to another or a different kind of fact. I really appreciate that in you.
Thanks.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Mar 09
Environment, nature play a dominant role and our individualistic behavioral pattern is largely bred by ourselves. We indeed have the ability and responsibility to make our own lives. No way I am trying to negate that. But you cannot deny the genes! Its not my assumption but proven fact.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Although I am a great fan of Gregor Mendel, there are some proven facts that I, like the flat earth society (lol), feel obliged to dispute. I think we may inherit a genetic propensity, but one that can be overridden by our individual behavior. Many would disagree, of course.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Mar 09
From your Mom? I have stubborn-proud kind of genes as well but do not know from whom did I get it...
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
28 Mar 09
Got it from both sides so it's not my fault I'm stubborn.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
26 Mar 09
this reminds me of what my in-laws indirectly tell.whatever naughty and bad things are dddddddddddddddddone by my kids,they are my genesand others are their sons!!!i am quite impulsive and do take lot of tension.docs tell me they are inherited from my father who gets over-excited about small things.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
You have every right Mabel. And trust me that's the wisest thing to do. Messing would not make things worse.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
I think that's the common saas-bahu syndrome. No one has ever come out of it! all good things are attributed to them and all bad things to the bride's. So blatantly partial!
Excitement is good as long as its within limit. Tension it terrible to deal with, I have experienced it.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
True! No one has ever been able to come out of the nature's law. Its providence!
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@jimbomuso (950)
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26 Mar 09
hi mimpi!
I inherited my 'polymath' genes from my dad(i think) he was a 'good all rounder'. I think I got my 'toughness' genes from my mother. In general it's not just the genes its 'nature and nuture'.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
It's only 1/4th that is traceable to our genes. The other 3/4th is on environment and 'nature and nurture' that you have rightly mentioned. So you are a good all rounder ! Great! And your
'toughness' would take you to places.
I am not sure as to what 'polymath' means though. Could you elaborate?
Thanks for enriching this discussion.
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@jimbomuso (950)
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28 Mar 09
Hi again.
It's a compliment someone gave me several days ago, it means a person of great learning in several fields of study. I wouldn't say I've great learning just general all round learning.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Mar 09
Wow! Great! Its my great pleasure to know someone like you. Thanks for dropping in and keep sharing.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
Hi mimpi dear! I think my father's genes and my mother's genes are fighting inside me. LOL! Who will be the dominant gene, I still don't know. haha..However, I sometimes have my mother's work attitude and my father's temper..but other times, my mother's tolerant genes is trying to curb my father's impatient genes! Who will dominate in the long run..I am not sure. haha..I think I have a balance of both at the moment. All I know for now is I have my grandfather's free happy spirit gene within me trying to dismiss my worried nature.
God bless..Take care always.
lovelots..faith
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Mar 09
Hahahaha.......
I thing the two kind of genes are fighting and you are getting more balanced in the tug of war.
I think we all are a mix of good and bad genes and these are there in an individual. That makes us human, isn't it?
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
3 Apr 09
great topic mimipi! I think I got my compassion and emotional side of me from my dad. I definitely got my desire to be a good parent and an open minded parent to my kids from my dad. Unfortunately, I got from my mom that side of me that sometimes when provoked loses patience and yells. I always swore that I would never ever be a yeller and at times, I have been. Unlike my mother, I will tear myself apart afterwards and appologize....got that from dad also. I see in my own 4 children different pieces of my personality. Its interesting because they are all so very different and yet I can relate to all of them. My oldest works in a bank and is very responsible...financially. So am I. My next is very very quiet and a homebody...so am I. My 3rd...she is the partier and often makes poor decisions....yup...did all that...in a quieter way than she does. in fact, this is the one that stresses me the most of all and ironically when she got busted ...she got busted in the same apt. that I first lived in when I first moved out from my parents. We both hit the front page of the local paper at age 17 (different reasons). We both got into accidents and paid dearly for driving without insurance. My youngest....the head strong...you can't tell me what to think or how to think attitude. ...the stubborness. She is protesting the right to wear holes in her jeans. I protested the right to wear jeans.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
3 Apr 09
That's quite a response Sid! I read your discussion regarding your daughter's decision to wear the jeans with the hole. Sometimes we develop individualism which overpowers the genes and in many ways dominates and become distinctive in our character.
Thanks for enriching this post.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Mar 09
That makes you a perfectly balanced person. I really appreciate Cjay. The right kinda emotions in the right place and never getting carried away too much. Your mom must be a beautiful person and you are a sweet heart and your husband has right to deny...
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
27 Mar 09
I have inherited a happy go lucky attitude from my mother, NOT!
It is true that basic personality traits can be inherited. My mother suffers from depression and has an undiagnosed but obvious case of OCD both of which have manifested as negative tendencies in my own life along with perfectionism and being somewhat introverted.
Some are genes at work and others are habits that children emulate. I can see my daughter acting and speaking as I do, which is a worry (LOL); she imitates almost every move I make.
Fortunately once we are old and wise enough we can work on those negative traits inherited and otherwise.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Mar 09
Its good that it know it all and you can guide your girl that way. Nurturing and environment plays an important role in creating individualism and I am sure she would make her own traits.
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@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I don't know. I haven't really thought about how I am like my parents. I'm quite different from them actually. Perhaps I get my shyness from my mother. She doesn't have many friends. We both lack proper social skills. We are both stubborn and need to disagree with everyone. I'm impatient and I get that from my father. I think that is all.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
You know what, even I cannot really trace my physical similarity with my parents and siblings. However, my mom says that i am difficultly stubborn at times which she tags with my father. I am shy and have little social skills as you have put it, as well and this I inherit from my father who is selectively shy.
Thanks for dropping in and sharing.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
26 Mar 09
i thionk I need to get DNA copmparisons between myself and my Parents because I couldn't be any more different to the both of them if I tried! While I'm at it, I may as well check myself against the rest of my family too. I think I might have been zapped down from another planet or something???
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
You know what, many times i have wondered about it as well. From where on earth did the bird drop me from, on mother's lap!? I do not have my eyes, nose, lips....anything like them so much so that people find it hard to trace my siblinghood with my sisters!
People are weird, I know so i sniff it off. but the point is nothing right from my height to gait , is similar in any way.
But, yes but I am a shy person that me father is. My father is selectively shy, shy with some of the distant family and very smart with his people when in a job. I on the contrary, is generally shy.
And James, keep trying, you will come up to 1/73rd chance of genetic similarity if not 1/4th.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
Hi elly
According to researches, we do inherit angry, frustrated, depressive genes. Loneliness is essentially an offshoot of these.
Having said this, there are proven methods to control our anger or to reduce it. it affects our mental health that goes to kill our physical health more than anything else.
lots and lots of smiles....
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Mar 09
Great to know this! Was it from your mom or dad? This kinda attitude will help you conquer the hurdles.
Good luck!