Do you unfriend people that do short discussions?
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
United States
April 5, 2009 3:23am CST
i mean the 1 liners or empty discussions that really arent worth anything? i figure if they are new i will keep them as a friend for awhile so that maybe they will figure out that you need to have a discussion of substance but after awhile if they have done a lot of discussions and been here awhile and still doing the same silly discussions or really small couple of words or one liners i will unfriend them since usually they are people that do 20 discussions at a time..
are you the same? do you try to tell them first that they need to change to earn or get better replies? do you just turn the notify off and leave them on your friends list?
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@mathss1 (1181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I really hate responding to people in my friends list who start millions of discussions in a day responding to them is impossible
Sometimes I write meaningless comments on their discussions but I do not remove them from my friends list (removing people is rude)
This is it keep them on the list
Who cares just turn off their notification and they wont bother you
Have a gr8 time
Njoy
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
5 Apr 09
Hey mathss - some of your 'meaningless' comments are really funny!
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
if i turn the notify off on them i will never remember to check them and then i will feel guilty for not replying to them
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
5 Apr 09
When I add users to my list and they are making mistakes I usually try and help them, especially if they are new users. I try until they stop making mistkaes. If they carry on making useless discussions with one-line time wasters they will end up not earning and either alter the things they are doing or they give up and leave.
If they leave (or get their account cancelled) then I delete them. I don't delete them until then because I never give up on anyone and hope they will eventually learn
Happy Lotting!
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
great attitude!! i am always going through my friends lists to update it and keep it small (well its still big but to keep it with the people that have at least been active in the last 4 months) but some people flood me so bad (i have all on notify or else i would forget to respond to every one lol) that after 20 of the same things over and over and after a certain amount of time i give up.. your a better person than me!
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
5 Apr 09
Not a case of being a better person. I guess my tolerance level is higher that's all!
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@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
awww mysdi ... that's a good way of encouraging people to participate more on mylot and to love it without thinking of how many they can post in a day but on how they can enjoy replying to the discussions wooot!
I do the same though I never delete any of the friends I added on here...^_^
hugs...
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
18 Apr 09
I do not unfriend them but I don't rate them positive which I do with everyone who posts to me or a discussion I respond to.
Some of the people who answer in single sentences know what they are doing and are quite aware of the guidelines. They are here just to make money.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
18 Apr 09
yeah i hate it when they know better and dont care
@krupesh (2608)
• India
7 Apr 09
Some of my discussions are good & some as you say are bad(I only know that..haha).But its really not possible to get a good discussion going by me as I am poor in English.Even though I have lots in my mind to write my english diminishes my efforts.I know english for communication but not the words which you want to impress others for a debate or for a discussion.It might be the case of some more people like me.Why do you want to dishearten them?Dont show your frustration on them instead help them.This thread should not have been posted in the first place.Instead better would have been to educate them.
After this I hope I will still continue to be in your friend's list...hahaha
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
9 Apr 09
no i wasnt meaning like english issues.. heck im american and my spelling and etc is horrible lol.. i just mean the discussions that people do that are only a few words to where its hard to reply or they have done the same discussions that have been on here over and over again etc..
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
18 Apr 09
90% of the time the ones i delete have never answered any of my discussions.. they seem to only come here post.. never reply to anyone or reply to anyones posts
@krupesh (2608)
• India
9 Apr 09
..yeah talking about the same , its difficult to continue or start with a good discussion if you dont know how to put the words.I agree about the repeated discussions but those aren't put intentionally I think as majority of the MYLOTTERS dont want others to point fingers at them.Why would you want to delete them?Who knows they might be the one who would respond with a strong , lengthy discussion for your next post which they are interested in?
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@greeneyedlady (1439)
• Netherlands
7 Apr 09
As long as someone really tries to join in my discussions and/or my responses then I will leave them as a friend but I do go regularly and clear out what few friends that I keep if I don't see them for a month or so. I don't like to keep lots of friends that I don't know and have never seen around my discussions as I think it is better to have a few good friends than 1,000 people that you have no idea who they are!
As far as the one liners go, I will leave it go for a while if I have accepted their friendship when I see they are new and usually they will figure it out eventually, once they have been around myLot for a while as I remember that is what happened to me. I didn't know what I was doing when I first came here but little by little I learned.
If I see they truly do join in my discussions and quite a long time goes by with the one liners the I would probably drop them a PM and give them the hint that is the reason people make more with better and longer posts although I have never had that problem as of yet.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
9 Apr 09
yeah if they are new i give them a couple of months to figure it out and try to help them.. if they just ignore everything and continue to spew out 20 one line discussions a minute then i will go ahead and delete since i would think that if they wanted to improve and earn then they would try out suggestions and etc..
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@greeneyedlady (1439)
• Netherlands
9 Apr 09
That's why I keep my friends list low, I can enjoy the people, we have a lot in common, they know how to start a discussion a discussion and respond to one to get the most out of the entire experience, etc. but sometimes I will see someone that just keeps trying to respond to me and I figure OK, they tried hard enough to become my friend so give it a try. A lot of times it will workout nice for both of us!
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I don't worry about the length of what someone's response is. If they only post one liners they are not going to earn very much and that is not my responsibility. Sometimes I have a lot to say in a discussion and sometimes I don't. I hope it all balances out in the end.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
7 Apr 09
not responses but when they post discussions.. yeah on replying to people some times its impossible to write something several sentences long due to whatever it might be about
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I have often wondered how those discussions survive when they are not even a full paragraph.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
7 Apr 09
If they are New I usually will end up giving them the Benefit of the doubt and hope they will realize that it is Quality here over quantity, and it also depends on the type of discussions they are starting here as well. If it is someone who is constantly talking about things I am not interested in responding back too it is hard to remain their friend for sure.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
9 Apr 09
yeah thats why i meant i gave them awhile to change but if they showed no sign of changing or caring then i will just go ahead and delete
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 09
Well, I have not 'unfriend' anyone in mylot so far. I understand there are some people who only reply in one line, perhaps that's what they had in their mind, nothing more can be said, perhaps they just like to reply fast. If I am not interested in the discussions, I'd just leave it but not replying.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
9 Apr 09
not on replying to discussions but people that make discussions with one liners to where its barely a discussion because it doesnt ask much or anything etc.. im like you and if i cant add anything to some ones discussion i wont reply..
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
6 Apr 09
I have accepted all friends' request so far, and have not really tracked how they are doing, what kinds of discussions they initiate or whether they are here more for the money than anything else. I've also not used these factors to determine if I should keep them as my friends or discard them. For those friends I value more, I will turn the notify on so I can track their discussions better, and accord some priority to them in participating in their discussions. But I will still choose to take part in a discussion based on the topic discussed and whether I have anything to contribute, and not solely because they are on my friends'list.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
7 Apr 09
if i never turn the notify on on the people i will never get around to checking them so it would almost be pointless to add them in the beginning
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I hope my discussions aren't empty! I post a lot of discussions but I also have a lot to say at times. Well I try to be mindful but will often go through my list and delete people to whom I do not agree and thus can never answer their discussions or to whom as you say do not share anything of substance.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
yeah i have had to do that with some people that only talk about sports and since i dont watch it i have nothing to reply with and i feel bad
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@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
6 Apr 09
I don't mean to be a snob, I'm just picky about friends. A person that doesn't start discussions that I'm interested in or that are one liners or that make no sense never get on my friends list in the first place. I check out the profile of each person that requests friendship. If their discussions and/or comments consist of nonsense or that aren't in my interest field I don't grant them friendship.
If I run across a newbie's discussion that doesn't meet guidelines, I will comment and try to let them know politely what is expected.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
7 Apr 09
i get so many friends request in i never have time to check them out beforehand.. i probably should to elevate some of this
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
i am also giving short responses. but recently, i realized that i have to put some weight on my discussions because the rating and the earnings is really affected.
to answer your question. i don't because they might have their reasons why they just put one liner answer.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
not on people that reply with one lines but the people that only post discussions that are one liners.. some times its impossible to think of much to say when replying it seems
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@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I"m a returned member of mylot (took about a year off), but the only time I unfriend a person is they join and then just sit there. I keep watch on their disussions and comments and if they're not active here for 2 months, yes, I delete them.
The one liners do get annoying. I prefer having something I can sink my brain into other then what color did you paint your toenails this week. So I guess in the selection process, I get friend requests and then let them sit there for a while. I watch people in their discussions and responses and then decided if I want to add them or not.
I don't think it's rude to delete a person when you don't share common interests Moon, nor is it rude to shut notifications off if those kinds of discussions aren't your style.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
7 Apr 09
apparently others replying tend to think it is lol.. i just dont see the point in having them in my friends list to ignore.. but i do approve everyone as soon as i get their friends request so maybe if i did like you it would help out
@uicbear (1900)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I still keep them as friends, and just turn the notify to off. I don't want the clutter of a bunch of goofy topics or repeat discussions worded differently, that's more of a hassel than anything else. If someone asks me advice on how to earn a little more on this site, I will pass on what I do and what I've been told, but that's about all I can do really. What annoys me more than anything else, is seeing how those silly little discussions rack up so many responses.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
i know! its like you see really crappy discussions with a million replies and your own discussions you know are interesting not many bother to answer lol
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
I've only unfriended people who joined a long long time ago added me then never posted anything. I figure that i can keep anyone else but if im not interested in the discussion or if i dont have anything of valueable to say i dont ever say anything anyways.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
6 Apr 09
exactly.. and if the internet is slow it takes forever to go through all your friends to find the ones you are looking for
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
yeah i go through and if they havent been on in 4 months i delete them because i have noticed that most everyone that takes long breaks do check in at least once during that time.. so it weeds out the people that arent coming back and filling up my friends list
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@pweety_princess (2012)
• Australia
5 Apr 09
I just accept all friends requests that I get. When I go to the friends started discussions I only reply to the ones that I find interesting. Other than that I don't really mind who my friends are. I like everyone. :)
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
i think if i didnt have everyone on notify it wouldnt bother me much but if i dont have them on notify i miss out on everything lol.. so i cant win lol
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@mathss1 (1181)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I really hate responding to people in my friends list who start millions of discussions in a day responding to them is impossible
Sometimes I write meaningless comments on their discussions but I do not remove them from my friends list (removing people is rude)
This is it keep them on the list
Who cares just turn off their notification and they wont bother you
Have a gr8 time
Njoy
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@prabuking (66)
• India
5 Apr 09
I don't like the wast discussion.. I will reply the best questions and .. I creat best discussion.. I hate those people who unnessarly chating........
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@neha2k94u (406)
• India
6 Apr 09
I never feel these type of discussions aren't worth anything, Its only the subject matter that I used to see when I read some discussions here...
Thats not a matter if there are one line or two line or so...
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