Anger Management - Please help

I think you need to control a psychologist to help you out with this problem, I suggest you put a punching bag inside your house when you are angry you just punch those bags.

"Anyone can get angry.That is easy.But to be angry with the right person,to the right degree,at the right time,for the right purpose and in the right way,that is not easy."There are 4 steps to control your anger and have it vent in proper ways. 1.Count to 10 when you are getting upset.This make you solve many of your outburts before they hanppen. 2.Do something that is physically exerting.Instead of puching your victims.Go for a walk,swim.or shoot some hoops.This can provide a physical outlet for your emotions. 3.Find something that is calming.Such as deep breathing. 4.Use"I" statements instead of "You" statements.Change your way of thinking is better. You can combine multiple steps above to help alleviate anger.Calm yourself down.

This isn't something to put off and just talk about on MyLot...you need to get some help and take control of the anger... If it's gotten too bad that you're breaking things around the house, and inadvertinly injuring yourself in the process, that's dangerous - to yourself and others. What if people are around when you are letting out your anger? There are great, legit anger management classes you can take, and I would advise a psychologist you see to talk about these problems...a mediation counselor of sorts. I would know - I used to see one when I was in high school and they were great. Good luck.

well at least it was not a person on your list

ok sound like me, i think you should go and seek help. anger management is good but you need to talk to someone about your pass, and help you to deal with it. one step is forgiving those who had hurt you and second you seeking forgiveness from them as well forgiving yourself. and then letting the pass go for good

yes , i too m short tempered , and when i get angry i start irritating people , and i irritate them until and unless they get irritated too . sometimes i fell bad when i do this to my beloved . but now however i have learnt to control my anger to a larger extent , when ever i get angry i start taking deep breadth and when sometimes my anger is on top i just lie down on my bed thinking of the moments of happiness. they really make me feel goo in 10 -15 mins . so if this technique benefits u too then pm me.

You are on the right path. The first thing you have done is acknowledged that this is a problem that you have. That is the first step in fixing it. There are anger management helps out all over. Maybe you might think of getting involved in one of these classes. They can help you learn how to manage your anger.

Really, are you serious? Anger, if expressed is good for sanity's sake, but could be damaging if not controlled. I understand that your fits of anger could be repressed anger during childhood, coming out only today when there are stimuli which trigger them. Well, I hope your victims are not seriously hurt physically or psychologically...friends, family members, could be your potential victims, but the good news is, you're aware of it and you'd like to put it under control. Anger, just like any other emotions should be controlled. Try talking to a friend or seek professional help since the root cause is repressed anger which should come out and sublimated into something beneficial and positive. Next, you can talk to family members or friends to remind you to calm down everytime you display fits of extreme anger. I guess you belong to the breed of anger champions, and you should seriously look into yourself, your motives, your feelings when at the height of your anger, maybe even make a record of the frequency, intensity, duration (FID) of your anger so you can start a simple do-yourself anger management. Talk to your counselor about this...here's wishing you the best...

Didn't you watch a movie named "Munna Bhai MBBS". Best anger management is laughing while you are angry. Or you can try countin 1 to 100. But why am I telling you these solutions, the best way to control them is doing yoga every day!

Osho said anger is temporary madness. Actually we have different course on Anger Management and it speaks clearly that anger can be managed or controlled. The following are some tips as to how one could manage them. There are no fool-proof techniques available for anger management at this stage. This is the most difficult stage to manage because you are the person who is angry and you are the person who is to manage yourself. Try one or more of the following: * As soon as you are in control withdraw yourself from the situation to avoid irrepairable or irreversible damage to self, others, relationships, and the environment. * When you recognize that you are angry, just stop doing what you have been doing. Walk around or sit calmly for a few minutes. * Release the stress (stored due to anger) in a way in which there is least possible harm to self, others, and the environment. * Breath deeply. Inhale deeply and hold for a second or two. Then exhale deeply. Repeat a few times. * Become aware that you are angry. Just observe yourself. * If possible involve in some creative work that can pacify you. * If possible, divert your attention to something else that can relax you; like humorous films, calming music, watering your garden, going to beach or park or the like. * Postpone the expression of anger again and again. * Get into the company of persons you love or who love you and understand you. Speak out to them, if possible. * If you have love for children, their presence can pacify you. * Even pets can sometimes pacify you. * Laugh it out, if you can, by perceiving it in a humorous way. * Perceive it creatively and constructively and take it as an opportunity to know yourself, your anger patterns and the situation or other people involved. * As far as possible do not swear to yourself or shout like: ‘ I will teach you/him/her a lesson. I will show you/him/her’ etc. This will act as a program and will be stored as negative energy.

haha, that's sound like a bad-tempered teenager. Anyway all of us are entitled to get angry, but not to hurt anyone or anything including ourselves. Most people do not think or not able to think clearly when they are angry. Most probably you belong to this group. Maybe you can ask yourself some questions "why am I angry? What is it that makes me so angry? What's the problem and how to solve the problem?" Going for a brisk walk while thinking over can help to cool you down.

Well its your avatar saying that u never make mistakes and then u say you have not control over you, how cud it be...lol... jokes apart, I think dear some relaxing kind of technique can help a lot... Try some Yoga or Meditation... Have a nice time !!!!

hmm well i can relate very well to this discussion i used to walk around when i was a teenager and punch stop signs till my knuckles bled to release the anger of abused childhood.

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