Have you ever considered fostering or taken in a foster child?

I want to be a foster mom, but cant at the moment. I want to be the kind of foster mom that takes the kids with handicaps. It really hard to find a person to take on a handicap child, but i already have tons of experience with various disabilities. Shoot my brother has downs and autism and i work at a company that offers in home support for people with disabilities.

I have, but my home space has not permitted it so far. As someone that was adopted I am very connected to the needs of kids that are not with their parents for whatever reason. I am also connected to their feelings and what they go trough. I have not given up the idea. Once I do have the space, I will consider it more seriously. I am sure that each kids will come with his/her own issues, and some might take longer to trust and accept love than others. I that even though I was one of the lucky ones, and had the most wonderful life with my parents ( adoptive parents, but they're my real parents in my heart) , there are still some issues that linger related to my situation. I am aware of them, but sometimes even so, they do take over. This affected me also in my resolve to have a family. I was really not sure if I wanted one, I wasn't' sure if I wanted kids , I even felt worried that if I had children I would be like my parents and give them away to someone else. So yes, each kid will come with their own set of issues, and we can only love them and let them learn that they are worth.

I would love to be a foster parent, though at the moment, with 5 of our own kids, it isn't possible- there is barely room in our house for us, let alone for foster kids. I was in the foster care system for the first 2 years of my life, but instead of becoming a statistic of it, I am pleased to say, I'm one of the lucky ones, though not due to any of my carers (apparently, it was a requirement back then that they had to be abusive and neglectful at least that's how it seems). Having been through it all before, and finally being adopted (thank you mum!), I think it is fitting that I too, become a foster carer, only actually be good to and for the kids. There are many carers out there, but many are just as bad as the situations the children are being removed from, which is sad. I do know of a few in Australia who are fantastic though, and I think any child that gets to spend time under their rooves is very lucky indeed.

I have actually considered adoption. My fiance and I talked about it. We want at least three of our own but if we could foster or adopt a child or more it would be great.

I guess I probably would adopt a child that has went through abuse or been abandoned it's just the explaining bit that would seem hard to me. For example if you got a child when it was a baby I would struggle to explain to it that he/she had been adopted.

I would love to foster a child. Sadly our financial situation will not allow us (For Now) to do so at the moment. We are still working on creating a stable financial living. But yes, as soon as we reach our goal we will consider it. Saving a life, giving a child the opportunity to be loved, what an amazing feeling! If I had the money I would have done it a looooong time ago. My family is so blessed because there is not a day in our lives that we don't say to each other how much we love each other. I would love for a foster child to be part of our family.

I have thought of doing this before. my aunt is a foster parent and has adopted 4 of the children that she had in her care. i have thought of doing this years ago. but i don't know, i would want small children if i did do it. i don't know if that is something i could or would want to do now that i am older.

H[i]i mommyboo, I have no experienced about this but I am looking forward to try when I can afford. I am sure it's not easy to deal with but I prefer infant... This is exciting to know from those who have experienced![/i]

Hubby and I were foster parents for two years. Some of it good and some of it bad. The best parts were seeing the kids straighten out, grow and learn. The worst parts were the caseworkers that lied to everyone and the backstabbing that goes on. There are some things to consider if your going to do this. First, you lose most of your privacy between your spouse and yourself. You have kids running through your house, caseworkers popping in, meetings to run to, councelors to take kids to, new kids to settle, problems to deal with, ect. Second, the caseworkers lie to everyone. In two years and well over 30 caseworkers I never met one that actually told the truth and worked for the kid. They lie to the parents, the foster parents, the judges, the kids, the teachers...pretty much everyone. Third, most of the parents of the kids will see you as the enemy. You have their kid...it doesn't matter why, how or for how long. I actually had one mother threaten to come and kill everyone in our home to get her daughter back and DFS told me they could do nothing and I'd have to handle it. Lastly, some kids want to be in a stable home with someone who cares about them and will work with you...some will run away constantly, cause fights, tear up your house and generally make you nuts. I'm not telling you this to turn you away from it but just to let you walk into it with your eyes wide open. If you take pride in your home, enjoy private times with your partner, like things peaceful and quiet then you might want to rethink getting into it or keep it to just 1 or 2 kids. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

I have considered doing something like this in the past and still think about to this day. I have a five year old son and I can't have any more. I am now 41 years old and I do know that there are cases where people take children in. I have always kind of wondered about certain situations where children receive continual abuse or bad treatment even in the foster care circles. On the other hand there are some good agencies out there that can place a child in a good home. I can definitely see the idea where an emotional attachment could be formed and also some problems the child might have that are residual issues from their past. It is sure a sad thing when you think about it. If I did have a chance to foster a child I think that I would.

I would love to adopt a child. I don't think I'd be emotionally strong enough to foster, as I know that I would get far too attached to the children. I would like to adopt an abandoned baby though. I think far too many children get abandoned, and knowing that I could help makes me want to all the more.

we thought that if my mom will get miscarriage again, we will rather adopt or foster a baby girl. luckily, she did not so we had the youngest of us. lately, we were thinking again of fostering again but not permanently (like those seasonal fostering) to have kids in the house.. i just dont know if my mom still wants to foster a kid since we have lots of them from time to time visiting us. i have a lot nieces and nephews now from my cousins.

I have been thinking about this; I'm 36 and no kids yet; however, I don't know if I can handle it emotionally when the time comes taht I have to return him/her, although I know that what shoud be thinking of is not for me but about the kid that I will sponsor.

I have thought and imagined adopting, i think its a really nice idea, and it means the child would have a happier lifetime than before, i consider doing it but im not sure if i will when im older. Fostering would be hard for me to do though, as i don't think id be strong enough, emotionally to foster, i would probably get really close to the children, and it would be hard for me to let go, so im not going to do that.