a response of love - please comment
By shebeck
@shebeck (114)
Jamaica
5 responses
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
2 Apr 09
There is a fallacy in your duality here.
No person is all one thing or another. And there lies the fallacy in your question: we are almost all of us capable of being, at different times and in different circumsatnces, loving, selfish, generous, self-centred, and often at the same time.
Furthermore, self-centred does not necessarily equate with selfish.
Lash
@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
2 Apr 09
It is really encouraging to read the responses from you all. I posed this question just to get your feedback, and this came as a result of the reading I encountered this week. It is true that no matter how we loved and cared for others and ourselves, we tend to act selfish at times and eve self centered, it is just naturally human of us. You can also love yourself and love no one else, I have seen it where people just focus on themselves alone and don't give a hoot about anyone else, even hurt their feelings and don't care. I still believe though that in order for us to truly love everyone else even our enemies we first have to look to the example Jesus set while He was on earth. Even though he was mocked, and spat at he still prayed to the Father to forgive them. For me I believe I naturally have a love for others, I don't have any enemies and if I do I do not know because I respond to everyone with love even when I know they say bad things about me. Everyone will not like you and when someone does not like you there is something about you that is so overwhelming to them and they want to be like you that they eventually develop a dislike for you. I love everyone and I practice kindness every single day, I will even go out of my way to make someone feel loved and comfortable. There is no one that I disliked, I might not like the ways of a person and just how they behave, but that does not mean that I cannot love them, who am I not to love another human being, because I did not create them and I simple cannot. So even though we are not perfect let us strive for perfection, that is trying to love others even when we don't like their ways.
If we looked at the character of Jesus in dealing with people then we will want to be like Him. Though we may not like some people, we are called to love everyone, even our greates enemy. This will not only benefit the people we associate with but will also prove an enormous blessing for ourselves. Give love and unconditional acceptance to those you encouter and notice what happens.
@csrobins (1120)
• United States
1 Apr 09
Naturally self-centered and selfish of course. Thats is how we all are and have to work to love others. Loving others is not natural and love is never selfish. so...often times when people say I love you they cannot really mean it. To become less selfish so I can then begin loving others requires me to make a choice at every moment to forget my needs and place other's needs above mine. I don't know if it ever becomes natural..I have never gotten to that point. But I can keep trying to make the right choice.
@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
1 Apr 09
The tragic reality of this world is one of self-love, blind ambition, hatred, competition, corruption, and war. As long as the citizens of this world let themselves, knowingly or unknowingly, be guided by the principles of the prince of darkness, love will have no chance to blossom. Mother Teresa once said, "if you judge people, you have no time to love them."
If we truly have been converted and become disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ, the principle of love will reign in our lives. Whatever our weaknesses, we will steadily grow in our love for God and for our fellow human beings. In a very real sense conversion is reorientation - s shift away from the love of self to the love for God and to the love of others.
Keep trying to love just as how Jesus loved us even when keep on doing the bad things.
@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
2 Apr 09
What practical steps can I take to move away from self and manifest love toward others, is having J-O-Y. That's putting Jesus first, others second, and yourself last. The golden rule, "treat others as you would have them treat you". Also love thy neighbor as you love yourself.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I think I am a naturally loving. I like to take care of my partner and show them that I love them, and i think about their needs and desires before mine. Sometimes my naturally loving nature tends to back fire on me.
@ulalume (713)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Human nature is naturally selfish. However, in this modern day the idea of being "selfish" has a negative connotation. You can watch the news and see the anchors and reporters tell us how important it is to help out charities and volunteer. Some would view this as "selfless", however, why do people actually do this? I would assume a selfish motivation to help others. If you gain nothing from helping others, why help them? Everything we do is, at least, somewhat selfish...even if there are selfless aspects to it. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend, I do love her; however, in a very selfishly selfless way. It is selfish of me to expect love in return and to expect someone to be with through the good and bad. I suppose what I expect from the relationship is selfish, however what I give to the relationship is selfless.
Love itself comes in many forms...