Would you rather be easily forgotten or hatefully remembered?

That's a tough one, I don't think I would like to be hatefully remembered and give other bad memories of me. I think I would have to go for easily forgotten and just fade away into obscurity and maybe just live on though close family and friends. I do know where you are coming from though about making an impact as that's what we all want, to make some kind of difference. I just don't want to make an impact for all the wrong reasons.

The question is bit provocative. Otherwise why should one like to be remembered leaving negative or bad impact. Does our church teach this or do our parents teach us to be remembered by negative impact? Why don't accomplish positive and good things in life and there would be no need not worry whether pple remember you or not. A Bin Laden or Hitler, both specialised in massacre in the name of God or society may remain in history but people will spit hatered when they are in discussion.

i guess hatefully remembered. at least that makes me somewhat unforgettable. but not "dictator of a country" type hated.that's too much.

Hey inky! As crazy as this does sound I'm with you on this one! I would rather be hatefully remembered! I guess it is better to be remembered even if it isn't for a good reason the to be totally forgotten! I think that this was a really great question that you thought of and I would rate it one of the best questions of the year! I actually asked what people thought was the best discussion of the year last year as one of my discussions! Too bad you weren't here because you surely would have been considered with one of your discussions!

Hello inkyuboz! I would rather be easily forgotten than be hatefully remember. I don't want people to have negative impact about me because it will stay forever. Whenever that person sees me, he will always remember how much he hates me. I do believe about the saying "first impression lasts"

Easily forgotten. I like to think of my future as having connections. What you do now builds bridges. If I was hatefully remembered, I couldn't have any connections. They'd all be one-sided: I would WANT to connect with these people, but they wouldn't want to have anything to do with me. Plus, I would've done something WRONG. I HATE when people dislike me or are mad at me. It frustrates me to no end. I don't want anybody angry with me, ever. If I were easily forgotten, I could at least try on my part to reconnect with these people. If I they forgot me, that must mean we weren't that close in the first place. I'm okay with that. but at least I know that if I made an effort to reestablish what we might have had a long time ago, things MIGHT work out. I hate being hated.

It reminds me of that quote in one of the Godfather films. "{ then They 'll fear you".to I agree with you. For me to be hatefully rememberd means they did something wrong to me first and I got the proper revenge .That would be sweet.

I wouldn't want to be hatefully remembered...because that would mean I've done something wrong for someone, and that's not something I would be proud of. And even if I'm easily forgotten by most...I know I've made a huge impact on my nieces and nephew's lives, so that would be good enough for me. If i only have a few people who will remember the good things about me, I'm happy with that.

I would rather be easily forgotten than being remembered but with a negative connotation. I do not want to be remembered as a bad girl. I think that hurts more because when people talks about you they will most likely talk about the bad things you did or the negative side of you. I would rather be someone who is easily forgotten yet when remembered even once at least I am not bad. I want to pass away as a good person and I want my love ones to remember all the good things I did.

well I'd rather be remembered doing something good but its not the case in our world today... my husband(gariel66 - ariel gumaru) remembers you for being good and both of you are banned from ciao and its not because you've done something bad. You've made a great impact on him and no wonder why, you have strong convictions and due respect is always earned. When people do something good, they get easily forgotten not because they never made an impact but because people easily forget the good things that made them happy when their feelings get replaced with undesirable emotions that hurt them and those things sink in more for that's where people usually learn their lessons. When people get hurt they remember that experience and the person that inflicted it. That's an unpleasant situation. The problem is, whatever we do, we both experience the two. We do nothing, people forget us and our existence is empty. We do something and people will either remember us for doing good and just hate us for the sole reason of doing something regardless if its good or bad.