Bickering With Your Sister

The big thing to remember is to let your sister take her role. Is she your older sister or your younger sister. As we get older we learn that its just easier to let people play their roles in life. Mom's like having that feeling that they got to do mommy like things for you like your laundry, give advice (with you really listening), offer guidelines on cooking, etc. Maybe your sister is bickering with you because you aren't letting her play her role. My sister is my big sister and we bicker all the time because I don't let her play big sister = be protective, offer advice (with you really listening OR at least pretending too...LOL), and actually play the role as the older wiser sister. I'm trying to work on my relationship with my sister too. But we have always had that up and down relationship. It takes both of us working on the relationship at the same time to actually make our relationship work. But that doesn't always happen. So I think that is just how our relationship will always be....like a rollercoaster, up and down. It would be great if life was perfect and we always got along...but life isn't perfect right?

I don't have a sister, so i can't really comment too much about it. But of course everyone has disagreements with their siblings, and fall outs, it is completely normal! and it doesn't matter how old you get because it will always seem to happen, like i have two brothers, and sometimes we disagree, argue and things, but it comes alright at the end of it all.

My sister and I went through this "normal" issue as well. We fought a lot when we were kids. Now that we're on our late 20s, we've grown matured. I love my sister. Our fights may just be because of trivial matters. We're quick to kiss and make up though. There are even time that we "forgot" we're supposedly fighting We just talk the day after as if we were never fighting the other day. I guess it's because no matter what happens, family stands together. The same blood is flowing through our veins. There have been times that I think I hate her so much that I don't wanna see her again. But that's impossible. I cannot let that happen, I love her far too much to stay angry with her. Yeah, for me, blood is always thick, thicker than any issue that may threaten and break our family ties.

Hi summerfire, I can relate to this, at one time one of my sisters could do no wrong and sometimes it still feels the same...though a year back I had to go into hospital for some tests that is actually when my sister started to show she really cared, yet then it was my dad's birthday we had a big do for him as it was his 80th..that was when he praised my sister and said how much he loved her boys..it hurt my children and myself as he didn't even say anything to myself and my children, now that has caused a big rift between my sister and I, plus my father...so yes I can relate to how you feel at times...bb littleowl

Well with me and my sister and brother we still have our moments. We fight like cats and dogs but when worse comes to worse they are there to back me 100% as well as im there for them 100%. And really that just my family in general LOL

Tell me about it.... no matter what age difference.... if there is no bickering between sisters... then they arent sisters... hehehhe... I have two sisters... and it seems everytime we meet.. if we dont bicker.... we cannot go through the day... but its not like those intense fights.. just silly arguments about who is right and who is wrong... when we were just kids... we had worse fights like pulling hair and all that lol.... when i think about it now... i want to laugh.... my mom used to get fed up of us... hehehehe...

y'all need to stop it. lol. i lost my only sister in 1962. i would love to be able to have a fuss w/her or whatever. don't go w/out talking to her. u never know from one minute till the next what's going to happen. i know u get aggravated w/her but u are soooo lucky to have her.

Hi summerfire...I have no sisters so I cant answer that from a sisters point of view..I always wished I had just one! But I can tell you from my view with my brother.. When we were younger, we fought like cats and dogs..I used to literally beat him up and he would fight back. Now we are adults, we get along just fine. We dont however live in the same province so we dont see each other much. With age, we have both really mellowed and are both easy going people.

I am right there with you, not matter how old me and my sister get we still tend to get under each other's skin and bicker back and forth. I am 28 and she's 35.... we live 1100 miles from each other and still there are times, if I could get my hand threw that phone or threw the computer screen, I would ring her neck, and she would probably mine too. We have that bond that can't be broken, but it sure can be bent because we can't see eye to eye with each other, and with us it's always been like that, and for the most part will always be like that.

I've tried really hard with my older brother to stay in touch. He is married with a son and another baby on the way. I used t otry to call him every week. Then I got really busy and didnt cal him for a month or so. I felt really guilty I hadnt called him but when I next called him he didnt seem bothered that we hadnt spoken. I thought I'd just leave it up to him to call me just to see if he would. He never did. I rang him last July to wish his son happy 3rd birthday. He was having a party with 'the family'. I hadnt been invited. My brother told me his wife was pregnant. I left it up to him again to contact me. Didnt hear from him on my birthday, or at christmas or at new year. I bumped into my mum in the supermarket and asked her in passing when the baby was due. She said she didnt know and that my sister in law didnt know. Her words were 'it'll arrive when it arrives'. Then she told me she thought it was due in May. I told her it couldnt be because they told me in July. It would have to be at the end of March at the very latest. I dont want to call my brother to find out. My sister in law had a miscarriage at 16 weeks 2 yrs ago. No one told me and I rang them a month after it had happened and asked about the baby. Then I was made to look like I was rubbing it in. I think they're all conspiring against me.