is it a turn on if the girl makes the first move

That's silly! I don't think that's a turn off at all. I think it's even convenient for us guys to be asked out. It's a great thing and a total boost of confidence especially if we like the girl. Now who would refuse an opportunity like that? I was asked out a few times and we both see nothing wrong with it. The most important thing is how you spend your time. If you're fine with it, them go for it.

Traditionally it used to be the truth , but things are changing, why not try it out instead of keep thinking because the lingering thoughts really disturb a person.

i think it all depends on how old the girl and how old is the guy. if they are both young then i dont think it is a turn on. that would be totally turn of. if also the girl can accept the decission of the guy then i dont think that there is something wrong with it. a cool style of doing the first move is a good way to get noticed. some guys also like the sense of adventure.

basically, guys always do the first move and some people might think the otherwise when they see women making the first moved, but for me that is not a big deal, not even a turn off...really! actually, my fiance made the first move and also she's the one who said that we are on, even though, i am not asking her about it hehe... if that's what will make you feel better and in a way complete then go for it, there's no harm in asking a guy to go out with you. good luck lolipopicecream

well yeah traditionally it's the guys who always asks the girls our on a date but if the guy is too shy or something,he may not take action even he has feelings,so compared let a chace go why not the girl ask him our directly and have a try.I mean the worst thing is the same before you ask him out,aha?

Well it depends on the girl really. I am always flattered when a girl shows interest. But some girls just want to be friends, and some girls just want to have "fun" it is sometimes hard to determine what the girl has in mind. But I just go along with it, because it saves me having to work up my own courage to show interest in the girls. So it is definitely a turn on for me. Have fun with all you do!