Are you Afraid to entered in a relationship?
By Gladys22
@Gladys22 (416)
Philippines
March 28, 2009 9:26am CST
When I was 15 years old My Mother always reminds me not to enter in a relationship, I Obeyed her.
I always kept to listening Radio Drama, On tv and also in a reality i haved some doubt for that relationship cause some of them say's they are having trouble for their relationships which is not good for me to heard. but im not Afraid of it.
Being in relationship it's depends to you to Put your life on to you.
Just be your self. Love more your self first than any one. time will came your relationship running for reasonable and memorable. Are you afraid on it? and why??
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16 responses
@intari (190)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 09
thank u Gladys for what you've wrote.i am afraid with relationship. i just try relationship from the outside not inside.i mean,the deeper relationship like being lover or engagement. i see that so much pain in relationship and sacrifice especially for a woman.my big sisters and aunty's relationship gave so many sacrifice and suffer for them
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
It's a part in relationship to felt hurting, sacrifice to make them happy.
but it doesn't a reason for us to afraid from it but we should learn from our experiences from our past. actually today me and my bf got breaking our relationship it's not working maybe not only me not happy in our relationship but both. it's hurt but i need to move on for good. i find some activities to help me to kept moving on.. activities for making me feel better and i believe he/she meant for me and i meant for him God gave a way to make it fine. in our situation i know it's hurt but kept believing to our god. just pray for it. and i assured you he always listened. God Bless You!!!! take care.
@berrys (864)
• Singapore
29 Mar 09
I love relationship its so fun, and sweet. I've been in the same relationship since I was 15 and my guy is still the same funny, charming sweetheart. He still opens the door for me, pulls out my chair, take into consideration what I want as well as his, always helps out with the chores, never ever let his grumpy side show. Even if he gets sack he won;t take out his anger on me. or be really pissed that I find him in a bar at he middle of a night half drunk. I guess what I'm trying to say is that relationships are hard. but not impossible. SO don't be afraid and just jump in there.
@elainepham (80)
• Australia
2 May 09
Sometimes, people seems to be afraid of new relationship. Just beacause more love more hurt and risky.
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
i like a relationship which your loves care of you.
he loves you always, he know's how to comfort you
he love's you not just because he needs you besides
when the rain cames but just because he loves you deeper and deeper
no lies, there's pain sometime's but it will be solved.
@loneleaf (165)
• China
4 Apr 09
What relationship?Excuse me, I can not understand what you mean.
If you say the action about communication to others, I think this is out of reason. We are human and the most important charactersitc is sociability, so enter in a relationship is nesssary!
We all have fellowship, family and kinds of relationship and because of these, the life can show very happy and beautiful, so I am not afraid on it and like to enter relationship without any thinking!
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
relationship means commitment for someone you love most
but we have defferent asfect how to handle a situation we have also
different ideas and thoughts.
some people afraid in commitment because base on their experince
they had an major troma we called those people need more to be matured
in situation. we cannot blamed them also.
but time will came they realize in relationship its amazing to eneterd on it.
@vheilugto (149)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
no, I'm not! it's normal to have a problem within the relationship coz if you dont know how to face it, you can not be matured and u can not be called a human. life is a constant change, so everything happen its happens. so if i hurt, then life must go on!
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
yes.. you haved a point. im on stage of now for separating
with my ex-bf but im not afraid on it too.
i know there's a reason why it happened for my relationship
God only knows the fact.
it's hurt but we should be strong from it.
he are always change his mind
they saying bad words to me and afterwards he say sorry for it and for
asking another and another many many times for it.
@kirei24 (251)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
No,im not. Being afraid in entering a relationship wont do you good. You should always accept the fact that the world is not perfect as well as in entering a relationship. Being hurt is just a part of it. Its always up to you and depends on how you will handle your relationship with your partner. If anything goes wrong try to solve it in a mature manner. No problem in this life that you cant be solved or survive. Just believe in yourself. Dont be afraid.
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
thank you For posting your opinion and you some people who's read your opinion
we can help them through this.. especially those who are afraid on it.
every person have a reason why they are afraid on it.. but it's a part also they felt cause to make then realize and to make then grow for their future.
they learnt from their wrong ways and make it correctly.
God Bless you!! and kept Posting her.
@elainepham (80)
• Australia
30 Mar 09
when i was your age, i also same you. But, i am not exactly same. I do not like to go shopping or playing game after school. I often go straight to my home. But, i was still spending time for firends. I love quite and do my favourite activities such as playing piano, reading book, picture-book, watch cartoon or movies, listening music, and practise kungfu.
At this time, my mom feel free and can control me. However, she often said that she was worried to me because i did not have any experience with relationships. In the future, it seems to be seroius.
But it does not means i am afraid of relationship.
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
don't afraid on it. all of us felt hurting before we can find a better man and woman for us. just pray to God always and he will given you the right one for you. but in your case at on your age. there's no reason to be afraid maybe you still love that woman whom the reason why you'll still afraid..Kept safe.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
I do not think that entering a relationship is something to afraid for. If you enter into a relationship, it involves pain and hurt. Expect that it is not perfect and that you may experience happiness and pain. Whatever it may lead you is a learning experience.
If you never experience pain, you will never learn. If you do not risk something, you will never gain anything. To love and be in a relationship is every person's dealings in life. It is part of life. Handling it depends on the people or couple involve in it. When relationships won't work does not mean that it always apply to everyone. It really depends on the couple.
Who have seen a relationship that is perfect? I don't think that kind of relationship exists for nothing is perfect here on earth. One reason of one's fear in entering a relationship is because he/she fears to be hurt and the feeling of getting ignored and rejected. Again, it is part of life.
@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
28 Mar 09
We should never afraid of relationship. Because we are due to the relationship and we are for the relationship. We all are social animals and we could not alive without relationship. relationship is basic need of our life. therefore we should never afraid of relationship.
@kassdaw (591)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I say jump into the relationship, or trip and fall into it which ever happens. I'm getting divorced and I'm in a great relationship. I've seen so many end in pain, but if you are afraid of the pain how will anyone ever get the chance to love you. The greatest saying is "Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game." That can be applied to love and relationships as well. People who fear love and relationships don't deserve it.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
28 Mar 09
I was in relation in the past and now that is on. Now if you ask me are you afraid of entering into a relationship I would say a "no". This is so because the definition of this relation would be different now.
This would be a brotherly or sisterly one, or a friendship and any relation. It is not necessary that relation should denotes only love relation.
@moneymakeronline (135)
• China
29 Mar 09
Sometimes like when i feel upset i will lost in a bad relationship and that time i dn not like to be any part of a relationship.
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
maybe you're not ready to haved a relationship don't force your self to entered on it. don't Feel bad into relationship. it's a part into a relationship haved broken and it's not right one for you. love your self first learn from your past don't waste your time for someone who's not loves you.. there's a lot of people in this world. just be patience for on it.
@la_chique (1498)
•
28 Mar 09
I have never been afraid of entering into a relationship.
I dont have a great relationship with my parents but they are still together, strong as anything and I can count the number of arguments they have had on one hand. I think that their relationship has encouraged me to want a similar one, and I have been with my parnter now for 6 yrs. We have the same views on most things and it just works really.
@Lovenlust72 (1)
• Australia
29 Mar 09
If you never enter into a relationship you are forfeiting the chance to find true love, to have many happy times, fullfiling shared experiences. However you are also freeing yourself from the chance of heartbreak, being in a bad relationship and such. Sometimes you have to take a chance. Sure you avoid the bad by not getting into one, but you also miss out on the good stuff.
I think when anyone is contemplating getting into a relationship for the first time it is a bit scary. That's not a bad thing, that's just normal. Never let fear prevent you from doing something. It is fear of failure that stops millions of people fulfilling their dreams. Sure there is always a chance of failure but the rewards are worth it.
@tontunan (254)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
I started to enter in a relationship when I was 14 years old. I wasn't afraid because there is nothing wrong with trying. We could not really know how good or how bad being in a relationship if we won't try.
I found out that being in a relationship could add color to your life. You could learn,teach and share. And also you could be able to identify the ideal man/woman for you once you enter in a relationship, not only once but as long as you are free...happy mylotting...
