Do you pass on your fears to your Children?
By malsun
@malsun (1528)
United States
March 31, 2009 12:44am CST
Recently there was a fun day planned at my daughter's preschool. A Reptile Man visited them with Iguana, Toads, Pythons and some more slimey things. My wife and I have never had this experience before. My wife jumps onto a chair if she sees a cockroach and screams my head off. How do you prepare your children - Do you tell them to be afraid, or tell them to go ahead and explore if the teacher tell you to, or just let them handle it on their own.
We told her to do as the teacher says as we were confident that the school wouldnt have called for an event like this if it wasnt safe. Also we wanted our kid not to miss an experience like this. looking back, if we were given a second chance to do things, my wife and I would both like to be more adventurous.
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@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
31 Mar 09
You always hope that you don't pass one of your fears to your children, but sometimes it can't be helped. I try to let my children do things they want and learn from experience. I think that's best for them to learn and know for sure, than going off what someone says. Because what bothers me may not have any effect on my kids, or anyone else. I don't push my kids to do anything the don't wanna do, if they are scared then they will have to over come that on their own, and most eventually do.
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
31 Mar 09
I let them explore (I'm not afraid of animals like that - my biggest fear is birds...) I know that my fear is not logical and my children knows about it.
It's not a big deal, and I can cope with it.
I think it's important to let them explore - since those animals are not dangerous at all :-)
It's known that many fears are passed on from parents to their children.
@xuanlingfang (258)
• China
31 Mar 09
No, I will never do that. The parents are the good examples for their children. The children will learn from their parents in every moment. So the adult should take the responsibility to educate the children. If we pass the fear to our children, it certainly will have bad effect to them. Actually I am not so afraid of things. So I guess there will be no fear for me to pass to the children.
@erica1221_112 (275)
• United States
31 Mar 09
No i dont. I like to let my kids decide what they fear on their own. For example we went to a theme park & my oldest daughter is 3 & she decided she wanted to ride the spider which makes me nausuas, but i decided to suck it up & ride it with her & not let her know i feared it. She ended up hating it, but she had to decide for herself.
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