What will you if you find out that your bf/gf is already married?

i will surely die, my gosh...hope this wont happen to me..imagining that you are so inlove with that girlfriend of yours or with that boyfriend of yours thinking that they are the same levels with you as single then knowing after all that they are already married. my gosh..it's painful and hurtful..

i will leave him if he's already married and have children... just say good bye to him... bye bye my love...

gosh, from the very beginning, i will ask him whats her status in life, and theres no point in lying., i mean a guy cant lie to me. LOL because in my part, my life is an open book. so from the very beginning, i will know if his married or not.

hello for all !! i think have a gf / bf is something which is not good , because we can have a problems like that ( find that she/he is already married ) in the future , so i prefer have a friend rather than have a gf / bf .

If I did not already know, I would move on. If it was a happy marriage, she/he would not have become your bf/gf. I wouldn't consider it me destroying the marriage, it is the partner that is cheating with me that is destroying it.

WOW! u seem to be a very kind man n30wing but if that happend to me i am sure the guy will have a really hard time , cos he cheated not only me but also his wife n once a cheater is always a cheater ! i will make sure his wife knows all he was doing behind her back so that he does not repeat that mistake ever!

Hi n3, It is very painful but the best thing here is to stay away and never allow yourself to be the reason to destroy a family and hurt people.... It takes time to heal but I know it gives you a lot of lesson..Good luck!

Even though this is a hypothetical question for me I would have to end it then and there. There is no point in continuing a relationship with someone if they are already married. And since they are cheating on their spouse they (at least the one that is cheating) must not be happy or satisfied in the relationship, otherwise they wouldn't have any reason to go behind their spouse's back and cheat in the first place if their marriage was a happy one.

if i found this out I'd be pretty ticked off and hurt by the lie and omission of a current marriage. I wouldnt be able to trust the person after that so I'd be saying good bye we're over and be done with it. I'd have serious issues trusting someone who already cheated on someone they were married to. As well as knowing that they lied to me or even just ommited something as important as a marriage. I dont want to be a home wrecker.

thats a tough one dear well i've been there but it was a dating status split up with the guy if you find out if its a happy marriage and if the guy has a kid, its hard i know it is but you don't want to be the family wrecker. its not easy i know but i guess its better if you don't settle to be a number two.. and it does not look good promise!

Same here, I'd say goodbye as soon as I learned that he is married. I'd rather be alone than be with someone that can never be mine.. Happy posting!

You're so matured to opt to leave her... Though I feel sorry for what has happened to you, I'm also glad that there are people like you who'd decide to do what's right... My friend has been married with her husband for five years and her husband met a girl and he secretly had an affair... The girl didn't know that he was married, well because he did not say... So they went on with the relationship.. But as we know, no secrets aren't revealed by time, so the girl found out about the status of the guy, yet chose not to leave him... My friend and her husband got separated because the guy chose the girl... The ones most affected was their kids... I Thought, If I was the girl and found out that my bf is already married, I'd opt to leave him, just like you did... One because he did not respect me by making me number two, and he took me as an idiot to make me destroy a family... I'd also take on the pain and burden to sacrifice the relationship. At least that way, I'm the only one hurt... and that way, I spared the feelings of his kids and his wife... ^_^

I personally am married, & dont have to worry about experiencing this, but my friend went through this with a guy recently. It becomes a horrible situation. If you find out someone is married, & your dating them, you never know the whole story & it ALWAYS turns out horrible for everyone in the end.It's not worth it.

I started seeing a guy about 6 years ago. We would communicate online alot via web cam and just emailing back and forth when we couldn't get together in person and do things. We'd been seeing each other for about 3 months. He even invited me to go to some fancy gala thing in Washington D.C. with him, offered to take me shopping to buy a formal gown and everything. About a week later we were on the phone and as we were saying goodnight, I said, "glad you aren't married!". About an hour later I received an email from him telling me that he actually was married and that he didn't tell me because he and his wife were "separated" and he didn't know what was going to happen. However, it looked like they might be going to work things out. I was really, really mad. The thing that got me about him was that every time we met up with each other we would talk for hours and hours. He talked alot about having integrity and honesty. I called him up right away and told him he was a self-serving blankety blank and that he had NO integrity at all and was nothing but a liar. Of course, a few weeks later he tried to get back in my good graces without success. About 2 years ago, he invited me to join my space. When I looked at his profile all his friends were various women around the country. lol What a jerk!

I would definitely be leaving them for their stupidity. If they want to hurt someone that way then they can but I'm not going to be a part of it. Anybody that can do that has some real issues. And truthfully - I don't think if someone is capable of doing that, that it would be a happy marriage.

Ahh.... if you don't love that "boyfriend/girlfriend" you should leave him/her,for ever.If you love him/her..try to resolve the problem.

If the partner of the boyfriend did not know, I would try to get my own back and arrange for the partner to catch us in the act. That would be a good revenge for me. Then I would leave him and not ever let hi back into my life.

Not matter how the marriage is? It is none of your business. I think the keypoint just as you have mentioned is the "honest". Love without honest would have no meaning to exist, I suggest you should say goodbye to the past, forget it and find a good one next

It was really happened to me several years ago. At that time she returned to her home town to discuss our plan of engagement with her parents. When I came to meet her two months later, her families refused and evict me. My girl friend had been married to other man! I was shocked, angry and sad. So all one. My heart was very broken. I did nothing to her and her parents. I think it was better to let her go. To ease the pain, I tried to accept this bitter reality and busied myself with various activities. It taked about six months for me to fully recover. Time will heal all wound, it's very true.

If it happened to me I would almost definitely leave them, if they've cheated on someone before who's to say they might not do it again? And I could not live with myself if I was to destroy a family. If the person was genuinely not happy with their marriage then I would recommend they end it soon so that person can move on without having to resort to cheating.