Do you have friends who are kind today and the next day are not?

@Bebs08 (10681)
United States
March 29, 2009 6:22am CST
What I mean is they keep on changing they way they treated you. Today they smile ear to ear and hug you and the next time you meet them they don't even smile or say hi they just look at you and the next time they are again kind to you. I feel hurt with these kind of people. It makes me wonder.. WHAT DID I DO TO MAKE THEM TREATED ME THIS WAY? Did you experience people who are like these? I don't like to take t seriously but I am bothered. I just want to know how you deal with these kind of people. I am frustrated with them.
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15 responses
• India
30 Mar 09
ya it depends on their mood one day they may be happy so they are kind one day and other day they may be sad and they are not...it completely depends from person to person... bye shekhar india
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
But I don't like that kind of attitude so, I will pretend that they don't exist even if they are around.
• India
27 Apr 09
hi even i am like u...i too have the same mentality.. i too drop those kind of friends...that way i dont have any friends in life neither boy or gal... i am always left alone....u too have to suffer loneliness...but u can say ur not personality oriented person but u have perfect individuality.. individuality is nothing godliness...enjoy and be alone even jesus christ use to go over mountains and be alone praying to god....we are truthful people... nothing to worry... bye luv shek india
• India
2 May 09
hi i am unable to find your messages at your page...but i got ur mail... bye luv shek india
@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Doesn't sound like real friends to me. Real friends would never ignore or treat you that way. I wouldn't worry about those type of people at all. Surround yourself with positive, polite people and your days will be brighter!
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Correct!!! the best thing to do is to ignore them.. I would want to feel that they don't exist when they are there.. hahahaha
• United States
3 Apr 09
Those aren't friends.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Well, I don't know how to call them because they are nice some other times and the next they are cold. If they are not friends, they can't be an enemy either...
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Well the best way is not to take them seriously. If they are good today then don't be so attached always think ahead for you know already they'd chance the next day. Also as much as possible don't get involve or interact with them. If interacting is unavoidable then just consider them as part of life and don't get too affected. Just think more of the good and sincere friends you have rather than wasting your time worrying about the unstable people you meet around.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Exactly right my friend.. I like your response to this topic.. That is really a good advice.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Hi Bebs! Those kinds of friends are the kind that I don't want to bother with! We call them "fair weather friends"! You never know how they are going to act towards you! Why would you want to be friends with people who you always have to wonder how they are going to act when they see you? They make you uncomfortable and always keep you guessing like you said and make you think that you did something when you know that you didn't! You don't need those kind of people in your life! They are too negative and aren't true friends. It is different if once in awhile someone is having a bad day, but to act that way continuously is just not right!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Oh!! that's a good term.. fair weather friend.. hahaha.. You are right,, it made you wonder? what did I do? why she is like that to me? I think you are right!! I will not bother myself thinking about it.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
30 Mar 09
Well I must admit that I am that kind of person in my life. I didn't used to see straight while walking and if you are coming straight to me then also it may happen that I couldn't see you at all, in this way I am not neglecting you but I can't realize that it is you. Most of the time I kind of thinking all the times! So, one day, one of my friends get really angry on me and that time onwards, he never smiled when we used to meet in the market !
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Oh!!! that is sad. yea, I understand now, there are people who are thinking a lot and they never realize that some of their friends are around. Well, that is excusable but when they are very kind to others and in you as if they don't know you? that is something strange. I don't like that.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
27 Apr 09
Hi Bebs, where were you these days, didn't see you for a while? This is very difficult to understand whether the person is neglecting you or actaully thinking something else becasue if I will see some one in front of me with his/her head down then I will also think that s/he is neglecting me. Most of my frinds know about me and my habit of thinking while walking but this one was a new one so.. I am not angry on him as he did thr right thing as I started trying to look straight while waslking after that incident.
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Sorry to hear that but some people are really like that. Those kind of people are your friend today if you have so much money. If you don't have money, they don't know you anymore.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
yea, they are your friends when they want something from you. You got it right!!!!
@subha12 (18441)
• India
30 Mar 09
It is there. Few friends are like that. they will act very nice with you one day to get advantage. when they have taken what they wanted, they will behave badly.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Well, I just hate to have that kind of people around me.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Hi Bebs, that's is weird! Well, I never experienced that...Kinda unusual!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Hi Che, It is really annoying to me.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
31 Mar 09
Yes i met these kind of people but I don't really give them a damn; they are not worth my time or friendship tho although I smile or talked w/ them whenever possible just to be civil.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Well, I am just uncomfortable when they are doing that to me... it is very annoying..
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
yeah i have experienced that many times. and so i have learned that i should not go with those kind of people. i must go only with those who take for who i am and give me respect that we all should receive from other people we meet every day. i just ditch those kind of people who just treat me like a nobody who they can ignore when ever they want to for no apparent reason.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Correct!!! you are right!!! I bet that is the best thing to do. I like your idea.
@doris_wu (27)
• China
30 Mar 09
One of my roomates always do this to me. I wanted to know the reason as well. Sometimes she is good to me, but sometimes she don't even talk to me. The thing is, we live together, i just can't understand. I didn't do anything wrong, and i really want to find somebody talk about this.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
oh!!! that is really hard when you are living together. Good for me we are not...Did you ask your friend or roomate about why she is like that? I have no nerve to ask that friend of mind too why she is like that. I just want to ignore her too.
@jane9147 (252)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
i know people like that. i think we are friends but sorry to say that i was the only one who is thinking that we are friends. anyway, as time passes, i learn from them. now i just don't think like how i think before. if a person acts like that towards me, i just don't consider him/her as a friend. just that! God Bless!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Oh well, sometimes they are very kind and even want you to come to their house for a get together.. then all of a sudden they will ignore you some other time and the next they are kind again. What's that? I don't understand.
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
I know a lot of people who are like that, even I have mood swings sometimes. But if they treat you like that, I think that there may be something on their mind at that time. Probably something personal, too. I don't think that it's got something to do with you, though. Like what I've mentioned, I was like that, too. However, I try not to pour whatever's bugging me at the moment on other people, coz like you, they might misinterpret it.. But if your friends keep on doing that to you, Bebs08, I think you better talk to them and ask them why.. But try to do it in a friendly way, ok? Don't talk to them when you're pissed or it's not going to settle the issue.. ^_^
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Ok, I understand that... Maybe they have mood swings at that time they do that to me.. hahahaha
@riyasam (16556)
• India
29 Mar 09
i have had friends who have these mood swings ,that i can understand(as they might be going through some difficulties)but to have them on regular basis would mean they are having some sort of mental problem.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Maybe they have problems that is why.. they are acting that way...