Sometimes, a suggestion might backfire

Ah. You have been quite observant of people's reactions. It happens quite often as you say. People have all kinds of views and expectations, especially girls. Even though we have the right intentions, many people misinterpret and misunderstand what we mean. But that only shows what they are thinking and it is not about you. So you need not worry. Sometimes, we blame ourselves and stop making suggestions but that also is misinterpreted by others. So i suggest that you need to only observe the reactions and not take them very seriously. If someone objects, you can stick your ground saying that it is what you think right, without any offense.

Good day... I think suggestion that is said mildly and clearly should always be perceived as constructive. I mean suggestions are essential for it could further and make better an idea. Faults could be prevented and resources could be preserved and use for other purposes.

I think your gonna find that with just about everything and everyone. Sometimes it's all in how things are handled on how it's gonna go over with the people you are talking too. Some people taking constructive suggestions as insults, no matter how you word it or how nice you come off. Even though, I have found this to happen with me, I just take that chance and put things out there because even though they may not go over well when first spoken, later someone may rethink it and go... wow that was a good idea, let's try it. I am one to speak up and not get embarrassed or upset over something that i've said. And if it's something that I truely believe in, I will stand loud and proud on it.

I think the method of suggestion is very important. Sometimes you should express your idea in a tactful way that some body cannot accept direct criticisms or just comments. Maybe it is because of self-respect.

you both working together ? i worked together with my hubby, when come to suggestion we both always get into argument . i think this is normal to every couple. but to me i always tell him since we worked together will hurt our relationship i rather we don't work together, you work yours, i work mine. but sometime i say that my heart broke . i really hope forever we just work forever like this , but due to suggestion we really need to work out something. if you work with your girl friend you should plan out something than work hurt your love.

I do agree with you .We might sometimes cause backfire because someone else couldnt fully understand what you mean . I think we should all communicate with each other as much as possible,and make each other know what we really want from her or him ,that is very important . good communication is the most important thing we need to learn about how to get a good friendship or other relationship . as long as we respect each other'opinions and send them a message of our own in a correct way ,I think we could get a better result! good luck to you ,my friend

hi clorissa, i think it depends more how you say it and not really the thing that you said. And try asking a lot of questions first, cause sometimes the suggestions are not fitted to the situations that's they reject it. Let them talk and talk about the matter first, before you suggest anything. And most of all, wait for them to ask suggestions from you then that's the best time to give it to them. Don't be sad whenever they reject your suggestions, in the first place, it is not you that they are rejecting, so they take it personally. And besides, your concern shows so at least you've done your part. =)