Is it okay to grief?but for how long?

Everybody is different and needs to grieve in their own way. I lost a very close person that I had been with for five years a couple of years ago. I grieved deeply for about a month, but then I decided that I had to let it go so I flew 7,000 miles to somewhere I had never been. After a week there, I was able to pick up and move on with my life.

It's ok to grieve, true. For how long? In my opinion, it all depends on you yourself. If you feel you need to grief all your life, by all means do so. If you feel you need to grief only a day, it is still fine. Pardon me if it hurts you more but as a friend, I mean well. What is important is asking yourself why do you need to grief for that x period that you want to grieve? Why bother to follow the standard? Each and everyone of us are different and feel differently over the loss. Grief if you need to but do not let it affect you moving on. I am sure your friend would want you to move on courageously and bravely.

Sorry to heard that bad news from you. It's hard to lose someone specially when that person is close to you. There are many phases of grief that you will undergo. I have a professor who taught us the phases of grief and when the time that the person will accept his loss. First that person will undergo denial. In this first phase of grief, the person denies the fact or not accepting the loss. Secondly is angry on which the person is blaming himself or other people or god. Bargaining is the third phase, in this phase the person who loss his friend or relative bargains or exchange or wishing that the person he loss must live longer. The fourth is Depression, this is the state on where the person is experiencing great depression or loneliness. Lastly is acceptance, this is the phase where the person accept the fact that he loss his friend or he accepts the reality. These are the 5 phases of grief. My professor told us that if the person who grieves skips any of this stages, the person will not accept the fact and will repeat again the grieving stage over and over again. He will not get over the perceived loss. So it's important to pass to all of these stages. I can only say that it is okay to grief, it is just a normal reaction of a person who lose his friend. Time will heal you, i cannot say how long you will grief but if you pass these stages, you're gonna be alright.

I think its so normal if you sad and grief because of loosing someone who really really close to you. It must be so hard when you realized that you will never meet him again, chat with him again. But the important thing is the life must goes on, you have to be tough. Even though you cry all the day, he won't back. And i think if he can see, he will not like to see you so sad. So,just pray for him. Let him rest in peace, i know its so hard, but i believe you can.

you are in deep sorrow .in my opinion ,no friends are worth your feeling such sadness ,and the real friend who is ,won't make you cry.YOU need to be optimistic about what you have lost.What lost is lost .

it's very sad to lose someone we love. it's not that easy to forget that person especially when you're so close to him/her. but as long as you accepted the fact that your friend is already in a good hands now, eventually you will notice that you'll stop from grieving but instead you'd be happy that's she's no longer in pain and that she's going to be ok now.

Everyone will think you lost a friend , which is really a friend , in my view ,although you have lost a friend , but your friends will be on your side to accompany you, you do not like sad , because you have done of these , will let you get more friends , I believe that their grief will not be achieved , because you have not lost a friend , but have been friends forever