Another slap in the face ... our daughter sent pics of her inlaws

I would keep the pics of the grandbaby. When he is older you will want him to see that you cherished the only contact you had. But I too would return the pictures with the inlaws.

For some reason your daughter doesn't feel that connection to you that she does to her inlaws. You should just be happy that she is close to her inlaws and that your grandson has grandparents that are close to him. Do you live in the same town, or in a different town. If you want to be closer to your grandson, then you have to make the effort to do this. Show your daughter that you also are great grandparents. I'd keep the photos because if you return them it will probably cause some hard feelings.

((hugs)) I would say that you should keep the pics toss the ones of the inlaws. It's really sad when all you have of your grandson are teeny tiny pics. But sometimes it's for the best in a way. Though I'd be concerned of your grandson what kind of environment he's being raised in. Not that there's alot you can do about it without ruffling alot of freathers like dong something in court like a Grandparents rights laws. The sad thing is we all have resented someone in our lives but to move on beyond that shows some maturity. I wish my older half sisters would not resent me so much, but I've tried to be the bigger person and send pics of my kids ect. It's sad to be punsished for ones own conception. Anyways thanks for sharing your story I wish I could say anything further that would comfort you.

HI homeflower,I would suggest you to keep the pictures. After all she is your daughter.She may understand her mistakes one day and come back to you.That day when you say to her that you have kept the snaps of her and your grandson,that will bring her more happiness than anything else.So,kindly keep the pictures of your girl and her son...have a nice day and hope she understands her mistakes soon...bye

This is just my opinion and I'm not in anyway telling you what's right or wrong. This is your daughter and regardless whether or not you agree with her situation it is her decision not yours and not your husbands. It is your job to love and support her regardless. If you send the pictures of the inlaws back, you will only be creating more distance between you and you daughter and grandkids. Instead of thinking it's a slap in the face, maybe you could consider that's it's her way of saying she misses her parents and wants you to be a part of her's and her child's life. there are a lot of women who prefer to work and there is nothing wrong with the man staying at home to raise the kids. We all know that's a hard job in it's self. That is a decision made by your daughter and there is NOTHING you can say or do to change it. What you can do, is keep the negative thoughts to yourself, look for the things you can compliment them on and make it a goal to bring back the relationship I'm sure you miss with your daughter. Life is too short to let things that you have no control over be the reason to loose someone so near and dear to you. In the end, you will do what you want. But I'm hoping you can at least give my comments some thought and let the anger go and feel the love you have for your grand baby!

I'd keep the pictures too, in hopes that someday you'll be able to patch things up. It is your daughter and I'm sure you don't want to remain estranged from her forever and miss your grandson growing up entirely. It's a hard thing to let go but at some point we as parents must let them live their own lives and make their own mistakes for better or for worse. Let her know you're there to love and support her no matter what and hopefully one day she will see why you were so concerned for her in the first place.

I've had something simular happen to me before. I have a sister and brother from my Dad's second marriage and we're not very close...yet when my sister was graduating from high school they sent me a graduation invitation even though I live over 700 miles away. Then when she got married they sent me a wedding invitation and a picture of her big fancy wedding. I guess it's just her way of showing off...it really doesn't matter to me...well, it does in a way b/c I wasn't able to graduate and I never got the big fancy wedding but it's water under the bridge. It just tells me what kind of person she is and I just steer clear of her. I don't talk to her and we really don't even know each other well enough to call each other sisters. I guess your really farther off waiting till your grandson grows up...chances are there's going to come a day when he's going to start asking about family and wanting to meet you and your husband. Till then, there isn't a whole lot you can do. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

If I were you, I'd keep the wallets of the grandson, send back the ones you don't want and ask politely for a larger portrait picture, offer to pay for your print. If you want to have a relationship with your daughter and grandson, you have to drop the confrontational stuff. Getting pissy and arguementative is only going to divide you more. She pledged no contact, yet she sent you pictures. That should be considered an olive branch, not a slap in the face.

I have no advice, I am not in your shoes, but I send you my sympathy. Your situation must be heartbreaking. I hope one day soon you will be able to mend fences with your daughter and see your beloved grandchild again.

I'm sorry to hear you don't get to see your grandson growing up x Love is a blinding thing & if you let your daughter go, she'll come back to you one day x I think you should keep the passport sized photos & get them resized. The others, I'd bin but thats just me. It's a shame when things go wrong within families, we had a situation in our family where my brother parted from his long term partner with whom he had a daughter. 2 years of court appearances & he now sees her on a regular basis although she is now nearly old enough to do what she wants x I hope things work out for you & your grandson x Mrsl x x