How would you react??

yes sometimes we lost our patience to even our closest friend if something like this happened, but this gives us a lesson to lock the door everytime someone goes out. It's alright if will wake up again to open them as they come back. The next time however they must expect to sleep outside should we not be able to wake up (lol). Imagine the headache we may get, in waking up to their calls.

I understand you completely. I think you need to set down some ground rules about a few things. Sometimes we don't even think about that becuase they are our friends and we just expect them to know. I would be upset, but talk with her - tell her why you feel this way and then come up with a plan. Locking the door by 10 is not unreasonable. If she needs to get in after that then she needs to call or be there before. She is your guest and needs to respect your household. Talk with her, lay down and plan. If it happens again, then you have some diffinate issues with her because she's compromizing the safety of your home and your family. If she doesn't see that, then maybe she's not that much of a friend.

I would show her the door and lock it behind her!

I have been in that situation, but it was with a family member, not a friend. We handled it by telling him that if he wasn't home by the time we went to bed from that point on, he would be locked out. After that, if it got late and he was coming home, he would call. We would always tell him the same thing though, and we didn't give in. Eventually, he got tired of getting locked out and started getting in at a decent time.

Hi there, If she was your trusted friend I dont think so now well not as trusted for a while anyway,I would set the boundries next time when she would come over,especailly for your daughter,and then she did not come back thats another story,where did she go?. I would talk to your friend about the situation like an adult and make sure she understands that it wont happen again!!!.

With the incident the night I sleep and the door is not locked. I am very sorry for myself with my own why do not lock the door to my friends and lock the door so that the message before leaving. That should I do. But this will not solve the problem in the future. And I think that this event is very dangerous, so I will install automatic doors with three-button Open, Close and Auto.

I will be mad at her and disappointed. I am expecting her to be more responsible and thoughtful enough for me and my family that is she can't go home, she will give me a call so I can locked the door! It happened to me several times when I was renting an apartment with my sister and friends!

I'd be a bit miffed, to say the least. I make it a habit of locking up, especially at night before I go to sleep. However, I'm a bit curious. Did your friend specifically say that they'd be back in 20 minutes time? Or that they'd be back shortly? The reason I am asking is because maybe their frame of time is different than yours. So if they said "I'll be back shortly" it could mean anything from a few minutes to hours. As for what actions I would take? I guess I would make some ground rules and let them know that if they are staying at my place then they will have to be home at a specific time and if they aren't back by then, then too bad for them! Kind of like a curfew for kids. The only difference is you don't have to let them in.

i would be very upset with myself, actually.. i maybe a bit upset with the freind - she could have called and told me that she was going late, or not coming home at all.. then i could have made sure i locked the door. but if it was me.. i would have locked the door anyways.. the 'freind' must have her own set of keys.. so she shouldnot have any problem getting into the house. even if she didnt bring the key.. she could wake me up to open the door for her.. i would be mad about that, too.. BUT.. 'prevention is better than cure' and 'better be safe than sorry' - that's what i believe, and i am responsible for my own safety... so.. keep your doors locked no matter what...! Cheers !

Ewwww that is scary! You are so lucky some wacko didn't walk in and hurt you. I would definitely tell my friend that he/she needs to call you to let you know if she/he won't be back. And tell her if she's not back within X amount of minutes, you are going to have to lock the door. Your safety is at stake! Be Careful and Take Care!

I would not be happy at all. I would first calm down tho and then I would talk to her. Could it be that she is not in the habit of locking up? I could relate to that because for years, I never locked up anything. Is she staying for a long while? If so, maybe get her a key made up? If not, then in the future if she goes out like that, I'd lend her my key and lock up when I go to bed if she isn't back.

If, he was my good friend then I speak clearly to him that it is not good practice otherwise I give him another chance as well. Is this thing happen with you or you are just asking.

It depends on how much she does this, for me at least. I would get kind of angry, and I would discuss this with her. I would ask her not to do it again, OR i would lock the door on her. You are paying the rent arent you? maybe she needs her own key.

I would be upset and I would sit down and talk to her about it. Then I would probably get her a key so that it wasn't a problem anymore.

Scream! Call the friend and tell her the house has been broken into! That's probably what I might do if I discover the friend did not come back. However, is there of use? I have only myself to blame. I would have checked with my friend the time she will be back or inform her that I am locking the door. I do prefer to ensure the door is locked before I knocked off.

i would be extremely angry and i would say so next time i saw them. i have an elderly mother,and i can't endanger her like that. however..at second reading,i realize it might be a good idea to make sure they're ok first before i launch into them about it.if something happened,then it really couldn't be helped.

i imagine i would be really ticked off & i would for sure let them know about it. they were leaving u & your family in a dangerous situation as much meaness that goes on nowadays. u worry when ur doors are locked. they might not be welcome the next time.

I think I will be upset and curious about it.I will call her,ask what had happended?After that,I will give her the key of the door.

A friend staying with me....If he/she was truely a friend they would understand that I'm doing them a favor to let them stay there temporarily. The thing that is most disturbing is you put you friend creature comforts ahead of the safety of your own child!!!!!!!!! Who are "THEY" in they were going out for what was supposed to be not long. There are a lot of missing pieces to this story that you keep filling in as you go along. I think it was irresponsible on your part all the way around. The friend would be gone the next day and no longer staying with me. It doesn't sound like you set any groud rules to begin with so it comes back to your inability to be an adult!

i would be extremely upset because that put your saftey at risk not to mention any children that may have been in the home. That its very inconsiderate of your friend and i would let he/she know that the least they could have done was give you a phone call letting you know that they would not be returning especially considering the fact that you are doing them a favor by allowing them to live in your home.