Husband or wife Misbehaving

I believe both people should put forth every effort to make the marriage work. That means seek councelling if needed! I don't think marriage is something that should be given up without a lot of serious consideration, councelling, and work. If everything has been tried and the marriage is still failing, then divorce can be a final option.

I might need to use my 2 kegs,,,,,,,,,,,with whatever speed

Unfortunately these days very few people actually subscribe to this theory. With do-it yourself divorces and pay the church for annulments the only perk to marriage seems to be the tax brake. To answer your question-it would depend upon the situation. Are there children involved, or abuse? It would also depend upon your religious affiliation. Is divorce forbidden-will the parties be shunned or just threatened with God's wrath. I do not believe any God would want someone to be miserable for the rest of their lives just because they made a mistake. Also it would depend upon the people involved. If my husband cheated once, I could never trust him again no matter what he promised because I am a very paranoid person:)

I was never in a hopeless marriage but leaving will be my decision if I am ever trapped in one. I believe I deserve love and if I have kids, they would deserve loving environment to grow up in. There is no way I would stay in an abusive relationship, with or without children. Do you know that there are 3 conditions where divorce is allowed, even by Catholic church? I was told this in sunday school, so the church does allow divorce if they meet one of the 3 conditions. Ask your pastor or even ask Vatican if you have to. I don't know what actually happened, but if a marital situation meets one of the 3, it is no doubt nulled. From what you wrote 'it doesn't conform marriage vows' well marriage is a promise between two people in front of God. if one breaks the promise, there is no marriage. It's only a matter of time that the church gives divorce approval.

If marriages are based on love,then this type of question will not arise.And divorces are more common with people who did love marriages.That shows,they have lust for each other and they are now seeing the reality which they can't accept.Economical freedom is a must to get out of an unhappy marriage.Otherwise,tolerating each other will be the curse of their life.

I will be sad, but still I will go so fast.

Well such a behaviour can be tolerated to some extent,but to stay in such a wedlock I think there is no fun in living then,Better to pack your bags and go.

It will depend upon the level of misbehave by the one partner. If a partner continues to ignore the other one and shows indifferent attitude towards him/her then things could turn out sour between them and it can come to an impass. Respecting and regarding each other is key to healthy relations and the one who does not know how and when to respect the other partner, cannot be termed as a good and wise partner. I respect my partner and its vice versa is also true. The day any one of us start crossing the permissible limits, I think that our relationship might turn sour (However, in reality I do hope, it will never happen).

This is something I have noticed with many unhappy married couples. They remains together and generally one of them takes abuse from the other, generally because the church insists that divorce is sinful. I understand that anyone can fall into divorce and abuse, but I think religious people have more difficulty exitting a blatantly bad relationship for fear of being rebuked by their congregation, pastor, and God himself. The reality for me is that if one of the partners is doing something abusive or cheating on you, this is not what terms you got married on. Its understandable that everyone has bad days occasionally and those types of things can easily be worked on, but something bigger like cheating and abuse just pushes the boundary of a "good marriage." I have always kind of thought that you get married for love, and when love blatantly leaves their is no reason to be married anymore. A marriage is only really defined by those involved. If two individuals can't even make love and communicate with each other, what do they have? They are practically divorced without the legal announcement. Personally, I would leave a bad situation as mentioned. I am not one to take bull anymore.

In any relationship, there were times that we felt that we want to give up. But just believe that what happens to us is just 1% of the problem but how we handle or react is the 99%. The only way I will give up a marriage is when I will experience physical abuse.

To stay or leave is a question only you can answer. I have a friend who had the same situation and divorced.A funny thing happened. A couple years later they married again. I asked her and she said that it only feels right when she was with him. She finally did get him to fly rightthe little stinker so true love isn't always nothing except roses. Perhaps your question should be is he really Mr. Right?