I've Moved On...
By twanislost
@twanislost (241)
United States
April 1, 2009 9:11pm CST
But We Have To Live Together.
Can you move on and get over someone if you're forced to live with them for reasons beyond your control?
Like, you had a dozen fights and decided you were better apart, but you still had to live together for kids, comfort, foundation or whatever.
3 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
2 Apr 09
What kind of example do you think that sets for the kids as far as emotional relationships go? I understand that times are tough but it's not healthy to break up and stay together at the same time. There is tension and maybe even hostility, which effects the kids. It's always best that children are raised by two loving parents but, if the two of you don't get along, find a way to live apart before they learn the wrong lessons about relationships.
@twanislost (241)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Thanks for the hostile reaction Dino. But this was one of those, let me ask before I do something I'll regret moments. And there are no children involved, yet.
I just used children because of stories where people stay together for their kids.
I'm just asking so I can get my ducks in a row. BTW, there are no actual ducks either. LoL.
Thanks for the response though, I understand your reasoning.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
2 Apr 09
My response was not intended to be hostile, but informative. If you're going to be so thin skinned you're not going to do well on discussion boards. 
@twanislost (241)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I didn't take offense to the statement. And I'm not as "thin skinned" as I appear I figured you had a bad day and took it out on my post. But to clarify, I was just throwing around possible situations with this discussion. I'm neither married nor a parent. I'm actually the victim in the situation. A child of divorce where parents stood together for my sake.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
2 Apr 09
Hi, as some elderly person told me that son , love never goes out of marriage ( relationship), people still love each other but friendship goes out of relationship when the trouble start. Yes i have seen here people live together in marriage they would be better without each other but stay on for the kids and in front of others act normal but in reality they hardly talk to each other so yes it is quite possible but if i was you i would try to talk our differences and be happy.
@twanislost (241)
• United States
2 Apr 09
With a name like "grim" you sure give a good response. Thanks for the share and advice.
@twanislost (241)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I stand corrected, and informed. Learn something new everyday I guess.
@chiyosan (30181)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
are you guys married? if you are not married, living together for the sake of the kids will not actually help and do them good. i have been through a rocky family life, my parents were separated and it is much easier for both of them to just be separated especially if they can't even stand being together!
we understood them perfectly well( maybe a little later when we are much older) and i guess that is the best thing you can do for yourself and for the family... to try to fix things and be happy about the way things have turned out and not to force anything on anyone.
