Does it bother you to call people?

There are a lot of times I have felt this way for sure. Especially when you might feel like you could be bugging them by trying to call them so much. There are many people that I actually now Text more than talking to them on the phone, or I will Text them first and make sure it is OK to call them. I am not sure where this comes from, unless due to talking on the phone all of the time at work makes me not want to call people anymore.

Calling is one of the most scary things for me to do in life. I've experienced a lot of situations in which they say:" Why the heck are you calling, just text next time or bugger off". Since i'm a sensitive person I just can't handle those reactions. Furthermore I'm afraid that there will be big moments of silence during the phone talk or friends who as a matter of joke say:" Give me the joint" giving me a bad status. But i¨ve been practising calling for a few months now and it does help a lot. First you call people you know, and if it helps you, you tell them it´s to overcome your fears of calling. ( if they are close friends they will understand your situation almost always) If you find this too hard, write some sentences you can say in case you don't know what to say anymore, examples are: Beginning of the call: "How are you doing?" "I'm calling you because i'd like to know how you're doing" " I haven't seen you for a while so what do u think about going to the movies" Mid section of the call can be used to gossip about people, talk about the news... just what you think is appropriate to talk about ( also depends on the person you're calling, it's not recommended to ask a straight man to ask whether he thinks Brad Pitt is attractive... well it is if you wanna make sure you never have to call your friends anymore... just because you dont have em :P) If you suddenly stutter, dont worry just cough as in:"ekhm" everyone stutters sometimes it's no crime... Lets go to the next step: Calling a helpdesk. It's important to briefly describe your problem in a clear way. Remember it's just to practice, you are allowed to make mistakes. And if the person on the other side doesnt understand what you say they will say so and youll be given the opportunity to rephrase yourself. Once again don't hesitate to take notes prior and during the call. At least these things helped me overcome a great deal of my calling fears... IMPORTANT: Always ask whether the person on the other side has enough time to talk to you ( if youre calling a friend...) you can always propose to call back later. These are my two cents ( Hopefully a lot more... nhahah :))Sorry for my english its not my mother tongue

Then i guess you won't be able to get a job from a call center job handling outbound calls because most of the time we do call our customers and i do call them every time of the day and it really sucks. I understand what you are trying to say and for me , i do find it uncomfortable too when i try to call people who are busy and doing something and they are also not interested being called when it comes to marketing some products or asking them for credit card or loans.

It does bothers but what if we are in emergency? I make only emergency calls and sometime like on weekends I call my firends in my free time to have a chat and my friends even if they are busy they never show as if they I have disturbed them. I hardly make calls and throughout the week I make professional calls as to contact my clients. I don't actually dislike calling people but yes I do think once before calling anyone and do check time and accordingly I make calls.

i hate when people call me, like when im at dinner or something. thats why i like texting becuase you dont have to respond to the text. you can just let it sit there. or if somebody calls me i ust hit decline and text them; "il call you later" or something like that but it's not polite to call when somebodys busy.

it bothers me when somebody calls me when im at dinner, or something thats why i like texting because you dont HAVE to respond to the text you can just let it sit there till your done doing what you do. and its not such a hastle

You have a point there.I just do not call people for a pointless chit chat.I just won't be knowing in what serious or bad situation of mood they are.If I call people it is only on valid reasons.I also liked to be called on reasons of importance.I am very precise in my talking over the phone.

I don't mind receiving calls from my friends, which leads me to think that they don't mind me calling them up either. I call up my friends and my family whenever I have to talk to them or whenever I miss them. I have some friends who send me a message first before they call me up. They sometimes ask 'can i call?'. I think that is nice and polite, however, I really appreciate being remembered, and I like it talking to them. Have a great day!

Hi, sameroad! Sometimes, I dislike calling certain people too. These people act like they don't like to answer the phone. They act like they aren't home, but I know that they are home. And I don't like calling people who ask too many personal questions, or they may always fuss about many things to me. The only time it bothers me to call someone is when I am nervous to talk to them because I have many things that I want to say to them. To be honest with you, I really don't call people as much as I used to. I don't like chatting on the telephone for very long hours. I like to meet them in person instead. It does not really bother me to call people, but only certain people.

yeah i feel the same way too as you do. cause i feel that i may happen to call them when they are most busy and so i am afraid to pick up the phone and then dial their number. i don't want to hear their voice like they are trying to rush up the conversation. that just tells me that they are too busy to given time for me and that i should say my goodbye if i don't want them to say it to me directly. cause sometimes people will try to be polite but sometimes they have nothing else to do but tell us directly. and so i make sure when i am going to call them that i have something really important to say so that they will glued to what i am going to say and that they will not going to drop the phone on me. and i will not feel that they are avoiding me. i know what it feels when you are busy and someone is trying to bother you by frequent calls. sometimes the calls are not so important. i just wanted to talk to people when the calls are for important reason and if not i don't want to entertain the call as much as possible.

I totally despise telephones and telephone calls. I make very few out unless absolutely necessary, and I have caller ID on incoming, so that I can screen which ones I want to pick up. I have hated telephones all of my life because I don't want to be bothered. When cellphones became popular, I didn't get one because I DON'T WANT TO BE DISTURBED when I'm not at home. I also can't see paying somebody for the privilege of talking. When I worked in an office, I would walk over to speak with someone rather than calling them on an extension.

I really dislike calling people too. In fact, I dont really call unless I have a specific reason. I am also afraid that I am bothering people. And when I have to call a business to inquire about something, I feel like they are always in a hurry to rush me off the phone. It just does not feel comfortable. When I was younger, I would spend hours on the phone, but not now..I spend as little time as possible..Unless its my daughter, I cant get her off the phone!!...lol.. The other thing I always wonder is if the person Im calling is going to remember who I am. Silly, but thats how I feel if I call a friend whom I have not talked to in years.

im interested to call people specially if i have an important thing to ask,inquire and verify little things. so that if i have plans to be made a matter of time wont be wasted. any task to be made can be carried out easily. it is better to ask than to be pretending u know something u dont know. u maybe a mess & surely ur cheating ur self then....

no.i will try first,who knows they are waiting for your call,.nothing wrong with that if you will try..ask them "hey are you busy"if yes,just say "fine call you later"..easy

Yes actually it does bother me to call people sometimes. It never used to bother me so much but I think now that I work at a call centre dealing with irate customers all day, I'm just so sick of hearing people on the phone, haha. I do worry too though that I might be bothering someone cause I know there are times when people call me and I just don't feel like talking, I should shut off the phone but then I need it someone has an emergency and needs to reach me...

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I hate calling people simply because the whole thing makes me feel uncomfortable. I hate trying to call someone and then end up getting a busy signal or hate when I call and no one answers the phone. My biggest issue is calling for a specific person and then not getting ahold of that person because they're not around. It makes me feel like I'm being avoided or something.

Oh don't think in that way,we are usual men,we all need communication and chating to others ,if you call someone in right time ,it is ok ,and he is very glad to connect you,unless he is a unusual man.so pls call him freely and you are not wrong.

I always make myself talk to the point by cell or phone.You know,the puepose that we call somebody is to make communication more convenient and quick;if we do not use phone,some important information may be delayed.So,do not worry about it if you have to call people.Talk as clearly as possible.

yes I feel the same as you.Even calling to my husband bothers me a lot because I dont want to dusturb him while working.But my husband said dont be.