The "If Onlies"

I was with someone for 14 years... and like you... I wish things could have been different. But the fact is... they were not. I was talking to her last December... and I was shocked to discover that after all those years... she was still the same person and had not grown up. If the both of you had changed for the better and you were more compatible today... you could try again. But if you have not changed... leave it alone.

i'm so sorry for what has happened to you. i believe that everything happens for a reason and i think what has been should remain in our memory and hearts but we should never forget that we should be enjoying our lives instead of regretting. believing that makes me think that i lost someone because there's someone better and so i never regret losing my previous relationships though i still treasure them in my heart.

with me it is an ongoing thing, I wish I was a different kind of mother to my son when he was growing up, I did the best I could but others could have done better. I can't change that but I wish it had been different

I was with a man for almost 9 years, what came between us was the fact I got a job that paid more than he was making after 20 years and some big mouths that couldn't lt it be and stayed on him that he was no longer the bread winner, till he made it impossible for us to stay together. We stopped doing and going any where. Till I finally gave it up. 9 years because of b/s. I moved on to Louisiana, but my thoughts of him has never left me. I recently returned to the state we was in and moved into a apartment 2 doors over from his mom. Although I loved her, I didn't go around, didn't want to cause a problem. But if I had it to do over again, and I could have who I wanted I would take him back. We had such good times and I miss them, I have been married to a great guy for 15 years but it is not the same. I know it is agains tgod's will that you think of someone else, but I just can't help to wonder if that dang job didn't cost me the best thing I had in my life.

I used to have a whole storage unit of if onlies kat honey but for every one of them I realised it cost me so much to keep and that if the if only part had happened then other good things might never have been! So all in all I do try very , very hard to avoid them. Granted I don't always succeed but I do try! Hugs xxx

No. There is none. I am happy with my life. I am blessed to have a good family.

Hi kb, You know even when we think we have the right person in our lifes, things change and we will ask ourself why. I'm been married 17 years, I don't know if thing will change in the next couple of year or tommrrow. I sometimes think about this one guy, what if we have gotten together, would we still be together, would he treat me like my husband does? Would I be better off? I often wonder. I wish I could had a chance with him. I'll never know, one thing I do know, is that when he was married both cheated on each other. He is now divorce. my husband has never cheated on me, and though we may not have a lot, I know I can tell my husband anything. If it was meant to be with another person, I believe it would have been. We have our on destination with a certain someone. Our lifes are all mapped out, we can change if we like.