I wish...

well I cant relate and say that i have a child but i think little ones are soo cute but alot of work. I cant wait til the day I become a mommy :) Baby Caitlyn is soo adorable and yes she did grow up soo fast!

I was a single Mom, and ended up working 7 days a week and also in shifts. It was hard, and I still feel like I missed a lot. My children are 22 and 23 right now. They had gotten everything they needed. But, I would have liked to be more at home for them at that time as well. Hopefully things will get better for you and your family. Take care.

I am a mom too. And my baby boy will turn six months tomorrow April 2 which is also my birthday. I gave birth last October 02, 2008 and ever since I never had work. My husband earns just enough but sometimes we go over the budget. I need to go back to work because I want to help him. We still have some few debts to pay and I do not want them not going down but just keeps on going up. I wish that we could hire a baby sitter as soon as possible because aside from the fact that I want to add to the family income, I also want to be working and be more active. Being at home alone with my baby makes me sick and tired of the daily routine. Of course I am happy because I am the one who personally takes care of my son but I know he has lots of need that my husband alone could not provide. I am grateful because my husband is very responsible but I feel sad because he is most of the time tired. He is a very loving husband that he sacrifices the things he needs just to buy something for me and our baby. So I wish to get back to work soon. That is the best birthday gift I could ever receive tomorrow...Let us all pray for our personal wishes and I hope all mylot members will have a better and better life everyday.

My sister went through the same issues with her first child. I was a teenager at the time and went to stay with her family when she first returned to work. I was the sitter when she went to work. She said that made it easier because she knew I was there. But after 8 weeks, I had to go back home to go back to school and she had to find day care. She couldn't deal with that. She said exactly what you said about how fast they change when they are that age. My sister was very lucky in that her husband made enough money to support them and she was able to quit her job and stay at home with her kids. Did you possible ever think of maybe doing an in-home daycare? There are many rules and restrictions, but it might be something to look into.

I am much in the same position as you. The only difference is I have 2 children. One is 6 and one is 3. My 6 year old is in 1st grade and is at school from 8 am to 5 pm. My 3 year old is at daycare from 8 am to 5:30 pm. It makes me feel awful when my little girl says "mommy can I be parent pick up today?". My response is always no because I don't get off work until 5. My 3 year old wants to stay home with me but that only comes around on Saturday and Sunday. In today's world, it is almost uncommon for a woman to be home with her children doing all the cooking. Typically both parents have to work just to survive. This sucks!!! I am racking my brain trying to think of some way we can get out of debt and make it with me staying home. I am currently attending college and about to graduate with my associate's degree. I am hoping that I will think of something but if not at least I will have a degree. I want so desperately to stay home and be my own boss while seeing my children grow. Not only would I save $5000 a year because of daycare costs I would get to play and enjoy them at this age. They grow so quickly and within the blink of an eye they are teenagers and no longer want to spend quality time with their parents. I feel my time is slipping away quickly.

I totally feel your pain. I'm a working mom also. I just had this conversation with my husband, although he had no comment. I yearn to stay home with my babies, ages 3.5 and 10 months. I'm missing out on so much. There are so many things that I need to teach them. Sometimes I cry to myself. One of my co-workers felt the same way I did. She has 4 kids, and said she used to cry because she wanted to stay home with her babies. But now that they are in school, she doesn't have those feelings anymore. Its just an awful situation that we are in. Everyone at my job knows that I want to stay home with my babies. The economy is not affecting us, but our financially situation is not in a place where I can stop working. I look all the time for opportunities to stay at home and work, but my benefits and pay are totally unmatched by anything I can find on-line. If you want to write to me that would be cool. I don't know too many working moms. All those mommy websites and groups tend to cater to stay at home moms, so I sometimes feel like I'm the only one and its not fair!!!