How long did you know your spouse before you got married?

hi my dear feind, we are married for three years and now we are having a one year oldie too. we met online one fine day and had a chat . we chat for maximum five minutes and then he alked my fone number. i gave him my cell phone number and then we use to talk for hours together . without caring what t he clock is showing , what parents are thinking, what people out may be thinking, what my office collegues may be thinking....nothing. we never thought of anything. we ahd a tal;k for one whole month, i think it was forty to forty five ddays. then, we decided that we should meet. he said that he will come but could never make up the trip so one day i called him and said that i am reaching at yopur place at this fine day at this this tijme . he was shocked but it happened. i met him, we had a talk, we decided to marry. i called my parents too. the other day we got engaged in the morning and wed in the evening. it was all an adventure for us. it was so fast that if i tell anyone they say, how can you come all the way from North to West alone then call your parents and then got married also. i think to take a decision, one need to thonk for some time , have the confidence to take it, the responsibility of taking the decision . now i have to go. i will writew fully afterwards my liittle one isawake and i have to rush.

how long we know not a guarantee to know more about our pair. nature can change over time

Glad to hear you have such a happy family. I don't marry now and my plan of marry are still not very sure. My gf and I have dated for about 3 years and the most important is that we are living in two city and only can see each other on the festival, but we are satisfied and very happy, we belive we can live together after this difficult period!

My husband and I only knew each other a short time before we married, but I do not recommend this to others. Each of us found out things after the wedding about the other that probably would have caused a less determined couple to divorce. Each of us had parents that stayed together for the long haul, and we were determined to do the same. We have had rough spots in our marriage, but we weathered them and will have been married 54 years May 1st.

My husband and I were friends for a long time before we became "romantic". We had been going out together for about a year when he proposed.Upon my acceptance he took me to the other side of the country to meet his family and we were married a year after that so all in all that is 2 years of dating and about 3 years of platonic friendship.

I have been friends with my husband for almost 16 years. We are friends for 11 years then we were romantically involve for 4 years and on May, we will celebrate our first year anniversary as married couple.

We grew up together since childhood.

Welcome to Mylot I knew my huband for a year before we got married. Now we have been together for 16 years.

I knew my husband for 4 months before we were married. It's almost 10 years now....and I had an arranged marriage.....after meeting for the first time, we were allowed to talk to each other and get to know each other more. As far as long run goes, it's all a chance. There is no equation on which will last longer....it all depends on the basic foundations of marriage that are set and the love and understanding between the spouses....and there are some aspects of a person you might not realize till you start living with them and it doesn't matter how long you've known each other before marriage.

I met my husband around May of '95, we started dating by June. He asked me to marry him around August, and we got married that December the 22nd. We met while we where both stationed on the USS. Mt.Whitney (LCC-20) in the Navy. This December will make 14 years we have been married. I don't think it matters how long you have known the person before you get married. I think you could have known a person for 18 years (went to school together), get married and be slammed with fact that you married a stranger. You don't know that person honestly until you get married. All the good and bad things about them.

[i]Hello matnlilsmommy, I have known my wife for about a year and we been together for 17 years now. I think marriage has it's own stages and it doesn't matter how long or how short you have been dating you have to pass each stage. Marriage is different from dating and so I think it doesn't matter if you have been dating long or short. You still have to work it out to keep your marriage happy and succesful. Regards.[/i]

My husband and I met in Aug of 06 we dated for a yr and a half before we were married. Next month will be our 1 yr wedding anny. I don't think it much matters how long you know a person. I think what matters is how well you know that person. For us it seems like we've known each other our whole lives, like we were never strangers. Somehow I think we were destine to be together.

I can't really say that knowing each other a long time makes a difference, I guess if you do, then you'll know more about each other when you get married. I think my husband and I dated for 5 mos. when we decided to get married. I knew without a doubt that he was the one, we were together more than we were apart, and whenever we had to be apart it was hard not seeing each other, we decided there was nothing else we could do but get married, that way we'd never have to say goodbye to each other. Whenever I told my mom, she wasn't surprised, she said she knew it was coming, she could see how we felt about each other. We've been married now for 6 yrs. and its been good, we're still having fun, and I think I've grown alot in the past six years, and we love each other more as the days go by, I'm very thankful.

me and my husband hv known each other for almost 3 yrs before we got married. its enough time to get to know each other. we had no plans. he just asked me that magical question one day and here we are 10 yrs married already and as if were just beginning our together always looking forward to what tomorrow has in store for us.

This will be an interesting discussion to go back and read!!! I dated my husband for 2 1/2 or 3 years I think before we got married. We've been married for 10 years and have 2 kids. I don't know which would be better.

I have been married to my wife for 22 1/2 years. We dated for 4 1/2 years before getting married. She is my best friend, my confidant, companion, lover, and soul mate. I tell people that we got the rough parts of being married over with before actually tying the knot! I do think that knowing the person whom you love and want to spend the rest of your life with for a longer time before the commitment, the marriage is stronger. There will be exceptions, of course. But my first wife and I were married for 10 years, after marrying only 6 months after meeting. But more important that the length of time dating and getting to know one another is the closeness of the friendship between the two people. If you are best friends to each other, marriage is just a natural extention of the friendship.

My hubby and me knew each other about 1 1/2 years before we married. During that time we had our ups and downs he even left for another girl and then came back. I guess that's what did it for him, because right after that we got married.

There are come couples who have lived an entire lifetime together and still not got to know each other at all. And there are those who understand each other in just a short time of relationship. I don't believe it is really a matter of TIME that is important, but how effectively the two people are able to reach out to each other's hearts and find themselves totally compatible and comfortable with each other. I knew my third wife only a few months before I decided - we both decided - that we were each others' soul mates that we have been waiting for our whole lives! Now that we are married, we both feel totally happy and completely content.

I like to hear you did not rush things. I am not married but I don't want to rush things either. How long people date definitely has a correlation between how long they stay together. I've been dating someone for a year and a half now and we are planning to dat for at least three more years and we are twenty-two. We are sorting out a lot of issues right now I think a lot of married couples never do in time. Hopefully we will know if we are reday and willing to still take th eplunge after tah tlong and working out a lot of stuff together yet separately.

I know my spouce 3 year back before my marriage.It helpd me a lot to create understanding with her..