So why do people seem to equate blunt honesty with RUDENESS and accept it??

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Excuse me but is everybody blind? There are many differences between being honest with somebody and being blunt and rude. I don't see why people tend to equate the two and believe that in order to be straighforward and not mince words, you have to say the most atrocious nasty things yet claim 'I don't mean any ill towards you BUT..' What is the point? Upon uttering the atrocious nasty things, you already KNEW you were purposely going to offend the other person, likely as well as the people around who care about that person. Does this boil down to having the type of personality where you get warm fuzzies from irritating or hurting others? Do you actually ENJOY the pain of other people? Is it because you don't have any filters? Why do you suppose this happens? Do you think being socially inept or without filters means it's okay to offend other people and claim you can't HELP IT? Something interesting I have discovered while accidentally gathering information about this phenomenon - my own son hit the nail on the head. Sometimes he'll laugh about something that is clearly not funny to another person, and when they admit he offended them, he keeps laughing. However, if someone offends HIM?? OMG, but they better apologize and it's totally NOT funny at all and why don't I do something to remove the instigator or offensive person so he doesn't have to feel ridiculed or laughed at. Very different being on the RECEIVING end for him. I did try to explain that THAT is how people HE makes fun of feel, so maybe he should file that away and remember that before he continues offending them. I wonder why people who operate this way don't learn. If you operate this way and feel that honestly equates to anything rude you want to spout off to anybody, would you like someone to come up with the most offensive thing they could say to you, and SAY IT? I also have to say that I do NOT in the slightest feel being ASSERTIVE means being a biitch either, and I know some people who consider those terms interchangeable. I think in this day and age, people have been forgetting about tact and decorum, not to mention 'treat others as you would want to be treated'.