Don't you feel down if you parent always compare you to someone?

My parents don't compare me to others but if they did I think it would make me feel bad almost like a failure. Well at least they don't compare me to my face. They might behind behind my back. IDK!

I never felt down (but uncomfortable) when my mother compared me to my siblings because the situation was different. Being the eldest among six children i matured early. She taught me how to do things at home and i learned fast. At six i can already take care of my little sisters and brothers with little or no supervision. At nine i already go to the market alone and know how to choose a fresh fish and to get a good bargain for it. I once asked my mother not to compare my siblings to me anymore because i am not comfortable when she tells them that i do things better than them, that i am the intelligent one, the more competent one. I never heard my siblings speak anything ill against me because they look up to me. They may be silent but i feel it when they are hurt by our mother's comments. Being compared to others even when i am the better one has never been a comfortable feeling to me. So much is expected of me and it is as if i have to please everybody. But no, i am not perfect, i am not the best and i do commit mistakes so i try to avoid comparing people whether they are relatives or not. There are always some other methods to encourage a child to do well rather than comparing him/her to someone else. Hi clorissa!

when i was a teenager, im a little far from being part of the generation because i don't blend, i dont play and dont engage with chitchats. my mother would sometimes ask me what's wrong. and they soon realized that thats me. and so they're used to bringing me with them instead of coercing me to go out with people my age..

Maybe they don't said things to compare but for their children to become their inspiration. Parents do't want to let their children down but instead come up with the best, sometimes they thought making them aware of others success would inspired their chldren. So children must not feel down but rather take it positively by striving hard.

When I was a student,my parents always compared me to my classmate who studied hard than me.And I felt uncomfortable when they did that.Sometimes I would get angry and embarrassed.It seemed I was inferior to other.But infact I worked hard in school,I think I tried my best to do the my study.

my parents always compare me to my friends, and some times say i need to be more like them lol

Most of the parents do that and i guess its not right to compare with others as everyone is unique and comparing with others only makes us down. When i was a kid my dad always use to compare with the toppers in the class and will scold us. One day i heard my sister telling my dad that everyone is different and we are trying our best so, don't compare us with others. After that my dad never use to take others name and i want all the parents to do that.

Hello! Being father and grand father I am against comparing the children with others as it would create inferiority complexion among them and feel zealousy.Instead of making good with them we create enmity in disguise.So instead of comparing our children with other children,we should encourage and create confidence in them.thanx.

This is one good point when when parenting: not to compare their kids with other kids. Unfortunately many parent do it. It is such a shame to turn a child down. A kid may be discouraged because of this. A child may resent a situation like this for the rest of his life and hate his parents. Parents may have frustrated dreams and want their kids to attain it but it is not good to motivate them by saying negative things. It is better to focus on their strengths and just be supportive on what their kid want to do. A child usually acts on the way people around think about him/her.

It happens all the time except that when my parents compare to me, they say that they are glad they don`t have children like others. But really, I don`t think it is necessary to do so. Comparing is unecessary because all the effort we do is not for anyone but ourself. I might be good at school but I know there are better people than me. However I don`t compare my grades to the others because at the end, I`ll be alone with my sheet of formula and exam. At that time, nobody will be there to help me. You are right that being compared to someone who`s considered as better will make us have less confidence. I told my parents that they compare for what? It won`t make me a better person. It won`t get me smarter or get me ahead in life. It just brings us down. People should be happy with what they have and not what they are or status.

I used to think about it in the manner my parents want me to think about it during my school days. That was ideal during that period and try to be better than the other person. But right now if our parents compare us with others it is really irritating because due to recession we are facing problems at job and also about salary. SO I just request my parent please do not compare me with someone at least at this point of time.

My parents never did that to me, but it was always some other relative that would compare me to my 2 cousins. Why can't you be just as smart as them? They are skinny and you're not...etc. This happens to me almost every holiday that I see my cousins, which kind of makes the holidays a bit bad.

my parents are very kind.they don't always compare me to other. but for myself, i always compare myself with others , sometimes i would be upset. i know it is not good,but i can't control myself. i confess i am little jealous.may be that's the reson.

yes i fee bad

yes, sometimes when my prasent said to me that other peison how excellent he was,i feel down,but I can do anything,so I always tell them your daughter is so excellent and everyone has his thought.

i was lucky that my parents didn't do that when i was kid.in fact i dislike if my parents did that.i would tell them it won't work if they always compare me with others.i am who i am their kid not others.i have some advantage that they don't have.

Yah. I always feel down or angry when I am being compared. I don't like being compared to anyone. So, I don't know. Hehehe.

I am lucky and my parents are wise enough that they don't compare.They know that i am what i am and cannot be some one else