thats a mans job...or thats a womans job....???

well in my house I am a single dad, so I do the lot cooking, cleaning, the trash, doing the kids washing ironning etc etc so I dont think it matters who does the jobs aslong as they get done. Happy easter.

I guess to us it's all about team work? It's good that hubby offered to take the trash out actually. We don't have a dishwasher here as it's not something that every household has. In fact I can't recall anyone having it here. Well, anyway, we just do the dishes without actually asking who's turn or that kind of stuff. As long as the job gets down in minimal time & everyone is happy. When I see taht my wife is too tired, then I'll help out & if she sees that I need to go out & do stuff then she'll be doing more of the stuff. So it's always vice-versa. The bottom point is we love to keep our home clean & tidy & we love to help each other out. If she's happy, I'm definitely most happy - it goes both ways!~

I don't feel that way. I think who ever can get to it can get the job done. I do dishes and take trash out. My fiance occasional does dishes but just the same takes the trash out. Its just about who gets to it.

Well in the household we don't look at it that way. We do our share of the household chores we both do the dishes vacume, take out the trash. I do the laundry he mops.

I like to cut the lawn and my husband feels it is "his" job. I like doing it because when I was a kid my dad never let me. we usually take turns with it. i too am home so i consider the housework to be my responsibility but when i return to work someday we will split some of it. my husband tends to call things "women's work" more than i do.

I agree, and for the most part, that is how me and my husband operate. We both work full-time and don't have any children yet, so we kind of switch back and forth. We have certain agreements, like, whomever cooks, the other one washes the dishes. Granted, I almost always cook dinner, but he cooks us breakfast on the weekends, so I clean up after that. He helps with laundry, he almost always does the vacuuming, while I almost always dust and clean bathrooms. I garden, and he takes care of the grass. The trash is a joint effort, because he is out of town a lot, so I am the one that gathers it all together and takes it to the curb when he is not home. I have to admit though, when hubby is supposed to fix something and doesn't get to it right away, I do find it irritating. Somethings I take into my own hands, others I just wait for him to get around to fixing it. One of my kitchen drawers didn't have the runners along the sides of it for the two and a half years we've been living in this house, and he finally showed me last week that he had fixed it! It only took him a couple of years to do about 10 minutes worth of work. :)

"I think what can get done by anyone in the house is how it should be...no matter who does it.... what about you??" I agree wholeheartedly. If there isn't a man around to take the trash out the trash isn't going to grow legs and take itself out. If there's isn't a woman around to do the cooking you're just not gonna eat. Chores are chores it doesn't matter who does them just as long as they get done by a man, woman, or child. Most people just want to live in a CLEAN, SAFE, and SOUND environment. Thanks for this discussion.

Even though men and women can basically do the same work, it's funny how some of us still live this way. And I admit, I'm one of them! Okay, so I avoid cooking when I can, but so does my husband! LOL However, it still applies to some of the other things we do. For example, I do the dishes, bathe the kids, buy the groceries, run errands, etc, whereas my husband mows the lawn, maintains our vehicle, brings home the bacon, etc. One thing that we tend to take turns on is the garbage. Neither of us want to do it, so some days he does it, while other days I do. Though lately I'm the one that puts the garbage in the trash can outside and my husband is the one that takes it out to the curb.

I know what you meant. It seems like most of the works in the houses are "defined" by should be get done by husband or wife. Like wife do cooking, laundry, kids shower etc, husband do cutting grass, fixing damage stuff etc. My hubby said the same thing when I take out the trash too, I think it is just fair to share all the works at the house, if my hubby is busy doing something or getting hurry to go to work, I don't mind to take out the trash in the morning for him as long as I'm capable to do that job, I don't really care because I know my hubby is not that kind of person that doing nothing at home.

I am like you, a stay at home mom, who does all the house work, and feel who ever can do it, does it. Why wait around for someone to do something I could have already had done and moving on to doing something else. But my husband, does the trash thing as well. He will see me pulling it out the trash can, and bagging it up to take out the back door, and he'll say, oh let me get that. I don't know if he does this to make him feel as if he's helping me out, or if he feels taking out the trash is totally a man's job. Who knows, I've never asked, but you bet'cha, I will when he get's home tonight, lol... Will update ya on his response! lol

i think we should fair to share all the housework. more and more person are working at the office for full-time, home will be give us warm and confortable, we should keep the house clean, while wife doing cooking, hubby watching laundry,that's a good idea. doing housework is good for health.

My husband helps out with everything around the house, the dishes, laundry, trash, cleaning, and yard. I am very fortunate to have such a great husband that I never take for granted because I have a friend that if her husband just puts his plate in the sink is a miracle for him.

I agree with you, I just had my baby two months ago and I also work full time and my husband helps me out alot when I dont have time. I think theyre shouldnt be any line drawn between who does what just as long as it gets done and everyone is happy.

This is the exact discussion we are having in my Gender Politics class. And the truth of the matter is socialization has lead people to believe only mothers can be the best at raising the children and the man is suppose to be the one working so therefore the mother has to stay in the house. Its not right and anyone can do the dishes, work, clean the house, etc. etc. etc. But... if a woman decides that plumbing is the thing her HUSBAND has to do and she can't go try to find a book or manual and fix it herself and complain, then I don't have any sympathy for her having to do "women's jobs"

Oh yes we do. Here in my house, there is specific jobs meant for each. My mom does the chores, cleaning, cooking. It would be the most weird thing if my dad does that anyday. As a matter of fact he only knows to boil water. on the contrary, even though my dad has his jobs, my mom can manage those if needed! I think she is dynamic and smart and she has no boundaries. She is great and we try to follow her foot steps.

I think from where I come from, using a dishwasher is a very rare thing. Lots of household still uses manual handwash for their dishes. I think if one day I have access $$ and can afford a dishwasher I would not purchase one even. Still prefer to handwash the dishes. I think this dishwasher thingy is not that common in Asian countries as far as I know. In my house, it's not the man's job or the woman's job but everyone's job as long as the job is done like taking out the trash. It would be either of us (my husband and me). Because we live in an apartment and the rubbish chute is like 5 minutes walk away, I would take it because I need to exercise so I would take it in the morning to throw and then go stair climbing up 16 floors and down on the other block (5 blocks altogether in my apartment area and ours is the furthest away from the rubbish chute) - this is a good motivation for me to exercise...LOL !!!! But at times when I feel lazy, I would just ask my husband to take it out when he goes out. But many times he would also just take it out without me having to tell him. as for the dishes, he would wash the dishes after we have lunch and I would be hanging the laundry. When he's busy and needs to go out then I would just do the dishes. recently he just did a whole day of fixing the lights and switches at our apartment which went bonkers. It's now all functioning well and i thank him for that cos that's not my area - not those wires and plier stuff............

In my house it does not come down to it's a mans job, or a womans job. It comes down to everyone working together to get it done, whether they are male or female. The trash is taken out by all of us, as are the dishes, clothes washing, and cleaning. That way everyone can say i know how to do that for myself.

Okay, so I am also a full time housewife and mom and I do all of the cleaning, cooking, kids baths and stuff too. I kind of feel like it is my duty. My hubby goes out and supports us financially so I maintain the household. However, if I need help with anything or Im not feeling well my husband will gladly pitch in. We dont really have specifically assigned duties, its just a given. I will say though that I may be a bit spoiled, I DO NOT take out the trash or pump my gas. Those are two things that I really despise. I mean I have had to do it on occasion. I wont just let trash sit in the house if the hubby is not home and obviously if Im on E I will pump the gas, but I prefer to leave those things up to my man. lol. But overall we are a team. We work together to keep things running smoothly.