What has your past romantic relationships taught you?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
March 27, 2009 9:14am CST
What lessons or realizations did you gain from your past relationship?
Can you say that it's worth it having to spend and invest time with someone only to realize that you're not meant for each other?
What have they taught you? In turn, what have you realized?
Me, I realized that you can't really choose who you love, but you could choose to say Goodbye if you feel he's not worth the effort.
I have also realized that relationships do change the way I think. I was too idealistic before but now, I've come to realize that men and women aren't so different at all.
I have also realized that you should truly learn when to yield, when to open your mouth, and remember to watch what you say because you can never take words and hurt back.
How about you?
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20 responses
@banafs (51)
• China
10 Apr 09
My last romantic relationship taught me a lot.Well,you must take care of youryself.Don't give up.Don't ignore other's help.Don't be selfish.Never hurt others who love you.No one will love you if he got only hurt from you.Sigh...it is really some memory can't be forgot.
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@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
i dont regret the past relationships i had for it taught me to be/stay strong, always rely to myself, have patience and understanding toward other, learn to love myself first before loving someone else, fight for something i know is right, depend my right as a woman, girlfriend and human, believe in my strength and appreciate life that i have.
happy mylotting..
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@raven33 (69)
• United States
29 Mar 09
"What lessons or realizations did you gain from your past relationship?"
1. Beware of a man bearing flowers.
2. That "forever" sometimes means until something else comes along.
3. That there are worse things in life than being alone. : )
4. That cats are easier to make happy, and alot less moody.
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@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
6 Apr 09
My previous relationship ended ..but it was the best unti the last part which seemed bitter at he moment but re-calling i think it couldnt have been better.I have learnt that u dont always find someone lovabale..who loves u n u can love with all ur heart.I also realised that love like theres no tomorrow cos u never know what happens tomorow.And just like u i also realized that relationships do change the way we think n act and that careless words once spoken cant be taken back. I also realsied one very important thing is that we should love and accept the person the way they are and give them thier own space n not b too possesive
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@vheilugto (149)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
my past relationship is not that good! but one thing i never regret.. TO KNOWN WHO THEY ARE and FOR BEING MY GIRL... so whoever my girl is, i want them to know that, am no fool to be there toy. just want to say thank you to them coz i know how to be human!
so for tom, i'll just wait for the real one for me, the one that i can call MY LIFE!
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@noquite0325 (473)
• China
28 Mar 09
If i could choose the most meaning thing after a relationship,i could choose the beatiful memory with him.Though he might hurt me a lot,i could forgive him.I don`t keep some nightmares in my memory,so i choose something can let me happy.I`m not a idealistic at all,so i know what`s my really want.I hope you will find your real lover and have an romantic love story of your own.
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
It did taught me a lot. It has brought me happiness and pain as well as exciting things that make my life what it is. Its a matter of adjusting. The most important thing that I have learned is to forget about past problems and think about the present and the future. It has also taught me that in a relationship you have to continously adjust for there is nothing constant in this world except change. There were times that it brings out the best in me and times that it has brought out the worst in me... Now I have learned how to adjust.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
28 Mar 09
the timing of this question is impeccable. just having a hair-away-from-the-ten-year-marker marriage crumble and shatter.. ive learned quite a bit recently.
1. trust yer instincts. if you feel something is "wrong", dont let the flowery words of reassurance cloud yer better judgements. insecurities are one thing.. but if you look deep enough you can tell the difference tween when yer just bein a halfwit, and when theres a turn yer stomach screaming of "WARNING!"
2. dont ever overlook blatant displays of disrespect, inconsiderations, and outright coldheartedness and blow them off as them just being "tired" or "having a bad day" or just a simple flaw of personality. man is hindsight ever 20/20
3. everything happens for a reason.. there are NO coincidences, EVER!
ive come to realize that what i thought was meant forever.. was only meant for the moment. the chain of events that have transpired has brought me to where i am right now.. and ive never been happier in my entire life.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
for me love is the most important thing in a relationship. if you think that you really love a person that you have to bear with the person even though you think it is quite hard to understand the person sometimes. so let us give time to the other person that the person is worth of our love.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
28 Mar 09
Thank the time we spent. It was the time that indicated the love between us. Though we couldn't go on the relatioship, we learn some lessons from it. I should trust him and understand what he really want. He should understand me and considerate to me, too. If we can reach that point, I think we wouldn't end the relatioship.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
28 Mar 09
This what I learned form my last relationship! I realized I was very lonely and desperate to be with someone! I also learnt don't take a person's advice on love! That was a big mistake! I stayed in the relationship to long! I should of gotten out when I realized he was a jacka**, had two kids he didn't pay child support to and has a temper that scared the heck out of my! I learnt the hard way that he couldn't be trusted and and that I really didn't need him! He wasn't worth being with! This is what I learnt!
@greeneyedlady (1439)
• Netherlands
29 Mar 09
I think that you learned some very valuable lessons and I would hope that everyone would learn so many lessons so they would not make the same mistakes in the future.
For me, some of my past relationships have taught me valuable lessons like this but unfortunately my last one only taught me Never to get involved with a whack job!
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I've learned to be assertive, and to go with my gut instinct. I've also learned not to enable my partner.
Namaste-Anora
@LindsayF (2)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I think that you should invest in anything that you believe in, and if it's a relationship, then invest in it. If the relationship does not work out, then you at least learn from it. Only invest in a relationship that you think is worth it, however. Don't start a relationship just because you want a relationship or because you're desperately looking. Make sure it's the right person. Investing in something you don't believe in is not worth it.
@snowy22315 (182203)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Apparently, nothing, because I am in a fairly bad relationship right now. I think that sometimes things just happen especially when you ignore your intution or your better judgment, then it is up to you to either make it work somehow, or to let it go, with all the pain that entails.
@handsomeitaliano (1050)
• United States
27 Mar 09
The relationship I'm right now is like a miracle, we are exactly alike, been together for almost 3 years now, no problems at all.
The ones I've had before this were like out of a Friday the 13th or Freddy kruger movie, seriously.
@arnon29 (52)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Mar 09
well i've learned dat if u love a person u should show it to him let him feel dat u love him and care for him even the small things count. learn to appreciate the things his doing. u'll never know coz time is so short so while your love ones is still alive try to give him all the best that u can give. coz thats what i've missed in life i thought we still have a long way to go thats why i withold my feelings. i seldom smile or appreciate d things his showing to me, i never tell him how much i love him. till d day that God call him already. I never had the chance to tell him how much i love him. so let the person feel ur love while his still there.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I have learned that no matter the promises made, actions speak louder than words.
You can love someone and hate them, and you can live someone and no longer like them at all.
That my mistakes have helped me to appriciate real love and a good relationship.
That being a real man does not depend on a persons age but how he treats you and those around you.
My husband has taught me that there are things more important than intamacy, and things less important too. And that while getting along with each others family is important, at the end of the day it is more important to get along with each other.
@cassandradab (400)
• South Korea
27 Mar 09
i been in some relationship and it take me down,i met a nice and vbery caring guy i my college he is so kind and thoughful,after a month of courtship i accept ita nd we become a couple after a week i heard that he is married and have 1 kid it was rediculous and i dont want to accept it but the truth is true,since then i learn how to be wise and smart,i learned my lesson to him,
@tontunan (254)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
Me, I learned not to trust somebody unless I know him well. I learned not to make quick decisions for regrets do not come first. I used to have long dating with someone and accept to build a relationship when I already know him much that I could trust him. For trusting someone doesn't come is easy way. It might hurt you once you are betrayed by someone whom you really trusted.
I also learned to value promises. I do not believe on the saying " Promises are made to be broke. " I value my promises as much as I could because it reflects our loyalty, honesty and trustworthiness. Only liars break promises.