Should I Let Her Go?

United States
March 31, 2009 4:24pm CST
I recentley came to realize that one of my friends, who has been a very good friend of mine for a very long time, is quite a special girl. In fact, any guy would be very lucky to be with her. It took me several months to accept it, but I finally realized that I was in love with her. There was a dance at local place coming up, and I made an elaborate plan to ask her to accompany me there. We are both in a choir, so I wrote a song for her. I was going to play it on the choir piano and ask her to go to the dance with me. But... like so many of my plans, it didn't work out that way. She told me before I had a chance to execute the plan that she was going with another guy. I proceeded to the nearest bathroom to cry silently. I got around to thinking about it, and I came to the conclusion that if he makes her happy, then I shouldn't interfere. I only want her happiness. What would you do in this situation?
3 responses
• United States
31 Mar 09
i would tell her how you feel. you never know, she could have the same feelings for you, and just never have told you. besides, just because she's going to the dance with another guy, it doesn't mean she likes him in a romantic way. he could be a friend that asked her to go, and she said yes. unless she has specifically told you otherwise with her feelings regarding this guy, you can never be so sure she's accompanying him with a romantic interest in mind. good luck!
• United States
1 Apr 09
thanks. I have been toying with the idea of telling her how I feel. This is gonna be scary...
• Malaysia
11 Apr 09
I truely understand how you would feel regarding this. To let go your love for her itself is not wrong. I will decide the same as you have decided. Sometimes you would feel happier to see your love happy. Relax and be strong Regards Thanusha
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I have been in this position. It is hard to be in. I am pretty much in love with one of my close friends, and honestly I would rather have him as a friend then not at all so I try to stiffle my feelings and be happy when he is happy with someone else.