Is love always right???
By tontunan
@tontunan (254)
Philippines
March 27, 2009 7:05am CST
I have a friend. She is already married. But she married a person whom she doesn't love so much. She married that man because she was hurt by her former boyfriend. She thought marrying another man would make her forget the man who hurt her.
After getting married, her former boyfriend came to her and apologized for what he had done to her. After hearing his apology, she realized he still loves that man than her husband. They decided to have a secret relationship. She could not leave her husband because she knows her husband loves her so much and gives her the best care.
I told her to avoid her former boyfriend if she wanted to have a peaceful relationship with her husband. She told me she really loves that man but she feels pity with her husband. She doesn't want her husband to be sad that's why she will not leave him.
If you were her, what will you do?
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4 responses
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
27 Mar 09
Hi tontunan, i feel that the person is cheating .. because if he really loved her then should have asked her to get divorce but i think he just palying around , he is not really want to take responsibilty. hope ... enjoy :)
@tontunan (254)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
hello there...
That man suggested her for divorce only she could not leave her husband because he loves her so much. she is also afraid that her former bf would leave her soon like what he did before that is why she chooses not to leave her husband. But then she also follows what her heart beats, even she knows it is wrong though, she agreed with the secret relationship because she finds her happiness on it.
@tschu8 (136)
• United States
27 Mar 09
My opinion is that love comes naturally and if she is not fully in love with him that she is being unfair if she has to teach herself to love him. Even if down the road she does learn to love her husband and they have a great relationship if he ever found out that she felt this way and had to learn to love him after she married him it could be very hurtful. She should be honest with her husband and if she wants to try to work it out with him let him know how she feels and let him decide if this is what he wants for them. If I found out after all these years with my husband that he did not truely love me the day he married me and that he had to learn to with time it would crush me. I would rather have him be honest with me and let us decide our path together.
@tschu8 (136)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I think that it is possible to love more then one person at a time but that you can only be in love with one person. If I was her I would be honest with my husband and be with the man she is in love with. In the end she is hurting him more this way and though it may hurt him when she is honest with him she will prevent him from being hurt worse by living a lie. Rebound relationships rarely work and it is not fair to her husband to live like this. Honesty is the way to go.
@psychotaz206 (2086)
• United States
27 Mar 09
i would leave the ex for a couple of reasons , he hurt her once he may do it again , also her husband will find out and that will hurt him even more than her leaving him, she needs to end it , and then tell her husband how she feels because someone else will,its always best to hear it from the person doing it insted of someone else.he may even forgive her .
