Jealous of his sister?

United States
April 7, 2009 3:46pm CST
Relationships are so beautiful especially when you have FINALLY found your soul mate. But can you handle the man you are madly in love with, be touchy/feely with another female in your presence- his little sister!? who is 19 years old? Sometimes you wonder "Am i really THAT crazy and jealous"? or is this relationship that he has with his little sister a bit inappropriate? at least in my presence.... I mean, they hold hands and hug each other in the movie theatre while im there! they walk arm in arm like they are the couple..... Maybe some families are just THAT close. But why doesnt HE feel THAT close to ME?
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@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
Hmm.. I think I have encountered that same situation numerous times in movies but definitely not in real life... I don't really know how it feels in reality... Does your boyfriend still have their parents? does he have another sibling aside from her sister? Have you opened up your concerns to your Boyfriend? If you feel a little kind of awkward to open it up, maybe you can start with, "I noticed that you are very close to your sister.." But there is one thing sure... Your boyfriend wouldn't be entering a relationship with you if he is "in love" with his sister... ^_^
• Tunisia
8 Apr 09
Jalousy is a naturel pretty feeling but it can be a desaster when abuse it!
@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
8 Apr 09
I dated a guy once that was peculiarly close to his sister. It didn't last long so it wasn't really a big problem. Holding hands and walking arm and arm in a theater seems a little odd to me too. I could understand that sort of touching if, for instance, his little sister needed comforting or something. Otherwise, yes, I think that's a bit much.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
He maybe just letting her sister feel, he's the same brother even he has her girlfriend already. He thinks perhaps you will understand. If you're together, anyway without her sister, he maybe that closed to you and let you feel you're his special someone. Try to understand things first, however if times come that seems you're being taken forgranted and things maybe not falling in the proper places, then time for you to think
• India
7 Apr 09
Oh dear.. yr not jealous i agree.. Sometimes some Things may not be as they appear. Maybe der bonding of bro sis relationship is bit too cozy n u hadn't seen it in anyone before. Its jus time to get used to it. I mean..only if hes yr true love n if yr sure he would keep YOU happy. Don hesitate to express wattu feel for him at times cuz maybe tats wat is holdin him back from bein close wit u. Good or bad jus share it n ask him.. Being open wit yr hubby is always good. It either gives u the best of him if he truly cares u .. Or u sure ll know betr of him in a clear way. Do tak care since u love him so much.. :) Lets not see this girl sad.. Hope things get rosy n romantic n betr for u soon.. :)
@mmmn4163 (12)
• United States
8 Apr 09
I think you love him much,and wanted to hold him. There are women think so. This is no mistake. Since love is selfish. However, if you do so, you may lose him. Everyone has their own space. So, I think what you can do is give him enough confidence.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Apr 09
Is the problem with his relationship with his sister or his relationship with you? If he doesn't feel that close to you, are you sure he's your soulmate? Is it just when he's with his sister that he doesn't feel so close to you? Or is it all the time? Have you talked to him about this (in a nice, non judgmental way)? His response may tell you a lot!
@suveer35 (98)
• India
7 Apr 09
Well as told by you relationships are beautiful right!!!!its there relationship of brother and sister.they are togather since they are born and are expected to have love and affection for each other.Its just that you love him too much and so you are very possessive for him.if veven the girl in this case was not his sister you would have felt the same.so just chillax and give him some space !!!!He loves you dont worry on that part.just enjoy your relationship
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I have to admit that, that much physicall contact between the two is odd. I don't remember doing that with my brother. I wouldn't chalk this up to jealousy just yet, but may see how this relationship with you and him unfold for awhile. If he's still giving his sister most of this physical attention then I would wonder if he has issues. Don't know how long you've been together, but if you've noticed over the course of a few months then it would raise a few questions for me. Jealous? I don't think so. Maybe that was just a reaction reflex to seeing something a bit too close for your comfort.