Do I Have Some Screws Loose?
By singlemommy
@singlemommy (2955)
United States
March 26, 2009 9:22pm CST
I've mentioned before about my "Question of the Day" that I do at work. About a month or so ago the question was, "If you were in Caseys General Store and you seen a single rose for sale and for some odd reason you thought of me when you seen it, would you buy it for me?" Now I got a whole lot of good responses which I'm planning on turning into an article but I haven't had time to work on it yet.
Well, today, we have what we call "Jackpot" that we play every Thursday and Friday. Everyone puts in a dollar and their name gets put in the pot one time for every dollar they put in. The last person who won gets to pull the name of the next winner. Well, today, I was the winner. One of the men who I asked my question of the day to about the rose said this to me after I won, "Now you can buy the rose and give it to me". I said, "I still want you to buy me one". He replied, "Sometimes you have to give in order to receive". After him saying this, I had an idea to give all the men that I asked that question a single rose and attached to the rose the quote they gave me from the day that I asked them the question. Here are a few of the quotes that they gave me that day.
"How much do they cost?"
"I would think about it"
"If I was seeing you I would but I'm married so I can't"
"Yes, but you put me in a 'catch 22' position by asking"
"Probably"
"No. I don't buy flowers from Casey's"
"If I wanted to buy you a rose I would. I wouldn't care if my wife knew about it or not"
"Yes. Do they have some at Casey's now?"
"I have bought them for a girl before so you would have a 50/50 chance"
"It costs money and I'm keeping mine"
Now, I was talking to a "friend" of mine tonight and I told her about my idea. She went crazy on me. She said that I couldn't give those men a rose because if they had a wife or a girlfriend then they couldn't take it home. I said, "All they have to do is give the rose to their wife or girlfriend from them". She said that they still couldn't do that because the wife or girlfriend would want to know where it came from. Okay, honestly, if a man gives me a rose, I don't ask where it came from, I'm just happy that he thought enough of me to give me one. Now, I told the "friend" that I didn't think it was that big of a deal, I wasn't doing anything to come on to these men, I was just giving them a rose with THEIR QUOTE on it. This "friend" said this quote to me, "I always knew you had a few screws loose, but this idea really takes the cake". I am furious now!! That comment was totally uncalled for even if she does think the idea is stupid.
What is your honest opinion? You won't offend me, is it a stupid idea or a creative idea? What do you think?
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13 responses
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Hey singlemommy! I think the idea is cute, but I don't think
that in some cases that it would go over too well. There are
alot of very jealous women in the world and they might take
it wrong if they happened to see the quote! It could stir
up alot of trouble and the men might have to try to explain
and things could really get out of hand! So I don't think
that you have screws loose, I just think that maybe you could
just buy a box of donuts for the office instead! It might
be a safer bet!
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Yes, maybe for some men it would cause a problem. I've decided to only give the roses to those men who I know it wouldn't cause a problem for. If the other men feel as if they were left out then I guess that is just how they feel. The donuts is a good idea too. Maybe I could do it for the men who I don't give a rose. This could be a new "Question of the Day", "What do you do for a girl who buys you a donut?". LOL
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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27 Mar 09
Hi singlemommy,
Well to be honest, I think that was just light hearted fun and not to be taken so serious, I am married and if a man give me a rose I would love it and this firend yours is jusgt being sour grapes as you thought of it before she did. I wouldn't worry about it as she sound very jealous of you.
Tamara
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Yes, I just thought of it as being light-hearted fun. I think I have decided to only give roses to the men that are close friends to me and would know that it was "all in fun" and if the other men see it and say something then I will have some extra roses and I will give them one if they want one. It's not really that big of a deal to me.
I do feel this lady is jealous of me and has for a while. I don't know, I'm thinking of terminating my "friendship" with her. The only problem, we work at the same place, so I will have to see her every day. It really hurts me though because she has been my friend for 6 years and she has done and said things to me in the past that have hurt me, but I have just took it because I'm just that type of person. I don't like confonting people or arguing or anything like that. I just let people be who they want to be. I've come to realize that I let people treat however they want and I just stand and take it. I can't do that anymore.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
27 Mar 09
I think that person was mean,
they could easily tell the truth, a nice lady at work was giving everyone a rose who answered her question of the day she told us men we could bring the rose home for our wives.
I don't see anything wrong with that and most wives would think it was nice.
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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27 Mar 09
I can't see it being a problem.
Your workmates should know you well enough to know that it is just a bit of fun.
If they get in to trouble with their partners then that is their lookout. The only reason they would get the wrong idea if they are not honest with them.
I know that given the story, I may think you are a little crazy but I certainly wouldn't see it as a problem!
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I would not give a man a rose if he had a wife or a girlfriend. Many women would think it was sweet but most would be jealous and it would arouse suspicion that he was fooling around, or fears that you were trying to take the man away from them. It's much better to confine your giving to an office Christmas exchange or something, where giving was expected, and then keep it impersonal.
Just because you are well-adjusted enough not to take offense because a woman gives your man a rose doesn't mean another woman won't. I would advise you not to do this because of the possible unintended consequences.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 Mar 09
A rose does seem to have a romantic intent, why not give them another spring flower
like a tulip or something like that? As long as you include the quote I don't think there will be much problem, for the insecure wife the man can always say you know what this crazy woman at work did today, that should get him off the hook, don't you think?
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
27 Mar 09
singlemommy,
First of all, let me commend you on this original and ingenious idea here. I feel that you have arrived at this decision after much thought and deliberation, so let me assure you that it is not crazy and is quite feasible and sweet.
Secondly, I just feel that you should not take your friend and colleague's remark literally. I do feel that she is just voicing her opinion here with a little wry humor on the side. She does have a point especially if the partners prefer other flowers than roses. You know how people are like when it comes to preferences and choices. Pardon me, as I really did not see an offensiveness or intent of offense on her part. The way I see it, may be a carnation to add in for variety and choice would be logically feasible too.
I hope you will see your friend in a better light after this and encourage you that your idea is also favorable at my end too.
Take care and have a nice day.
@summerfire (427)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I think it is very cool that you did that....I love the idea and it shows what a neat person you are and I am sure the men got a kick out of it. I think if they had a jealous spouse or girlfriend they could remove the quote and give them the rose, and they had an understanding wife...they could tell her the story of what you did..I am a wife and if my husband came home with a rose with a quote and told me about it, I would think it was neat
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
27 Mar 09
In my particular case... my husband would admit that he got the rose from a woman at work, and I have to be honest and say that it would bother me, even if he did tell me that the woman gave ALL the men at work a rose. That's just me, I have a natural insecurity and I am a rather jealous person. Chances are my husband would end up just throwing the rose away and not bringing it home... but he'd still tell me about it because he's honest like that.
So there's a chance that you'll run into a situation like that. There are a few men out there who are 100% honest and forthcoming with their wives, and there are a few wives who are jealous regardless of the situation.
I realize you mean nothing by your gesture, and your male coworkers realize you'd mean nothing by it as well...
So I guess it all depends on how well you know their wives or girlfriends or S/O.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
27 Mar 09
i don't think i'd do that. u may not be coming on to them but some of them would probably think u are.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
27 Mar 09
It sounds like you have a fun work place! I don't think what you did was stupid. I think it showed what a creative fun loving person you are and quite frankly I think that your 'friend' is jealous that she has never had the idea or the courage to do something like that so she made herself feel better by making you regret your actions which I think are just light hearted fun.
The men can easily take the quote off and give the rose to their wife or girlfriend and I doubt any of the women will be jealous considering they all got one. In my view no harm done; did just a bit of fun!
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@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
28 Mar 09
I am with your friend on this one. You are flirting with the men by giving all the men roses (you are not giving any of the women roses) and personalizing it with their own words. No matter how innocent your protests are I believe you know what the implications might be. A single rose is usually a sign of love so I would tread lightly on this one.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I actually did give some of the women roses today. They really thought the idea was neat too.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I think it is pretty creative idea to come up with! I don't think I would have the guts to do it, but you seem like the type that would. Maybe you could add your own little note to it and say something like "Now give this rose to the person of your choice." That way they men that are married can give it to their wifes with out feeling guilty that it was given to them from another female. Because you are telling them to give it to someone.
I wouldn't worry about what your friend said. Her comment was a little to the extreme. If one of my friends said that to me I would probably tell her Gee thanks! And not hold a grude about it, just say it in a tone that she would know she said something wrong!
Maybe you could add your own little note to it and say something like "Now give this rose to the person of your choice." That way they men that are married can give it to their wifes with out feeling guilty that it was given to them from another female. Because you are telling them to give it to someone.
I wouldn't worry about what your friend said. Her comment was a little to the extreme. If one of my friends said that to me I would probably tell her Gee thanks! And not hold a grude about it, just say it in a tone that she would know she said something wrong!1 person likes this
