Help! My secret crush asked me out for tea! What do I do?

That's true. What do I have to lose? It's just tea, right? I mean, it's not like we're getting married (yet - haha!)

I actually met this guy through a friend of mine. She had met him in person and told me about him. So, then I looked him up on Facebook and have communicated with him on there, as well as in person a few times. We both know a lot of the same people, which makes me more comfortable with him. Everything I've heard from other people about him has been really good. I have met guys through the Internet before though, who my friends weren't familiar with and I have had mixed results. It's a really different experience, because you learn things from meeting someone in person that you never would online - people conduct themselves really differently in person. I've found that some men who I've really liked online, I didn't find any attraction to in person, but there are a few who I am still friends with. My aunt and uncle both found each other online and ultimately, got happily married. I think you should meet each other, but for the first time, meet in a public place and bring a friend along. Your friend can also give you some advice about him after the date. Then you will know for sure, after meeting him, if the two of you are a good match. When I first met this guy, it was in a public place with friends around. It made me feel much more at ease.

Thanks for your sugesstion , but i do not meet him in real life . he told me that he likes me days ago . in my eyes maybe he just like the photoe of my. actually this photo is nicer than i am . so i just want to let him keep a good impression on me . anyway , thanks

All the best from my end! Hopefully, he will turn out to be a guy of your dreams.

You're right. I just saw him the other night & the more I see him, the more I like him. There seems to be a nice connection between the two of us. The more time I spend with him, the more I'll learn about him. Thanks for the nice wishes! :-)

That's good advice. After all, we've met a few times before, so there's no sense in drastically changing myself all of a sudden. He must like who i am, or he wouldn't have agreed to meet with me to begin with. This is our first date. And, he changed it from tea to lunch. I think that's a good sign. I'll wait and see how he reacts to me and go from there.

I will GO! Haha! Thanks for your advice. I'm meeting with him a week from tomorrow and I can't wait! It will be really interesting to see how all of this turns out! Thanks again.

That's true. I'm definitely going to meet with him. And, we are meeting a week from tomorrow - for lunch. It seems like he really wants to see me, since he moved it up. You're right, it definitely has some nice potential to develop into a great relationship between the two of us. I think I'll take it one step at a time and see if it's meant to be, or if we're really meant to be friends instead. I know that we get along well, because, as you said, we have met before. Thanks for the encouragement! :-)

Thanks for the advice. You're right. I have decided to meet with him. It will be good to get a better idea of whether or not he's interested in me. Just planning this date and his willingness and eagerness for it has made me feel like he is. Not only has he moved the date closer, but he decided to make it into a lunch date instead of just a tea date. And, he offered to meet me where I want to meet. I feel like those are all good signs and I am really looking forward to our meeting! It will be scary to find out the truth of whether or not he's interested in me like that, but it will be good to know for sure - so it can either progress, or we can both move on.

After all of these positive responses to my discussion, I'm definitely going to meet with him. And, I agree with you about taking things slow - one step at a time. We'll both learn more about each other and whether or not there is a real connection between the two of us.

You're so right! I'm going to! I need to know for sure. It will be really good not to wonder anymore where we stand. He changed it to lunch now - I think that's even better! I must say, regardless of what happens, I'm really excited about this. I really admire this guy and it makes me feel so awesome that he is taking time out of his busy day to meet with me! I think, at the very least, we should still be friends. We have a lot in common and I get the impression that we both have a certain level of admiration for each other - it's just a matter of how much that I have yet to find out.

I think so! I'm planning on meeting him a week from tomorrow. And, I think you're right - I got that impression too, that he must be interested in me if he wanted to move the date closer (especially when he is extra busy this month). The date has progressed to lunch, will give us a nice opportunity to get to know each other better. It will be good to know whether or not we will have future dates - so I can either be in a happy romance or move on.

That's true! That's what I was thinking too! He seems like he's interested in me and I'm really interested in him too. So, why not? The worst that can happen is that we discover we're not as interested in each other as we thought and we can both move on. But, it's worth a try to see if this will develop into a romance or not. Otherwise, I'll always wonder. It will be really good to know.

Haha! I agreed to move the date up! We're meeting a week from tomorrow - for lunch. He did ask to move it up, which seems to me that he wants to see me so badly, it would be hard for him to wait very long. Haha! I'm wearing a nice dress with a floral pattern with a light jacket. (A nice look for Spring.) I don't want to look to provocative. I'd like to leave a few things to the imagination - haha! This outfit is definitely conservatively sexy. I'm taking your advice. I'm not sure yet whether or not to wear high heels. What do you think?

Thanks for the response! It's turned into a lunch date now. Haha! I've met him a few times before in person, but this will be our first "date." I'll definitely be there! I'm really excited! :-)

That's what I'm going to do. And, I'm really excited about it. Yay! I think it will be fun and entertaining, regardless of the outcome. I mean, hey, I'm going out with an absolutely stunning man for lunch (not tea anymore). I can't argue with that! :-)

That's what I thought too. It seemed like a signal that if he wants to meet me even earlier than that, he must have some feelings for me too. I saw him last night too - he owns a jazz club - and he seemed even flirtier than before. He held my hands and said my drinks were on the house. I think he's starting to get comfortable with me. We'll see what happens!

You're right. Shyness can really get in the way sometimes. The more I try things like this, the more of a handle I'll have on it.

I see what you mean...if I play hard to get, it would make him hard to get me, which is not what I want at all! I'll definitely keep you posted on what happens. I'm not sure yet when we're meeting for tea, but it will be sometime this month.