Do you have friends who are kind today and the next day are not?
By Bebs08
@Bebs08 (10681)
United States
March 29, 2009 6:22am CST
What I mean is they keep on changing they way they treated you. Today they smile ear to ear and hug you and the next time you meet them they don't even smile or say hi they just look at you and the next time they are again kind to you. I feel hurt with these kind of people. It makes me wonder.. WHAT DID I DO TO MAKE THEM TREATED ME THIS WAY? Did you experience people who are like these? I don't like to take t seriously but I am bothered. I just want to know how you deal with these kind of people. I am frustrated with them.
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15 responses
@SHEKHAR3009 (162)
• India
30 Mar 09
ya it depends on their mood one day they may be happy so they are kind one day and other day they may be sad and they are not...it completely depends from person to person...
bye
shekhar
india
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@SHEKHAR3009 (162)
• India
27 Apr 09
hi
even i am like u...i too have the same mentality..
i too drop those kind of friends...that way i dont
have any friends in life neither boy or gal...
i am always left alone....u too have to suffer
loneliness...but u can say ur not personality
oriented person but u have perfect individuality..
individuality is nothing godliness...enjoy and
be alone even jesus christ use to go over mountains
and be alone praying to god....we are truthful people...
nothing to worry...
bye
luv
shek
india
@SHEKHAR3009 (162)
• India
2 May 09
hi
i am unable to find your messages at your page...but i got ur mail...
bye
luv
shek
india
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Well the best way is not to take them seriously. If they are good today then don't be so attached always think ahead for you know already they'd chance the next day. Also as much as possible don't get involve or interact with them. If interacting is unavoidable then just consider them as part of life and don't get too affected. Just think more of the good and sincere friends you have rather than wasting your time worrying about the unstable people you meet around.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Hi Bebs! Those kinds of friends are the kind that I don't
want to bother with! We call them "fair weather friends"!
You never know how they are going to act towards you! Why
would you want to be friends with people who you always have
to wonder how they are going to act when they see you? They
make you uncomfortable and always keep you guessing like you
said and make you think that you did something when you know
that you didn't! You don't need those kind of people in your
life! They are too negative and aren't true friends. It is
different if once in awhile someone is having a bad day, but
to act that way continuously is just not right!
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
30 Mar 09
Well I must admit that I am that kind of person in my life. I didn't used to see straight while walking and if you are coming straight to me then also it may happen that I couldn't see you at all, in this way I am not neglecting you but I can't realize that it is you. Most of the time I kind of thinking all the times!
So, one day, one of my friends get really angry on me and that time onwards, he never smiled when we used to meet in the market !
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Oh!!! that is sad. yea, I understand now, there are people who are thinking a lot and they never realize that some of their friends are around. Well, that is excusable but when they are very kind to others and in you as if they don't know you? that is something strange. I don't like that.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
27 Apr 09
Hi Bebs, where were you these days, didn't see you for a while?
This is very difficult to understand whether the person is neglecting you or actaully thinking something else becasue if I will see some one in front of me with his/her head down then I will also think that s/he is neglecting me. Most of my frinds know about me and my habit of thinking while walking but this one was a new one so.. I am not angry on him as he did thr right thing as I started trying to look straight while waslking after that incident.
@sophie_dfuss (2365)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Sorry to hear that but some people are really like that.
Those kind of people are your friend today if you have so much money.
If you don't have money, they don't know you anymore.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Hi Bebs,
that's is weird! Well, I never experienced that...Kinda unusual!
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@silverjam (969)
• United States
31 Mar 09
Yes i met these kind of people but I don't really give them a damn; they are not worth my time or friendship tho although I smile or talked w/ them whenever possible just to be civil.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
yeah i have experienced that many times. and so i have learned that i should not go with those kind of people. i must go only with those who take for who i am and give me respect that we all should receive from other people we meet every day. i just ditch those kind of people who just treat me like a nobody who they can ignore when ever they want to for no apparent reason.
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@doris_wu (27)
• China
30 Mar 09
One of my roomates always do this to me. I wanted to know the reason as well. Sometimes she is good to me, but sometimes she don't even talk to me. The thing is, we live together, i just can't understand. I didn't do anything wrong, and i really want to find somebody talk about this.
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@jane9147 (252)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
i know people like that. i think we are friends but sorry to say that i was the only one who is thinking that we are friends. anyway, as time passes, i learn from them. now i just don't think like how i think before. if a person acts like that towards me, i just don't consider him/her as a friend. just that!
God Bless!
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@personaave (598)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
I know a lot of people who are like that, even I have mood swings sometimes. But if they treat you like that, I think that there may be something on their mind at that time. Probably something personal, too. I don't think that it's got something to do with you, though. Like what I've mentioned, I was like that, too. However, I try not to pour whatever's bugging me at the moment on other people, coz like you, they might misinterpret it.. But if your friends keep on doing that to you, Bebs08, I think you better talk to them and ask them why.. But try to do it in a friendly way, ok? Don't talk to them when you're pissed or it's not going to settle the issue.. ^_^