Why, oh why?

I have had some, quite a lot recently, of them too. I wonder the same thing. How do they find me, what reason is ther to request immediately like that but then I also wonder if they are really as 'new' as they appear to be or if they have just beeen through the wash

I get this all the time too fwidman. Either I get a friend request by a person with no points yet (how do they find me?) or if they do have points haven't replied to any of my discussions. I have about two people that constantly keep asking me to be their friend...never replied to any of my discussions...I look at their profile and it's loaded with banners for making money so I'm thinking this is a "friend" collector that wants to spam people--sometime ago, there used to be a person here with only four points yet had over 10,000 friends listed....yes 10,000 like huh?

I will normally decline the request as it really makes no sense? Haha!~Like you said, they should really like at least make an effort to respond to discussions or even start a discussion?

I kinda ignore them for a while. They need to start responding in my opinion to see if they like the site or not or will be a huge waste of their time, and mine too.

hi fwid...i've been scarce myself. i've had such friend requests as well. anymore i check a person out before approving them as a friend. i don't accept someone who is only wanting friends to launch a sales pitch to. i check to see if the person is either involved in other discussions or has started a real discussion. those people i approve. then ryc some people request to be friends here at myLot to feel better about themselves i guess. maybe they don't know what they're doing here.

Hey fwidman! You are not the only one! There has been quite alot of that happening lately! In this week alone I have also received quite a few "suspicious" friend requests that are also as you described! I have no idea how they know who we are and why they pick us so that makes me very uncomfortable. I will first check their profile and see who else they have on their friends list. I sometimes will take a chance and then other times I won't! But, I still remain suspicious. One person that I did accept emailed me within two minutes requesting referals. That was the end for him!

I have never figured this one out as well, and really wish that the New people would be active in here before trying to add everyone to their friends list. Because a lot of them will SPAM you once you decide to accept their friendship I refuse to allow a lot of the New ones on my list until they prove themselves for sure. If people could learn this is a Great place to meet others and make friends but you need to do your part here as well.

I'll approve them if they are over 300 only.

i approved them. they also don't ask to be your friend. you also can give you response. and in mylot no one know where you are, and who are you . so you can say what you want to say. and first follow the rule. then you will get what you want. i come here for friend. and wish some day i can go to abroad.

I've had a lot. I used to accept but now I let them stew awhile in the "friend request" and watch the activity. After a while I might accept.

I only take friends who have at least three hundred posts as otherwise you fill your self up and never get any response I have rejected a few but not many .Not only that you can read and see if they will suit you as well,I had a friendship request from a young lad whos subjects where football,American that is,basket ball and ice hockey lovely boy but I could not expect him to read my discussions and I did not understand anything he wrote so I rejected him as a friend .It was a shame as talking to young people is interesting ,having the youngsters view on things in very enlightening but you cannot win them all.xxx

I have had quite a few people that have wanted to be a friend even though they have responded to a handful of discussions. To be honest I have never rejected a friendship request as I think everyone does deserve a go. After all, who am I to judge? However, seeing as I have been on myLot for around 6 months I have been considering doing a spring clean through my friend list and perhaps removing those that have not done anything on here for a considerable amount of time.

hello there, i find this very strange.........people who are not active, why will they just go on making friends here?........may be they are new to this place and trying to contact others here........it has never happened to me. have a nice day.

people alwasy like to be respeted .it doesnt matter whether you approve them as your friends . wo come here to communicate and exchange ideas , i think people will automatically be aware of what is more important and waht should they do :)

I have been here for almost 2 years maybe a little more and it has been on and off a little bit because of school and family keeping me busy with a lot of crisis' lately. But know that's I'm able to be on a normal basis I always answers my friends discussions first, then go to the hot topics of the day and if I find that someone has really posted and fairly interesting discussion that I respond to I put in a request for them after I check the background of their profile. And I have to say it's been quite successful. The friends I have a very nice when it comes to responding to me and my topics. I like to have as many friends as I can but if the are someone with one like 50 or 60 posts I'm a little leary, but I do give them a chance and if they drop of the raday for a few months I take them off my list. The more quality friends you have here the more help they give when it comes to helping you with problems, giving advice, redipes or just make you feel better when you're down in the dumps. Hope we can be friends cuz that was a great post. I look for the sensibilty of their posts too. If they post like 10-15 discussions everday and they're only one word thins like do you like basketball, things like that I know I won't have anything in common with them, although I do watch for their future discussions they post to ssee if the discussions they write as they get more aquainted here improve and if they ever respond to me, the I would accept. Just keep and open mind and do what you feel is right for you. D~

Hi fwidman, I have had quite a few friends requests but I do look at their profile now before accepting them, yet those I do have as friends when I start a discussion I never seem to get a reply from them, or they never seem to do a discussion, sometimes I go through my friends list and delete those I don't hear from...at the moment it really seems quiet anyway...littleowl

Hi My Shopping Buddy!!.. I am away more than i used to be and find all sorts thinking they want to be my friend also..Why i don't know?, but now i go eeinie meeanie and choose that way...lol.. Now with you i know why we are friends..huggs and kisses

Hi fwidman, Yes I have notice that as well and I had to go b ack into to my friends list and delete them, why do they do that? juust ask for friends request and nothing, are they just makeing a big friends list on their profile to make them feel popular, think not. Tamara

I think I've gotten a few of those. I just accept all of my friend requests. I also get people requesting to be my friend that have only replied to 5-10 discussions. That's okay. Atleast they are making a contribution to mylot.

I read a similar thread to this, and it seems to be: go to as many sites as possible (or 'employ' others on freelance sites to do it for you) Ask for friend requests. Those who accept - annoy them by posting endless PMs for affiliate links. Remember - you can't PM anyone until they're on your friends list. Best thing to do is report them to the admin so they can be blacklisted. Thought: MyLot won't let me cut and paste legitimately (e.g. when I want to move bits of my post around before submitting) yet they allow people who have no intention of ever posting ANYTHING to scam other members like this. Something is wrong somewhere.