Does virginity matter?

well in the philippine setting, virginity matters at all...why? because your spouse or husband will gotta be proud of you if he'll know after your marriage you are still virgin..so don't give up anything else to your boyfriend..you are not sure if he's going to marry you..preserve your virginity to the right person.

for my perception the virginity its really matter.. because thats the biggest gift to your husband. thats the symbol of your love that he is the one. the first and the last partner you loved the most

Well you have acquired the old Filipino Tradition passed on by your parents. i think you both are right in some aspects. It is a matter of how you handle yourself that matters. I am also from Philippines and I see that our society is starting to open up to what the world is becoming. I am an open person and I think there is no old and new thought. What I think is that the world is an open arena of thoughts, ideas and belief systems and we should just respect them as they are. As for you, you are entitled to your opinion and your own set of belief systems. And I truly respect you for that firm stand on your own belief system. You and your friend have your own sets of standard that you set for yourself and the outcome for the choices you've made in your life is what determines if you chose the right path or not.

With todays fast life, it is very possible to b erak the hymen whilst excersing or doing some streneous activity. That does not mean the girl is not a virgin. Acutally in India too a lot of importance is given on virginity, though in todays age how many kids are virgins is anybodys guess. I dont think it should matter. Men go around enjoying themselves, why shouldn't women. Your husband should be able to accept you for what you are today and not your past. In todays age, you can safely say 60% of the kids have had affairs.

i dont think that you can find your true love when you give your virginity to the person you meet. Finding your true love is a process. For me, you have to know the person you love well enough and i think you can feel it already when that special person is for you. what if the man only uses you to satisfy his needs? then i dont think that there is love to that. and the concept of virginity depends on the principles and upbringing of the person itself. If it's ok for them not to remain virgin until married, then it's their decision and their principle.

For me virginity is really a matter because it is one way of showing respect to myself and of course this is special gift that i can give to my husband. For me this is not a way of following our old folks traditions but it is my choice not to loose my virginity to anybody because of lust, because of just an experiment or any other reasons that others may say. I loose my virginity to my husband only and we have a 2 year old little boy now :)

I guess it depends on part of the world you come from, I believe in equality and in that i say why should a woman be a virgin and a man not...I think a too bigger deal is made of virginity especially since men usually are just so full of their own gratification they wouldn't know anyway....but I am of the Western World....

I definitely believe that it matters! It is the most valuable thing that a person has. It is something that you have until you give it up. I am American, and I feel so bad that virginity is seen as some "freakish" thing these days. I never see articles where people are praising someone for remaining pure, the attitude is always that the person is "trying to hard" or just that they can't get anyone so that's their "excuse". It really saddens me to hear people treat virginity like this taboo disease that you should race to get rid of. I am pretty open about my feelings on this, I personally have never had a boyfriend, but I'd like to think that even if I did I would stick with my morals. I am not a religious person, but I have very strong morals and standards, and I value purity much more than most people, especially those who are my age. I don't think that one must give up that purity to find love, if a person meets the "one" they will know they are the one because of things like personality, attraction, etc. People who fall in love based on physical means alone are bound to fall out of love just as soon as the excitement fades.

HI Cellyne I'm from London and I think your right. Virginity does matter - like you say its a treasure and it represents purity. I'm 24 and I'm still a virgin because I want to wait until I get married - that way I can give something beautiful and special to my husband. Perhaps this is a girl thing - I wouldn't expect my husband to be a virgin Wai

hey girl, couldn't agree with you more. you dont have to give up your virginity to find true love, there are other ways.

Well, this topic is really hot in my place too. I guess not only Filipino men want their ladies pure as you said, but almost men on the earth want it. It's just a guess. lol. But with the liberation of women's right, you should consider women more. My point of view is for your friend Princess. She just said, it helps her to find her true love. Actually it's quite reasonable. Frankly speaking, the man you love or give your virginity after your wedding or things like that, may turns out that he don't love you at all. Of course I'm not denying there are some nice guys who are really in love with you and will spend the whole life being together with you. But it is a fact. I don't mean that the girl should give their virginity to her beloved guy. It's just her decision. My idea is that if the girl really loves the one, she may keep or give her virginity to the guy. So the virginity matters only to some men/women, and the view are changing greatly nowadays. True love doesn't necessarily linked to virginity. Say, some girls' may be got violently by raping or fierce movement, so she won't find her true love any more? I guess not. Only if she really loves a guy and find their true love, maybe with wedding, or living together for 20, 30 years, etc. This is the true love. In the end, I want to remind you of something big, lol. Open your eyes big and be smart enough. lol, good luck pretty girl. -Eddy

It depends on the society tradition. Most of men care about virginity. Maybe, you can meet someone who don't care about this, but very few. After marriage, it can keep your marriage more steady. At least, your husband will love you more, he think he is the only one who has you.

If I am a man and so in love with a woman, I don't care whether she is virgin or not. Sometimes in our lives we made mistakes, we trusted the wrong man and unfortunatley gave ourselves without any reservations. Your being a virgin or not doesn't make or break your character. despite of losing it, you can still prove that you deserve every respect and love a decent woman should be given of. If a man can't accept you because of the lack of it, then he doesn't deserve to have you. That man doesn't love you enough. It'll be a miserable state of he can't fully accept wht happened to you in the past, he might even take it against you sooner or later when things get topsy turvy. Dump him and find someone who will love you despite and in spite of who you are.:-)

in our part of the world too it matters a lot... and it matters for both men and women... though, people seem to care less about men as they care about women... cellyene, i appreciate your thoughts... happy myLotting...

I believe your friend is right in some way... I believe that if the boy loves you he will accept you for what you are..a virgin or not. Love doesn't look only entirely on virginity..Love is felt and shared together by a couple no matter what obstacles come in front of them they will still love each other. You don't have to give your virginity to anyone though unless you feel you want to. Sometimes, even if you think it is not right there are things you make a mistake of and cannot reverse back but doesn't mean you can never start again...Hope you find your right answer on this.

I don't think virginity is important per se. I'm in my 30s, which means that most (nearly all) men I would see are not virgins. And its not important to me, what is important is that they will be faithful from the time we are together. Personally, I have somewhat conservative views on making love. Recently I was dating this guy, and we'd only seen eachother a couple of times. We were on the couch together (have to be careful here to describe because of adult content) but we were kissing and stuff, and both of us really wanted to "go all the way" and I really did too but I don't believe in doing that so early in a relationship, before I KNOW that he's committed and really loves me. So I said no. Then he moved away a week later and hasn't even called me, and this was a month ago!!! So I am very glad we didnt' sleep together, or I would be even more hurt than I am. Sleeping together is a big step, whether you are a virgin or not.

There shouldnot be any pre-planned thing in a relationship...Is virginity matters to me, I respect it as a woman. though I beleive that there is nothing called "platonic" love, physical proximity is a part of love but virginity should be respected.. And the concept that loosing your virginity and being accepted by a man just for the sake of examining his love seems very lunatic and bizzare to me.. If it happens due to a moment and with the man you love, then no harm, but planning something loke this from before is not at all I can accept.

where you come from matters to some extent but in all, virginity really matters alot. i wish i were still a virgin. lol

Most of us now live a liberated life style. I think if you really love the person, it doesn't matter if she's still a virgin or not. Maybe your lucky if she's still a virgin and like I said doesn't matter if she's not. =)

There are so many factors that can affect people's feelings on this matter. Exactly like you said, in certain countries virginity is seen as purity. Therefore, you are looked past for marriage if you aren't pure. In the US it's not so much an issue unless you come from a family where religious values constitute staying pure until you marry. Most people in the US don't really care these days. Even though alot of guys would love to take a girls virginity, in alot of cases they'd rather be with a girl who has some experience. It's a tough issue to discuss because it really is such a tabbo subject. I guess it really depends on the person.