Don't you feel shameful if you grade lower than your friend in school?

YES--I hate doing worse than my friends. This has become a problem recently this year, cause I have started slacking off more and it is always embarrassing when my friends ask me what grades I got on tests and such.

Yes, you are right. I used to feel ashamed. I was always a first rank holder. So if sometimes I miss it, I used to feel a lot and work still harder to get it back.

Agree, that's true to me. Since I'm a little different from other students, grades are very important to maintain my visa F1, very stressful, really.

It sucks,but it's ok.I don't feel good about it ,but not shame. I will try hard,but not to get better than him,just to get better than my performance this time.

No i dont think so ! I am not shameful to any time B-coz i am the very good student of my life.

Of course not,don't feel shameful,this is life,you have to try harder next time, who knows? your grade might be higher next time around.Most important is always think positive,do good and don't envy others.

When I was in grade school or high school getting a lower grade is a shameful one especially when you're friends are getting higher grades than yours. You are a shame of letting your friends to see your report card with a lower grades and you know that you've done all your best to make it an A grade. You can not set aside of this matter especially when you are the only one who gets a low grade among your circle of friends. But somehow you you have to look into a brighter side that next time you'll make good on that subject and you'll make extra double effort to make it good and show them that you can do it in the next grading. *wink*

i personally feel that there are two phases in our life ones good and other is not so good.And if u r going through not so good phase then u should not be disappointed...it will pass away soon......

Not really shameful. But BITTER. I admit, I am very competitive when it comes to academics. I always want to be the best. But whenever i had a grade lower thant my friend, this serves me as a challenge so that i can do better next time.

yes,i have the feelings if i am not better than my friends. i am shameful.i don't know if it is right.i just want to be the best. i pay more attenton to others' attitude about my study.someone once said i am a kind of person who is more care about loss or gain.i think it is right.this feelings make me very hard and tired.please give me some advice. i want to get rid of this of feelings.

hello ! yeah i could not agree more ,when i wan in school i had such feeling .Everyday i almostly spend all time studying ,especially the grade was still very disappionting,though i worked hard ,i felt hopeless.sometimes i had such feeling as i lived in a isloated world where nobody could help me.What a horrible a world was it!

The grade has less importence as long you did your best in that exam/test.

Well, being a competitive student,I feel shameful whenever I get lower grades than my friends. However, instead of thinking negative about it, I use it as a motivation to strive harder. I take it as a healthy competition rather than as an immature insecurity. =)

It's a nightmare if in a class there's only one pupil who's not shameful. It's quite not shameful if we tried your best but it's shameful if we think that school is a place to compete rather than to gain knowledge.

Yes, there will always be an amount of shame for that, but I think it's most shameful if it's your sibling. But you see, life isn't about the grades you get anyway. It's how you perform. So, yes, we may strive to get good grades, but that's enough for life. Ironically, those who get good grades don't really perform well in the real world.

Hi clorissa. I guess it's normal for a student to be competitive in school. Everyone wants to be number one in class. From my experience now as a parent, I have observed that there are some parents who feel the pressure more than their children. I have some co-parents who would brag about their children and then eventually start comparing grades. The moment they realize that somebody got a better grade, you can see from the look on their faces how bad they feel. Thanks. Have a great day!

I really don't think you have anything to feel ashamed about. Everyone has their own academic limitations, and sometimes no matter how hard you try, you just can't beat someone. There's always going to be people who do better than you in the world, that's normal. I mean, my boyfriend is top of the class, but he's born a freaking genius so I never really mind when he beats me (although I did beat him a couple of times, which ruled). Competition is never really good, because then you'll just be nervous and tense about your studies all the time, and that really doesn't help to ease the tension. Just relax and do the best you can, that's all that really works.

When you in school you dont feel shameful as from the beginning you know that you cant beat that guy.It will be etched in your memory that you cant beat him.So it doesn't feel too bad , but yes if there is a close competetion between the two since a long time , one trying to beat the other. You will feel ashemed when you score low marks with your family & relatives though.

This reminds me of a wonderful phrase. "Admitting the fact that others are more powerful than yourself in some facets dosen`t demonstrate your inferior,and on the contrary that show your wisdom!"