If you were he...
By kekexinfeng
@kekexinfeng (1295)
China
March 28, 2009 4:16am CST
I have a friend,his mother and father don't love each other now,and his mother is very pain,she wants to divorce with his father,and my friend is very pain too,he feel very helpless,and can't do anything,I don't know how to help him,so i ask all the friends in mylot,I want to know if you has this experience,how do you do,and if you were he,what will you do?
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5 responses
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
your friend is having a hard time right...that's for sure, the family that he had will soon and no longer within his reach.
if i were in his shoes, i would try my very best to save the marriage of my parents not for the sake of the whole family. i never ever want a broken family for any reason at all. i would never accept that.
first thing i would do is to talk to both my parents but not in front of each other, i would talk to one of them first and hear their side of story of what's wrong and what's the reason behind it.
after hearing both sides and knowing who's fault it is (if there is), then that is something that can be settled in a peaceful manner.
i do believe that every conflict can be settled through a peaceful talk. and every one even relationship/marriage deserves a second chance.
it's hard to live in a complicated family having a separated parents.
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@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
30 Mar 09
It sounds so ideal,he had tried,but it does nothing,because his parents are so hard to persuade,he has no way to do.However,thank you for you suggestion!
@sinokirin (900)
• China
28 Mar 09
If i were he, i would......
what can i do? i am confused. why love? how long would it keep on? i have no idea.
Love is emotion, sometimes comes so fast, and go so soon.
what could we persuade the love stay when it had gone for so long time.
We have to choice disappointed results but laugh at it in our life,no reason,no reason.
Everything would go just it like to......
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@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
30 Mar 09
You have good mond,but love is the most important between two paople,but it is not easy to keep on!
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@maomaoxiong (19)
• China
30 Mar 09
It is hard to solve this question if I were he,I think we should love our parents,but it is so bad if they don't love each other!
What we should do...
I am sorry I don't know...
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
28 Mar 09
I am sorry for your friend.Each and every family has its own tension and divorce should not be the result.But,if that mother had suffered much from her husband and thinks a divorce could make her breathe freely,then we should respect it.Ask your friend to extend supportive hands to his mother as a token of understanding.
@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
29 Mar 09
I agree with you,I think happiness is the most important,thank you for your words!
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@windsen (12)
• China
29 Mar 09
What's the real problem behind the divorce intent?I guess it might be that either of his parents's seeing another one at the same time.If he want to be help of this affaird,he's supposed to find out the one who got involved in his parents' relationship and then have a talk with that person personally.But i believe that might be a tough negotiation!Good luck to your friend!
