Can there be attachment?

Well i agree with you. Arranged marriages are arranged and they are set up, though carefully picked, they still do not have any other forms of interaction by both the partners except what others say. A person should have the right to choose his/her own partner as he/she is the one living with them the rest of their lives. Arranged marriage is like...At a particular time you eat food, at a particular time you get up, at a particular time you reach office, coz you should and u r used to. So also, at a particular age you get married arranged by parents, coz you have to. But in love marriage, you get married, coz you want to ....

Hi, any generation including the new will agree Marriage is such a relationship which is built upon STRONG TRUST & Mutual Sacrifice.In LOve marraige Love exists before,U know the traits of each other and therefore adjustments are made accosrdingly.In Arranged marraige(generally fixed upon older generation's wisdom),Love &attachments start post-marraige.Partners unite again with sense od sacrifice,for the sake of Relationship building. No one is inferior or superior provided partners are having the ATTITUDE of building a Longterm Relationship based on Love,Trust,sacrifice,Patience etc. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

I'm not really sure. I do know that it would be hard to fall in love in an arranged marriage. You may not even be attracted to one another in any aspect.

In my humble opinion, many a times when two people enter into a relationship especially one such as an arranged marriage they have preconceptions or a close minded approach which in itself causes problems in a relationship later on, this is more likely to happen if one or both the partners have had a previous past relationship. As an example one may think that true love can only be found once (e.g as in your first relationship) then if you end up marrying someone else you never really or rather readily accept that person as your true love even if they deserve it. Another example may be that you enter the relation with expections based on your past relationship and if things don't measure up you just whine about the past rather that giving the present a chance. In simple words, both partners should keep an open mind and be willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.

I dont agree with you, It is not only logical but my experience also that arrange marriage are more stable and hence more attached. Can You believe that I dint saw my partner before the ring ceremony, even dint talk, But We are the one of happiest partner in the world. Our parents can not think bad about us, they are more experienced and definitely we can believe on them, In love marriage, If there are some clashes between partners then, They normally do not go their parents or relatives and It increases with time and finally divorce..... Divorce rate is more in love marriage, hence lesser attachments....

I do can`t accept this,if my family do such unmeaning things for me ,i must argue with them until they give up this idea.It is a free times,right?so we all have rights to choose we love,and enjoy our own freedom.

in arranged marraiges there develops bond or attachment between the parents and cousins ,in love marraiges it is not so,usually theeeeee bond is between the couples only.

That's a good question, but personally, I don't know. It all depends on the mentality that people have and how they choose to act and behave. Some people are more adaptable than others are. Some people are more tolerant and like new people easier than others do. So, I guess it depends on the people involved.

Why not?Attachment comes handy in arranged marriages too.Unlike past days,arranged marriages are fixed after having nods from the boys and girls before marriage.They accept each other only if they like.So,there will be love for each other in the starting itself and after a baby,they will be loving and attached more.Only love marriage people hurt each other with their egos.In arranged marriages,there are always elders to maintain the relation.Cheers!

yes, i agree withyou , it should be less thank love marriage.coz, the situation is always appear in my surroundings, i can see it!