Why Do our elders scolds us?
By navonly
@navonly (901)
India
March 31, 2009 6:22am CST
Is it ok, that your elders, may be your father, your mother, your siblings, or any other elder to you, whom you respect, and cant be harsh with, always scolds you in front of others, may be your friends, your colleague, or in general public.
It often happens with me that I get scolding from my elder brother in front of my subordinates, in my office. Either I have done any mistake or not, I still get scolded. Its really embarrassing sometimes, and sometimes I feel angry on my brother, that he could have made me understand at that time, in a polite manner, even if he scolds me in person later.
Does the same happens with you?? How do you feel in such cases.
3 responses
@Carolinaqt782 (193)
• United States
31 Mar 09
it has before. i understand they are scolding because they care and want to help, but you're right, there is a right time and place, and it's not out in public. granted, if you make a huge, very serious mistake out in public, then maybe it's not so unacceptable, but the majority of the time, it can definitely wait till later or in private.
if your brother does this on a regular basis, i would talk to him about it. tell him how it makes you feel and ask if he could next time, and from here on out, talk to you about it in private, whether that means waiting till later when you're no longer in your office, or pulling you aside and using a quieter voice.
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@Carolinaqt782 (193)
• United States
31 Mar 09
haha would talk with him for you if i could :P
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@tenchi18ph (176)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
For some reason, scolding is done for us to know that we have committed mistakes and for us to learn that lesson behind that. I think that its OK as long as they are on the proper way of doing that. Usually, scolding is done when person is still young for them to know their mistakes and they will never do that again. But in your case, you said that you get scold by your elder brother in public in front of your subordinates, and knowing that your already mature to take care things, he just keep doing that thing. I think you need to talk to your brother and tell him that you can already handle things and don't embarrassed you on public.
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@med889 (5941)
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31 Mar 09
I don't like them scolding me infront of others. I feel so bad. And then I start creating a barrier between the person who has scolded me infront of others and myself. It is not good at all to scold someone infront of others. Once I remember my boyfriend was scolding me because of a discussion we were having infront of his friend on phone. Well though it was on phone i was deeply feeling bad and still I remember that. I hate that situation.
