do u settle d fight with your loved 1 before sleeping or you just sleep it off?
By franticdog
@franticdog (94)
Philippines
March 26, 2009 11:09pm CST
i saw this cross stitch pattern at my cousin's house (she's married) and it said there one of the commandments in marriage life is when you get into a fight, never ever sleep without settling it.. and i totally agree with that.. and with every relationship that i have, when we get into a fight i try as much as possible to settle it before sleeping.. cause i believe it's healthy that way.. how bout you?
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@valentinesdiner (1214)
• United States
27 Mar 09
YES! A great rule is to never let the sun go down on your anger. Resolve it before bedtime or it will fester and begin the next day with a wedge between you.
What you lose in lost sleep is made up for with the effort you each make to resolve it. A person who will share that resolve is a true friend with an investment in the relationship.
Try it and let me know how it works out, eh?
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@franticdog (94)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
well that's a good way to put it.. my boyfriend is in canada and you know how long distance relationship works.. it's really hard.. so sometimes we still fight over the phone.. when argument gets really hot, he would even hang up on me.. which makes me more frustrated.. but what i do is just give us a time to cool off and i call him back to settle it.. before sleeping
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@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I try to settle our issues before going to bed, but that just doesn't happen all the time. There are times when it is just best to sleep on something before more is said that could be hurtful.
@franticdog (94)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
well, for me, even if i choose to sleep it off, i would not even be able to sleep.. and i know what you mean, there are just some fights that are better off left unspoken or you just have to walk away or it even get worse.. but i believe you just have to give it some time, but personally i would get hurt if the guy would just sleep it off..
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@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
30 Mar 09
My view point may be different because I have been married to my husband for 9 years and know that things look different in the morning. Also, at one time we seperated and got back together, so that puts a different light on things. For me, I have learned that there is much worse than the cold shoulder for a night. I see a better perspective after letting the arguement rest a bit, too.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
Well for me it depends, if I can fix the problems with her before sleeping, it will just be fine, but if not for sure the following day when by that time she mellowed down, and we can settle it seating down and for sure it she have think about a lot of options to our problems. Usually we don't really want to argue before going to sleep cause I just want to hugged her tight. But there are things that we should really discuss and I hate it! I can't work and focus my mind when things are not alright for both of us.Anyway have a nice day to you!
@franticdog (94)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
do you really think your partner can sleep it off too? cause that's what i think about too and i dont wanna give him a hard time.. just enough time to cool down and then settle.. then prolly i'd get something afterwards :D
nice day to you too mister!
@elghrasya (501)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
My husband and I also try to settle the things we misunderstood. But my husband is so narrow minded that's why I always choose to sleep rather than to talk to him when we are in a fight. I better shut up and close my eyes instead of talking and explaining to me that he couldn't or he don't like to understand. I am a short tempered person.
@franticdog (94)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
well, i'm really argumentative and my boyfriend is short-tempered so imagine the odds of us fighting! lol.
@inkyuboz (1392)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
27 Mar 09
I don't think I'll ever be able to sleep when I'm in a disagreement with someone. I prefer to have that "fight" settled because even if you sleep it off and forget about it the next morning, it will still come back and haunt you in the future. Better to douse that slight spark instead of fanning the flames.
@franticdog (94)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
i like the way how you put it too.. "better to douse that slight spark instead of fanning the flames" it's a perfect epitome.. :D
@srganesh (6340)
• India
27 Mar 09
Sometimes the problems are dense and heavy,that it can't be settled in a day.So,we have to leave it for some days,passing on with stiff faces.Gradually we can explain our side when emotional reactions will not be there anymore.If it is just small things,like the cooking is bad or forgetting an outing or a present can be settled before sleep.Cheers!
