Men,

well same could be said about some ladies that I've met, so I guess it swings both ways. Also theres nothing really to defend people in general are either heartless or caring or somewhere in the middle and that crosses both genders. I know of women who go out and use men to get what they want then leave them, and I also know men that do the same. Its human nature unfortunatly some people are just plain ignorant and that as I said before goes across both genders.

I think that is because they have a different way of expressing themselves. Just today I asked my BF something and he grumped at me, he was in a bad mood. Am I not aloud to talk in my own house? But, that is also because he is tired, I understand. But, I snapped back, and told him to hold back his tone! I did not deserve that. He did not even realize he did that. He defended himself by saying, he did not mean it that way. I do admit, lately I am getting a little tired of him being grumpy all the time. And the understanding part? We don't understand the men, but the men don't understand us either. That is why we can fall in Love. hahaha! It would be boring if we always understood each other. Take care

There are not enough details given in your discussion and this makes it difficult to visualise what you went through. I have to make the assumption you have this view because of personal experiences or what you have seen around you. My response shall be general in nature and not directed at anyone in particular. The understanding process is not a one sided affair. If we want our partner to understand us, we should try to understand them. Many of us tend to be selfish. We want other people to understand us, to accept us as what we are, to give and take on many personal issues. The question which we should ask ourselves is are we doing the same thing for them? When we do not get things done the way we wanted it to be we say they are not understanding and heartless. Instead of pointing fingers we should look into ourselves first. In any relationship the focus should be on the 'we' instead of the 'I'. Using this approach we are less likely to jump into conclusions and souring the relationship even further. all the best, rosdimy

Hey Gemma! I wish I had the answer to this question! I think most women all the world over wished they did! Men just are not wired the way that women are and they just don't think the way that we do! They just don't have the same emotions that we do and just aren't capable of thinking the way that we do. They don't understand that they hurt us when they do the things that they do. And no matter how many times that we tell them it still doesn't seem to sink in.

Men are that way because it could be the way they were raised! Maybe their dad was like that! Alot of men just don't care! That is why they are such jerks! Some men think they are a god and they can't do anything wrong either! It is arrogance! It comes form the people they hang out with! It is people they follow in entertainment like rappers! Most rappers put women down in their raps and some men think is ok to treat women the way it says in the song! It isn't good or right! It sounds like some of the d***heads I dated over the years! Not good!

I have to agree I am a man and i must admit im sometimes heartless to my GF if im watching sommut or doing somthing. But I think ive beomce less heartless now that my GF sed she would leave me if i was heartless again.

Men are basically selfish regrettably.