baby showers
@pentaluda0878 (118)
United States
March 26, 2009 9:28am CST
So what are your thoughts on having a baby shower for your 4th child? I've noticed a lot of people doing this more and more lately, but I'm torn. To me it seems kinda greedy, but DH and I have no kids of our own yet( we're trying) and he wants to do a shower when we do have one. I did have a baby shower for my first but he's 10 now and I didn't have one for either of my other 2.
3 responses
@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Instead of having a baby shower, why not try a welcomeing party. More would be willing to go for that I think. The trend today is that for every baby there's a shower but the older generation doesn't see that fit and refuse to attend. If there's a huge gap between your children, then I don't see an issue with having a shower before the baby arrives so you can have help getting a few of the much needed items for the baby. Try pushing it around while talking with family members to see how they feel about having a baby shower or a welcoming party. The welcoming party works the same moreless, just with no games. You are celebrating the birth and people still bring gifts for you.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
26 Mar 09
frankly, i have not heard of this before and i really dont think its fair to others to do this. does that mean we should have a wedding shower after we have been married for 10 years? what about me? i have been married for 21, dont i get something?
sorry, but it just sounds sorta greedy to me.
@pentaluda0878 (118)
• United States
26 Mar 09
like I said I'm torn, it does sound greedy. I have a friend with 5 kids very close in age and she had 5 showers, another friend who has 3 and has done it for each, and a women I used to babysit for who is expecting her 4th, her second with her current husband who just sent me an invite to hers, and her youngest son is 3 and they are having another boy, so what can they need? at least for me this will be my husband and i's first child together, and my youngest is 6. MY friend says she's throwing one nomatter what for me and DH is all for it, I'm considering because we don't have any of our baby stuff, i've given it all away, and because I do want to celebrate being pregnant and us finally having a baby. I'm thinking though to stress maybe no gifts or just a pack of diapers....
@momoftwo (94)
• United States
26 Mar 09
It is never wrong to have a baby shower. Every pregancy is different and exiting. The purpose of the baby shower is for friends and family to get together and celebrate another life joining their family. If you already have all of the big items like cribs and strollers etc. So be it. You never have too many diapers, towels, a cool new diaper bag or adorable little outfits. If you are fortunate to have everything, instead of gifts, it can be a "start a colledge fund" baby shower. It's never to early to think of the future.
So have your shower and enjoy it. you deserve it!!
