Obsessed with her new boyfriend

March 27, 2009 2:18pm CST
I have a best mate who I have known for years and she has always been there for me and has always been such a good friend. We always used to go out for a night on the town once a month, after pay week and have a good girly night out. We also used to meet weekly, for a catch up drink and to see each other. Ever since she has got with ehr new boyfriend everything is about him now. The catch up drinks we used to have weekly have stopped because she see's her boyfriend every night. We have arrange to go out this weekend for the first time in about 4 weeks and she's told me she's not dirnking because she has to go drive and meet her boyfriend at midnight, so whe wont be coming clubbing. I also told her something in private the other week and I found out she told her boyfriend, and he has the biggest mouth ever! I'm really please she has found someone and is happy but I am not happy the way she has been lately. Opinions please, do I say something to her?
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hcromer
@hcromer (2710)
• United States
27 Mar 09
This same thing recently happened with me and my best friend. Unfortunately as you grow older priorities change and relationships seem more important to people than friendships. Give her a while, once the honeymoon period is over with she will probably want to spend time with you again. You might want to say something to her about it, let her know that your feelings are hurt and see if it does any good. It didn't for me though :(
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Soteira
@Soteira (75)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I have been through the same thing with my best friend. When she gets a new boyfriend all her time goes to him. She has had guys in the past that got use to being her first priority so when she tries to stop they get controlling. I think it is healthy to have a balanced social life, equal time with friends and lovers. Mention casually to your friend that you miss your time together and you miss your friend. Try not to come off as rude or demanding but its important as friends to let her know how you feel. Her relationship is still at that new and exciting stage so hang in there, things will probably go back to normal in no time!
pardhu8
@pardhu8 (390)
• India
27 Mar 09
So sad to here buddy.I think you almost got depressed with your friend.My best suggestion is just leave her to go on her way.Just for a change why can't you hangout with your other buddies? Don't stick for only one person to hangout with you.Be friendly with all your mates then you feel better.