Plop, Plop...

Along with not teaching good manners to our children at a very early age, our culture seems to be neglecting teaching them poise and how to be civilized. As a young parent I was criticized for expecting my children to say 'please' or 'thank you' when visiting a friends house. My child was five years old and given a gift! When I encouraged my son to say thank you, the gift giver laughed at me and said, "Don't be rediculous, he's only a kid!" When their children came to my house for a visit, my home was in a shambles by the time they left. Needless to say, I stopped inviting them as a family. We continue to nelglect teaching the social graces and learning how to control our bodies and how present ourselves to the world is part of that. It's not unrealistic to include basic things like posture and knowing how to sit in a chair when raising a child. It's basic and needs to be taught from day one! We're never too young to learn!

I do have a son that has ruined a recliner by doing this. I have tried everything. I finally gave up, he has orders that he is not to sit in any other seat. That recliner is his.

Oh!! that is just hard. I can consider when she is a little kid, I can teach her how to do it properly but at 17? do not know how to sit properly? that is just annoying. I might do the same as what you do. Let her sit on the floor until the time she knows how to sit properly on the couch.

Bwaahahahaa - no, I've never come across anyone who did this - it sounds hilarious! I'm guessing it's not too funny when the furniture's being destroyed, however. My suggestion would be to put a big spike under the cushions - it would be the last time anyone would dare plop ANYWHERE!

Hi twoey68, I use to know a 20 year old woman who used to jump up and down on my sofa till I had a go at her, she was a bit simple and I felt sorry for her as she was my hubby's friends' friend and told him not to bring the girl back to my house, that was many years ago and we don't see either of them any more. Tamara

I don't think I have ever come across this to be honest,but yes I would correct it if it happened to my furniture also they could jar their spine.Did she learn from this.It would also annoy me if someone did this it shows lack of respect for you and what you stand for,I expect this girls had maybe to many problems to deal with.I think people like you are marvellous as really and truthfully you start off with possibly the most naughty or mixed up kids going.Or kids upset in some way by some one or something.xx

I'm a plopper too, and there's a caved end in my couch to varify that. Unfortunately I plop because I don't have the balance to lower my legs into a ssitting position. I can bend them when I am down, but I am either on my feet, or off of my feet. There is no middle ground. The only way for me to avoid plopping is to get me a couch that's higher, that I pull myself up onto, instead of sitting down on, but a couch that high is damn near impossible to find.

well if you are very overweight it is the force of gravity pushing you done and it is not always a soft landing. or elderly people sometimes don't have control over their bodies and plop down as well. I don't know anybody else that did it continuously, I know teenagers like to do it but I haven't seen it done all the time though.

this would be my bro. he has blown the a** out of every car seat in his cars,and every recliner in the house.he hits that recliner so hard you can hear the air escape when it lands. i have no idea why he can't sit like a normal human.

My ex husband would practically throw his body into the air and land on the couch in a laying position. I don't know why the furniture wasn't broken! My youngest son plops and my older son sits properly. I was taught very young that I had to sit, not plop, out of consideration for our home and for others.

i have seen people do that. thank heavens neither one of my sons did that. i have always been particular about my furniture, don't want peole's feet on it etc. i can see why u made her sit on the floor. lol.

I used to do that as a teenager, too. I think I stopped because my mom said so many times not to do it, that even when I moved into her own place I could hear her voice saying it to me as I sat down! Actually, that is true of a lot of things. Now I moved back in with her again so I know I am in danger of hearing it in person, so I don't dare do it!

Half the men I know plop down on the furniture and burp without warning. Never had one that plopped that hard or that much though. A personality problem? No. Beds could be a problem though. Maybe we should at it as a good excuse to get some new, sturdier furniture. What would you think of that? See. There always seems to be a positive in any negative if you just look far enough.

I have one now, she's a teenager She has been that way since she was a young kid. She hasn't really destroyed the couch but it does seem to sit on the floor differently than when I bought it

Well, it wouldn't have hurt to take it out of their allowance if they got any or made them work off the cost of the new furniture. My two brother plops and they are big boys.They both weigh over 400 lbs, So you can imagine how many couches they went through and chairs also. And floors my one brother has went through a few floors so I guess he would be one of those stompers you were talking about in another discussion. The way I would have dealt with it was only let her sit in one chair and only one chair so that she didn't wreck the other furniture and if she broke it make her pay or work out for another one. I know a few others who plop down as well but they are slimmer so really doesn't hurt to much.

No Didnt know anyone like this. BUt I did know ones that would crawl over the place and 2 kids that llived in a 25 foot fithwheel Jumped all around it from bed to couch to table and over an over again but whent hey visitred me the acted quite normal as I had pleant of room fo rthem to play in.

Aaaarrrrghhhhh I know exactly what you mean twoey my 15 year old does exactly that and I am at a loss of how to stop it! Luckily he is not overweight but as he is 6ft 2 he isn't exactly featherweight! Even worse he seems incapable of sitting once he is down - he either slouches right down or lies on the sofa - it is so irritating and i have to keep reminding myself that there are a lot of worse things he could be doing! xxx

I know what you mean. Some of my kids do this! It also drives me nuts! And just like you I make them sit on the floor till they think they have learned how to sit on a couch. Usually it only last for the day and then we have to start all over the next day. Mine are much much younger than 17 so hopefully they will learn by then. 17 she should know better that plopping on the furniture like that would ruin it. Obviously if she had already ruined some she would know. Do you think she did it in spit of you. Knowing it drove you nuts could be the reason she did it. Or out of habit and realized her mistake after she had already plopped down. Don't know hope she breaks her habit.

furniture plopping is a pet peeve of mine my kids try to plop on occasion when they do I make them stand back up and sit down right if they dont do it right they have to keep standing back up and trying it again and again until they do get it right if they fail to after awhile or they get an attitude then they are made to sit on the floor anyone who cant sit on furniture properly will not have the privilege of using furniture in this house

People are supsed to sitdown genetly on chairs and furniture. at work I have seen where some chairs have gotton brokedn that way.