Present at birth

Goodness, you definitely don't want them to make the room smelly & instead of them taking care of you, you have to take care of themI don't think you should feel guilty as she should respect you & if she feels hurt then she has to learn to handle & learn to accept a big "NO". Tell me about that, mothers are always mothers & sometimes they just go overboard as they don't know when to let go!~I'm not the disrespectful type but I can be very straightforward & stand on my grounds & decisions so sometimes I'll be labeled as "disrespectful" because our Asian culture just cannot learn to accept no especially the eldersIt's better you be down right honest rather than have to handle with all the non-essential pressure when you're in labour, as if that is not enough...

I can kind of see both sides. While I can see that you want to keep a calm surrounding I can also see where this may be something that a mother wants to share with a daughter...kind of like the whole planning a daughters wedding type thing. There really isn't an easy solution to it in your case, either you go on as planned and your moms feelings are hurt or you kick both of them out again or you let both of them in again. Personally if I was giving birth I know my Hubby wouldn't want to be in the room b/c he's of the old school where the men wait in the waiting room...I'd have my Mom in with me b/c I know two things: one is that it would be something that neither of us would ever forget and two that if anything went wrong she'd fight tooth and nail for me. Good luck with it. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]

just my ex...I don't think I would want anyone else there either..I think you already said it in the right way....you and the doctor and nurses will be too busy to take care of anyone else....

Dont feel guilty, it happens, I think if both are panic natured person , then dont take anyone inside the labour room. Dont worry doctors and nurses will take care of you and your baby.

When I had my youngest, my Mom and a close friend were at my side (the father wasn't present, or even able to be) and my Dad and my brother were in the room, but on the other side of a curtain. They couldn't see me, I couldn't see them, but they were still a part of it with me. In your situation, you did the right thing by being honest with your Mom. You need to feel as comfortable as possible when you are giving birth. It's ot like it is a comfortable thing to do to begin with. Tell her that she is more than welcome to be at the hospital, but you really want to share this experience with your husband alone. Tell her that you love her and want her to be at the hospital, but really want it to be just you and your husband in the delivery room. You shouldn't feel guilty because of how you feel.

Maybe, your mom is hurt. Because its natural for us mothers to take care of our children and to check if they are okay. So I guess your mom just want to be there to show her love to you. But maybe you can expalin to her that you love her but you don't want to see her panic.

If I were you, I will try not to make myself or even think badly and affect my decisions including this. I am sure you are thinking the best for everyone here. Besides, your decision is being made with proper understanding of everyone and you are not bias or selfish here. This is a childbirth and not some casual social gathering. You have every right to have who you want at your side and remember that your mother will understand your decision. She will definitely not harbor any ill feelings. Although she will feel disappointed, be assured that it is just temporary, like a passing shower it will subside. I wish your baby and you well.