Family Violence and alcoholism................

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As some of you might remember(since I have been gone for a while), I was living with my mother. It was a very unhealthy environment for my kids and I and I was trying to get enough money to get my own place. Well I no longer live there. Here's my story... A few weeks ago I was helping my sister move AGAIN for the umpteenth time, my mother was watching my 2 kids and my sister's little girl. My sister's bf was also there with her having a few drinks. Before I dropped my sister off at her place to finish up we stopped at my mother's to check on the kids and let them know that we were done for the day. When I walked into the house my mother was almost toppling over because we had too much to drink and on top of that she had not slept yet. My mother works the graveyard shift at the old folks home and normally she would have gone to bed when she got off but not this time. So I went back to the truck and took my sister home and went back to my mom's to take my sister's bf and my neice home. The kids were just being fed and if was 7pm already. My kids go to bed at 8 and I wanted to be back to get them to bed(which wasn't going to happen at that point). I was a little shocked that she had just started feeding them and I said "they're just eating now?" and well that was all my mother needed to start having a fit alllll over again. I went on and started doing dishes as she called me every name in the book. When she called me a c*nt I got in her face and in a low voice told her not to call me names in front of my kids and she up and hit me across the face and proceeded to "try" and attack me in front of my kids. I was so mortified that she would actually do this in front of my kids I packed up and stayed with my sister for a couple of days and then went into the local woman's shelter. My mother is an alcoholic and has been for the past 5 yrs now. I hadn't realized how bad it had gotten until I actually moved in with her. She NEVER went to bed without at least 3 drinks after work and it just seemed to escalate. The monday after I got to the shelter I got on the phone with social services and they gave me the money I needed to get back to B.C. with some of my stuff. I have always dealt with the emotional abuse by telling myself that she was my mother so it was normal somehow, but now I realize that it is no different than being with a man that is abusive in one way or another. I think more people need to be aware that family violence/abuse needs to stop just as much as the abuse inflicted from a spouse. I just don't see enough about it and I am starting here. Have you ever been the victim of family violence? Or any abuse?